Being lied to for years

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Hi my name is Princess I want to share a story with you guys listen closely.

September 5, 2010 I thought that i met the love of my life , as of that time I was 18 years old. My now ex boyfriend was 23 years old at the time we were together 4 long years. January 1, 2011 it was a friday night we had gotten really close and then he took my virginity I had been a virgin for 18 long years. When I let my virginity go that was a huge mistake and then on the first time we didnt even use protection how could i be so nieve.

Next I remember us spending the night at a motel 6 everything was perfect until the next morning when we where about to leave I recieve a strange phone call for my boyfriend. I passed him the phone , I thought maybe the girl was his sister or a family member . I ask who was that he told me nobody I want to say about 7 months in our relationship I found out that he had been with a women and living with her for the past 5 years but me and him had been together for about a year ,and my feelings had got involved.

Then so I finally decided to stay with him and look past the drama for a while . He never told me that he was with anybody he told me that he was single . I thought that we where together . So about a 5 months later the girl and finally left .I never knew that they were living together he always met me downtown now finding out those were his friends condos and never was his. After that he started telling me that he was going to spend the night at his home girls house . I started finding sex videos of him and other women while he was physical with me.

September 28 ,2013 I was at work and I notice that I started smelling a little funny down there . I was thinking maybe I wasnt cleaning well . I started taking longer bathes and after 2 hours of bathing my body smell like I havent took a bathe in days , One week later I notice a thin clear pale yellow discharge kept running out of me . Guess what ????I thought maybe it was a yeast infection and I notice that the discharge wa leaking through my panties very stronge after having a conversation with my bestfriend she suggested that i needed to go to the hospital I did , Thirty minutes later my results were back in the physian told me i have Trichomonsias and that they were going to put me on a 7 day Flage medication and I had to take a stroid shot. Well I told my boyfriend his words was '' Is it curable''? I told him yes .

Later I started having Sypthoms of thick white discharge looks like yeast infection ,itching ,burning ,tingling sensation , and hurts bad when I tried to take a bathe . I went back to the hospital they kept checking for trichomonis ,gonderra , and clymida always came back negeative , all along I thought i was cured . January of 2014 I got the big std test hiv ,gonderra ,clymida, heptiats, syphills and I never recieved a call back I felt relieved on the inside . Novemeber of 2014 I started having the same sypthoms again and now this time I started looking down there with a mirror and there were little round red things at the bottoms of my gentials that itch, burn and had mad pain everyday I told myself that I had too go to the doctor again. The nurse pratiction she look down there she said these are baby blisters immediatley I lost it and she told the RN to go and get the herpes swabb test and and swabb the blister I never recieved a phone call back she told me that it was herpes I didnt believe it so I went immediately to a different emergency room . You know what the other MD told me the same thing without even testing that I had herpes simplex 2 I also found out the I was carrying herpes and Trichomonias at the same time .The first time the MD forgot to check for herpes. The one that they had forgotten was the one that came up postive . I was put in the psy zone for atleast 4 hours until my grandparents found me .

The next day I called my ex boyfriend and told him all he said was "Im going to call you back im eating my food " I called him back later that day he never answer the phone . Then when we finally talk he was saying you better not tell anyone I never even got a sorry or anything , after knowing im herpes positive he has been avoiding me I tries to call him he want answer the phone anymore I never been with another man a day in my life here I am at age 22 is herpes positive you can carry a disease and never know it .I do remember back in january of 2012 I started having flu syptoms I couldnt walk , my grandothe had to bathe me I missed 7 days of work I never had the flu a day in my life I think the herpes virus came reactive I still dont know how long have I had herpes. Now everyone you tal to you have to be honest about the situation.

