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jan72669
jan72669

I have been diagnosed with herpes today feel horrid I have a child too and feel I have let her down I have been with this guy a couple of months after a marriage break up and this guy hasn't even got herpes and I may have rewend his life I didn't even no I had it in my body he said he has been checked and he is clear and has never had it i feel so embarrassed I feel for him I do I have only ever been with my husband for 5 years had a little girl split up with him and only been with this guy 2 months and now have these and he has swore it's not from him ?? I have been going on a date with a new guy how will I tell him I have these feel horrid

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  • april55901
    april55901 jan72669

    Posted

    I am sorry about your diagnosis. I can only imagine how scared you are. I wouldn't worry too much about telling the new guy anything just yet. Take some time to see if he is worth it.

    And you haven"t let your daughter down. Just the fact that you thought of her first shows me that you are a good mother and HSV will not change that.

    I know it is hard but just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

  • Trucker1
    Trucker1 jan72669

    Posted

    Well that guy could have it and not know it...some have it but no symptoms...or your ex could have it...idk...myself I feel like I was given a death sentence..hang in there and text me anytime
  • Takenc
    Takenc jan72669

    Posted

    Hello I feel what your going threw I have two kids and feel like I've let them down too. I found out I have herpes2 a month ago. And I still haven't told my bf. I still don't understand how I could've gotten it. Trust me your not alone ! On September I have to go do an std test again but I know this time my blood will show positive. Let's get threw this together.

  • Lollypop01
    Lollypop01 jan72669

    Posted

    I feel the same Hun, I have 3 children and feel I have let them and myself down, and also my partner if we continue our relationship.

    A stupid drunken mistake has left me with this!

    Some days I feel good and optimistic and most days I just wonder how I will ever have a relationship again!

    It has helped reading and researching though, it had made me feel that maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel.....

    I haven't had sex since I found out, I'm going to try and wait a good 6 months to get over the most infectious stage.....then that gives me time to see how many outbreaks I have and the symptoms I get before a outbreak, then at least I will know when I need to steer clear of intercourse!

    I am trying to eat well, I already go to the gym daily and I've just started taking immune system boosting vitamins....

    Good luck and this site is great for advice or just a sounding board if ur worried xx

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus jan72669

    Posted

    If you never had symptoms the whole time you were married, but developed symptoms after this new guy, I would put my money on it being the new guy. He can be a carrier, and how does he know that he isn't? Most people don't get tested for herpes, because it's not routine. If you only recently had your first outbreak, do the IgG (not IgM) antibody test for herpes. If you have yet to turn positive, then it's the new guy. If positive, then you've had it for at least 3 months, possibly years.

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