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Hi Ladies, its been a long time since I have been here and a lot of bad news to report. My husband died of lymphoma in October. He was complaining of feeling bad begining in Feb. Finally got diagnosed with lymphoma. Its been horrible. The only real peace I have is that he is no longer suffering. But, dealing with his illness and still perimenopause which I am not comparing peri to his lymphoma, I AM NOT. I am still dealing with all the symptoms and my anxiety is now off the charts. I have everything in the 66 symptoms except the period issues, I had a hysterectomy 16 years ago. I have now weird feelings in my face and slight swelling.. I went to the E.R about it they said its not a stroke some sort of allergies or they dont know. I read where facial weirdness is another symptom, but I see the Dr. Tuesday its not painful but irratating.  The hot flashes are horrible and I still have horrible joint pain, its now in my lower back which is extremely painful.  I am so depressed I dont know what to do. I cant believe my hubby is gone. Its just like a nightmare that never really ends.   I had to come back to you guys for support. Thanks 

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    Sorry for your loss an i can only imagin hw u feel i really do nt knw wat to say other than try not to stress an stay calm i totally cannot an truly feel your situation but i pray u get the strenght to pull through all this ..
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    lenie, you are a saint to have done if life altering experience, and also deal with these personal symptoms.

    I hope you get some answers soon.  Please let us know how you are doing and what you find out.

     

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    Lenient

    Oh sweetie, first off I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. It must be very hard losing your partner and support person when you yourself are dealing with peri. Anxiety seems to be something we all have in common and I believe all the crazy symptoms and no definitive answers are behind it.I went to ER on Dec 27th thinking I was having a heart attack. Turned out to be nothing g but 2 of the cardiac nurse practioners said that hormones really can mess a woman up. I actually found that reassuring. It's nice only getting period every few months instead of monthy. I hope you find that reading these bogs help. The hormone changes are to blame. Take care and God bless!

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    Lenie,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Words are not enough. Stay strong

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    Lenie,

    I lost my husband to ALS Jan 16th 2015 :-( I know how you feel! I feel so alone and then this nightmare of hormones that seem to be NO end too. I have a 22 year old son robbing me blind since the death of my husband he lives home with me I feel so TRAPPED! I have two special needs children at home one with Autism and the other with HD she has two permanet colostomies and fistula and a host of health issues which keeps me scared silly and she wont see a doctor she is 21 My son who has autism will be 13 Wednesday. Sinces my husband long illness with the most horrible disease known to man I gained way over 100 pounds no support from family so I just feel like a BIG FAT  HUGE PIECE OF BLOB! Anxiety through the roof and no one to talk to except the ladies here. I prayed today while trying to do little over a mile on my stationed bike in living room if God woiuld take my hand and help me get a life back! I fight depression with everything in me. I'm trying my very best to find hope and strength to somehow pull through some of this. I'm trying to get through the winter and pray the Lord helps me figure out how to get a place for me and Jacob and somehow get away from my 22 almost 23 year old son using me and stealing from me, at the same time I feel so sorry for him he's 6'3 and weighs rougly 500 pounds so its not like I can displine him he has no place to go but yet I can't keep dealing with all the issues he is causing me even his cyber girlfriend was shopping in CA with my CC way before I knew what all was going on! He somehow got 586$ out of my checking account and snealks and adds hisself to my cc  and steals mine and runs them up and the dreaded list goes on I know I have to do something but just have to wait for an open door and wisdom to know what to do. These horrible hormone symtoms just makes everything even harder to deal with. I havent been out of the house in quite awhile because the weather has been horrible cold here in kentucky. I keep telling myself you can do this and God will help me.

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    My condolences for the loss of your husband. The effects of perimenopause and your tingling sensations will go away on their own, unfortunately not soon enough. I had the same issue it went away after a few months with off and on sensations. Things will get better just take it one day at a time.
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    My God - my heart is literally breaking for you. I wish I could more than just sit behind a keyboard and tell you that. Your suffering puts so much into perspective for me that I feel I have no right to complain - but then none of us on here 'complain' - we share our stories and give strength and support and lots of advice to each other. We are a community of our own and you are part of this community. You are not alone in this and, while we may not have experienced your pain, we will be there to offer support. To begin with I offer you my prayers and the tightest and warmest hug I can send you. Reach out and feel our love surround you. XXXX

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    So sorry for your loss. Im not on here very often but one thing for sure there are some great ladies on here. Dont know the words to make you feel better but you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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    I wish i could wrap my arms around you, hug you. There are no words to describe how i feel for you. Know this, all the girls here are sending you love and support. Our prayers and best wishes hopefully will give you strength, life does  send us some trials and tribulations that we have to endure. Take each day as it comes, cherish the happy times you shared with your man. Be kind to yourself, ask for help, dont suffer in silence.

    I will ask the Angels to help you and guide you.

    Healing hugs to you 😘

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    I am sorry for your loss. <3

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    First of all (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) to you my love My thoughts and prayers go out to you my lovely on the loss of your husband I havent gone through that but I know one day i could my cousin lost her husband of 42 years on saturday. This peri/menopause totally stinks to go through grief alone is bad enough but to go through the menopause doubly stinks. I went through a very dark period for about 8 months I suffer from anxiety and depression but this time it was worse I kept feeling my time was up I couldnt stop crying and yes i have had the 66 symptoms, but when you are down anyway it intensifies those symptoms and feelings. this is a fantastic page for support as you know. I am now in a good place I have had therapy im on a/ds and i have good support from my family and friends do you have support around you? im not saying it will make it better because grief has no time limit? please take the love and support of the group we are all here for you even if it is from a keyboard x
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    I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. Hormones make everything more difficult to deal with and emotional pain in turn creates physical symptoms. So altogether you are going through a very, very tough period of your life. Keep coming to us for support. Thinking of you. xx

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