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    Hi princess. I'm so sorry you've had all this because of loving someone that never deserved you. I thank you for sharing your experiences because it helps to be able to get it out and not be judged by others x you sound like a very strong woman and I admire you. I have just found out last night that my ex is still trying to pick up women and isn't declaring his hpv2.I can't protect the women or potential victims he's preying on and its making me so angry.I genuinely care about others so I will have to have "the talk" if I ever meet someone I can see a future with and its frightening ..although at the moment I'm frightened to get intimate with anyone xx look after yourself and be healthy x if anyone deserves happiness you do you're a good person x
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      Hi chastity thanks so much and if you have a man like that run and I mean run . Get out the situation it will only get worst I feel you on the intimate part . I havent been physical since I left the hospital 11/11/2014 im scared and he has been trying to have sex with me I want let it happen I do feel like if we keep making those mistakes it can only get worst and dont let him make you angry be independent and move on and focused on yourself you will accomplished way more .
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      I dumped him like hot coal when he blamed me and pretended he only had 1 sexual partner b4 me and wanted to ignore me. I went through it alone and now his brothers gf is having the same symptoms I did...it seems the Apple doesn't fall from the tree .they are both doing this to women.he wanted me back and I told him no as I hate him ..x be strong .walk away you deserve to be loved by a man x it's not that bad honestly xx
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      I wish I could be like you sometimes i miss him and or you positive too? do you have simplex 2?
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      Yes I am positive. I'd rather be alone than lonely in a relationship sad . Don't settle .you are worth ten of Ur partner...he doesn't deserve you.I know Ur thinking I dont know him like you do but that's all the more reason to let him go and focus on you.you've gone through some horrifying experiences because of your love for him sad you don't want to hear this I'm sure you get it all the time.what I will say is this.. make new friends ..you're young .don't waste Ur youth.New friends don't need to know about Ur condition but a new sexual partner does.the more of a life you live for yourself the clearer your situation will become x please do this x you'll get your confidence back instead of being reminded of it 24/7 with this guy xxx much love to you xx
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      true my ive lost alot money and life in behide him after I havent been talking to him well last week I just bought me a brand new camaro ls 2015 when I was talking to him i didnt have anything and Im college student studying forensic science he did nothing with his life
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      You are a legend!!! Well done you.put that loser in your brand new rear view mirror... Kick up some dust and never look back smile ps...if forensic science helps you hide evidence from a "murder" then great choice of career wink xx lol
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      Yes im trying my hardest to move forward and you should 2 have your ex be avoiding you too?
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      He did but I told him to get lost.I met him online and after chatting for a month or so we met up.I was lonely and he seemed nice and because he lives far away I said I'd stay over..I would have stayed with him for the wrong reasons and I could so easily have gone through more pain and scares like you did.I'm so glad that I wasn't as emotionally invested as you were because I probably would have done exactly the same as you sad the only good thing to come from this is I'm helping his brothers ex girlfriend go through this so she isn't alone like I was xx
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      I do understand how hurt you are and its weird how we need to cling to the person that infected us. But it's more a case of who will want me now.I'm not the only woman thinking this and that's how I'm coming to terms with it.we aren't dirty or bad people we are just trusting or naieve or even ignorant.I have spoken to a lovely man on here who is going through what we are and he is upset and feels the same way sad
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      Wow i wonder how old you are you are very mature and adult about your situations and I do need to learn not to get so emotionlly attached,
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      Lol xx I'm 40!! I make old mistakes over and over and a few new ones along the way.dating doesn't get any easier I'm afraid. My advice is trust nothing a potential new partner says about his sexual status.insist on a sti and blood test b4 you sleep together and wear a condom.never give or receive oral when blisters are present and no I haven't put that into theory yet but I sure as Hell will from now on xx your safety is number 1 always ...people lie whether from embarrassment,shame, guilt or fear of rejection ..others are unaware or don't care xx
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      no wonder you know so much well my boyfriend told me he was clean he had nothing every time i do pop up with a std hes always quite about the situation I think he had herpes the hold time like right now I hav elesions there and no medication at all
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      Are you in pain? Do u know what to do? X denial is great at ruining people's lives isn't it sad xx
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      I just want the doc to give me valtrex or acoyalvir but they keep saying I need to be seen why do I need to be seen when they know that I have herpes And I dont know what to do but im on fire down there
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      Dilute urine by drinking extra water .apply Vaseline to protect Skin.I use cold sore cream on any sores because it's exactly the same as Dr gave me n can be brought anywhere.
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      Short replies cus dodgy internet keeps wiping answers!! Use vitamin e and c .. look at feel brokens replies to others as she has amazing knowledge or message her direct.she's very helpful . As for the burning as gross as it sounds I use tissue soaked in very cold water and hold it there.works with easing the itching from thrush but apparently tea bags work too.I'd keep some in the fridge to use when you need them.as for the antivirals can you demand repeats as you know your own body or see the Dr and request an extra prescription for future use? If not try a new drs as this is costly and unfair x
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      I'm sorry if I'm not much help but please don't get too worked up as it makes it worse x
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      Herpes can look like thrush because thrush burns..causes itching and a white or creamy discharge but that can happen because of taking anti biotics or using scented products down below or by wearing tight jeans etc cotton undies help because they allow skin to breathe. Thrush is basically a year infection caused by an imbalance of the good and bad bacteria.
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      Ps thrush is not serious but can be passed to and fro between partners so if one has it it's best to both be treated to stop reinfecting each other x
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      My comment on thrush was just an example because it also itches. Canisten cream can be bought with out a prescription and eases the burning and itching but isn't a solution for herpes but may aid discomfort for a short time but check with a pharmacist or Dr first I don't want to wrongly advise you. I thought I had thrush when I was diagnosed with hsv2 so you can understand why Ur go needs to "see" Ur problem first hand xx
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      * yeast infection not year x
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      i feeel so doomed and sad now my bf he doesnt even want me any more and hes the one gave me this virus what do i do?

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