As the new year approaches, what can you guys say about drinking?

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Hi!

I was a second year student until my anxiety issues started. Began with a panic attack at the cinema, I thought I was having a heart attack. From then I had crippling health anxiety and I was constantly fearful of dying. I had to drop out because this fear took over.

I was a very social student and went out at basically every opportunity. I'd get completely ruined in various ways and loved partying. Since this all started I'm scared of doing any of that again. The problem is when people ask me if I'm 'feeling better for it'. You have to say yes but the real answer is no, isn't it? If I had it my way I'd still be the stupid idiot I was six months ago. 

My counsellor has told me that these things were bolt-ons to my personality. However I have no idea who I was before my party life. And I have no idea who I am now. I have an identity crisis that I just can't shake.

I'm currently taking 50mg Sertraline daily and Propranolol before stressful times. This is helping the anxiety somewhat but I've now started resigning myself to the idea that I'm never going to be a normal young person again. This is making me feel very down. I start my first full-time job on Friday and while everyone's telling me that I'll get better I have a depressive nostalgia that seems stuck to me.

I want to be able to get drunk again, I want to be able to enjoy the things I used to without worrying anymore. I want to be able to party again like I used to.

Does anyone know what I mean? Can anyone relate? It sounds like I'm being an idiot but surely this makes sense to some degree?

Cheers for reading guys,

H.

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    Sorry to hear what you're going through. I'm currently a 2nd year student and my anxiety has all come on at the click of a finger about 2 months ago. I used to go on uni nights out a lot and haven't been out once since it all started. Mine is more social anxiety and some days is so bad I don't get out of bed. I just want us to be better sad happy new year x
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      Hi Weeasy,

      Yeah man, it sucks. I think once the SSRIs have settled I'm just gonna start sipping pints again and gauge it according to how I'm feeling. I used to smoke waaaaaay too many cigarettes as well. Funnily enough I miss smoking! Been quit like 3 months now. 

      I am sorry to hear you're not great though. Have you been to the doctor? Gotten counselling? Any medication?

      Thanks for replying, look forward to hearing from you,

      H.

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    Hi haz, I also have exactly same problem. But I am slowly getting over it. To day I went to a new year party. Ate every possible unhealthy things smile , didn't drank since I have quit it since a few months but danced madly for about an hour and enjoyed every bit of the party. I am telling you this because not more than a month ago I was exactly in a mind state like you. Can't enjoy anything and wanted my old self back. But I decided that it is only anxiety and I will get over it. Just last week I had 4 days holidays in mountains and had trackings, wandered here and there whole day and had a lot of fun. I still have a symptom or two left in me related to heart problems but I don't give a sh*t about them anymore and do everything I want to do. Since I have had all the medical support previously and they found nothing wrong in me and now I believe its only anxiety. 

    What I want to say is that if I can get almost past it in a month, why can't you ???? Don't lose hope thinking that its impossible. Its only your mind which convinced you in a few days that you have some serious problem then again if you try hard, you can convince your mind to accept that its only anxiety and you can get past it in few days. 

    I am not saying that you will get over it so fast. It can take some days to dew weeks or say even months. The symptoms of disease may vanish or cone and go time and again. But what's important is that you keep faith in yourself and don't lose hope of getting well. Eventually you will get over it soon. 

    Think over it that is it not worth to give a try if you can get back to old you even it takes a few weeks of time and hard work for your mind.

    Summing it up .... You must not lose hope and immediately decide that whether you want to live your rest of life like this or want to get back to normal. Just be strict to your good thoughts in mind. Don't freak out with physical symptoms.

    You must read the discussion named "health anxiety" on this forum and you will find a no. Of other people with exactly same problem and feelings as you and that you are not alone and its very common. You can also google about health anxiety. But don't google your symptoms. Googling right things only is very important ... He he he...

    After reading my long reply you should know that each bit of your post made sense and you were not idiot to write this post.

    All the best and hope to listen that you recovered soon. Cheers and happy new year....

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    Dear haz, I so understand how you are feeling, you are in mourning for that fun life you used to enjoy.. you are still very young and feel that you will be missing out..

    My situation was different, but with the same end result.. I had a terrible alcohol problem and had no choice but to give up, I was near death... for years and years I found it very difficult to cope with the change in my lifestyle, however now. My life is so much better, I am sober I feel healthy, no more hangovers lasting week after week...

    You will adapt to your new lifestyle, and in the future you will enjoy it I promise you... I wish you well. Deirdre, xx

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      Deirdre,

      The only problem is in regards to my circle of friends and how I used to be this is a form of social death, as it were. I'm spending NYE with my grandmother because I just don't want to be around people enjoying the beer they're drinking. Funnily enough, it makes me jealous.

      I'm glad you got through your problems though, it's wonderful to hear. As someone with a family member still suffering from the same issue it brings me joy to hear that it can be beaten.

      Best wishes,

      H.

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    Dear haz, you could try going out with your friends and not drink as much as you used to.... you can still enjoy life, I always found A DRINK,....A CIGARETTE...AND GOOD COMPANY an amazing night out...

    You could go out on a nice sunny weekend to a country pub, it does get easier not to drink too MUCH, I promise.... you can have your life back but just toned down a notch or to... I wish you a happy, wonderful and hopefully fun new year ( but controlled fun ) love and big motherly hugs to you ... Deirdre xxx

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    Yes I use to love to party! But had to stop after my 2nd DUI. That's when my anxiety and panic took over, now I'm scared to drink in fear that my anxiety will be out of control I don't know why I feel that way I just do. I don't want to go back to drinking like I use to but I do want to go out and enjoy myself. And I hate that no one understands this anxiety and panic that I'm going through. They say "well it'll end when you want it to" I think to myself you MFS you think I like this? I hate it how others don't understand what we go through 
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    Hi to Liz.. and had...

    Try to drink in safety. Keep well away from cars..I always, always drank at home, apart from the odd occasion when two lovely policeman took me home after I was found asleep? In a park not far from where I live... if you only drink at home you tend not drink less and it is easy to go to bed... you will both get there I promise.. ( I never drank until I was forty, then ten years of absolute madness,.. four sections... anorexia. Kidney failure, liver and heart damage... I was two weeks away from death.. four times !!!!). Never give up HOPE, drink safely and try to cut down SLOWLY love to you both... big hugs...😊😆😃 DEIRDRE Anne xxx

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    Alchohol in the long run makes all anxiety worse. I ve seen it countless times and its strange but it certainly does. 
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    Hi Haz, best advise I can give is to have an agreement with yourself, like a contract, that you will enjoy a drink but you won't get to the point of bring hammered.

    So go to the parties and social events and drink to the point where you know you've reached your agreed limit.

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