Bad anxiety.. Help?

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Hello I'm new to this,

It's a long story that I'll cut as short as I can. 3 years ago I lost my Mum to cancer, and this week I lost my Grandad to cancer too, I was very close to both of them.

When my mum died I developed anxiety, I'd have panic attacks, my head would feel tight, I couldn't breathe, I even developed health anxiety, I am constantly checking myself to see if there is anything wrong with me. About 2 weeks ago, I was half asleep and I just heard random words, but nobody was there? This woke me up completely and I began to panic and thought I had skitzofrenia. I rang my doctor and he put it down to stress and anxiety. I really want to be rid of anxiety and live a happy life. Can anyone give me any advice or has anyone been in a similar situation?? Just so I know I'm not going crazy lol.

Thank-you.

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    Hi Aby

    First of all I am so sorry for your loss.  Re anxiety I hate it, I developed it for the first time about 3 months ago and it wears me out. I believe its a time thing.   I hope you get rid of it and if you do post here and let the rest of us know how you did it pse.

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    I am so sorry for your loss. I developed terrible anxiety after my mother passed away as well. I was so afraid that I was going to die also. It's normal to get down and anxious during times of stress. Talking about it is a great way to get support and it could go away on its own with time and mindfulness. If it's getting in the way of your life, see your doctor. Keep posting so we can keep supporting you!
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      Thank you. It's the most awful thing in the world, I never realised how bad anxiety really is. People tell you to "snap out of it" but as you will know yourself it really isn't that easy.

      I'm sorry to here about your Mum, it feels like there is no end with anxiety. But hopefully there will be, I don't want it to keep taking over my life. X

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    Hi fellow newbie here =)

    As a fairly long term sufferer, I've learnt that it never really goes away, you just have to learn to keep on top of it.

    As you've already spoke to your GP I suggest going back and asking if they can refer you for some counselling as it sounds like you've had a lot of trauma recently.

    Also I think it would be a good idea to find a creative outlet, make yourself a safe space where you can relax and redirect any anger or anxiety.

    I completely understand what you're going through, I've been in a similar situation and being able to talk about it really does help.

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      Hello Ally,

      It really is a horrible illness, I have trouble accepting that I'm "ill". I dont want to believe it, but I want rid of anxiety and to be able to live a happy life. It weighs me down so much on a day to day basis. I was getting back on track then when my Grandad became ill I went down hill again. I have spoken to my doctor and I am going to counselling thank you so much for your response. Keep in touch, and I hope you get better soon. smile

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    Hi abi,Your not going crazy! Anxiety and stress are not easy.I have been like this for many years.Have you tried reflexology or aromatherapy? Both very good for stress and anxiety.Also try and treat yourself to a jacuzzi! Regards Amanda
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      Hello Amanda,

      Thank you for your message. I'm very greatful of your response, there is nothing worse than feeling like your going crazy. Sometimes you need people to tell you that you're fine. I haven't tried these, are they good? It's gone on for too long now I just want to get myself better instead of worse.

      I wish you good luck with your anxiety too, let me know how you keep getting on. It will be good to speak to someone x smile

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    Hi Abi, yet another sufferer here...Ive got real bad health anxiety and i can,t eat and got no appetite, it,s the worst ive ever been.. and i,m always checking my self constantly for things wrong with me..it,s a complete nightmare.. i really hope we can all find a cure for this terrible illness..best wishes..
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      Thank you for your reply Julia,

      It really is the worst thing. I currently have no appetite, but I have recently found out that I am pregnant too :-( with everything that is going on at the minute I'm unsure if it is the right thing for me, I feel terrible saying that. But I'm still coping with losing my Mum, now my Grandad and I don't know if i would be able to cope with a baby as I have really bad anxiety.. Could anyone give me some advice? I am still young and have never Reay had ant experience with babies. My head is a mess. I hope you get better soon. Keep in touch please x

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    Hello abi,

    I am very sorry for your loss. I know it's tough. My story is somewhat similar to yours. I was very close to my aunt and she was diagnosed with lunch cancer when I was 8. She passed away shortly after. That's when my anxiety began. I had many panic attacks and physical symptoms. My chest would feel tight, my stomach would hurt, and I'd get the worst headaches. Any little symptom I got, I'd think I have cancer. If not cancer, then some other major problem and I always thought I was going to die. It just takes time for it to go away. I'm 22 now and my anxiety has came back because my grandpa now has liver cancer. I went to the ER twice these past two days (I wrote a discussion here about it) and I was convinced I had a brain tumor because of the horrible headaches. I got a CT scan and an MRI w/ contrast and they both came back clear. For now, it's time for me to get back on my feet and let myself know that yes, these physical symptoms in feeling are my anxiety. I'd suggest you do the same abi, anxiety is a horrible mental disorder especially when it revolves around your health. Anxiety can make your brain do whatever it wants, even hear voices that aren't really there. It can cause pain and the more you worry about it the worse the symptoms will become. Stay calm, get distracted and it will soon pass, I promise

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      Thank you so much for your reply. It really sounds like you understand what I am going through.. As you will know yourself, it's not easy to snap out of this, It's possibly one of the hardest things ever.. Seeing other people live normal lives is so hard, as I can't do it. Are you currently getting counselling for this? Any advice would be helpful. I just want us all to get better and be happy. I know it won't happen over night. Trying to stay calm isn't easy as you will know. Good luck to you and keep intouch please, it will be good to speak to you. X
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