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Breaking up in herpes relationship

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jay57455
jay57455

I was diagnosed with HSV about a year and a half ago, first OB really bad, in the first year had about 6 OB, changed my diet up etc and I havent had one for 9 months yaaay..... till now sad

So I was in a relationship for the past year, got diagnosed whist in the relationship about 3 months in, she was good about it and said she didnt care, we had protected sex all the time, oral without, she has no symptoms to date.

Although this girl is caring, loving, accepts the herpes I dont see a future with her as I dont feel she is the right girl for me, tbh I knew this for a while but I suppose I stayed with her because she accepted me for the herpes. I recently broke up with her like 6 weeks ago as I thought I cant lead her on and I cant stay with her just because I have herpes, at then end of the day its not fair on her.

So been single for 6 weeks tbh even though it was my descision I have been down about the break up wondering if I have made a mistake etc, partying alot normal break up sh*t any ways a few days ago get an OB and its preety bad 5 separate lesions all quite far apart .... ffs...... which is fine I put it down to stress of break up and drinking smoking etc, end of the day I went 9 months withoput an OB so thinking I'll do it again next time and get to 12 months no OB.

But its getting me really down thinking that I left someone that accepted it, I mean im gonna have to go through the whole telling the new person about it stuff and makes me think if I should get back with my ex, but at the same time I think I cant just get back with her because of that, she deserves better than that. Its a really confusing time sad

Im just after a bit of advice from similar situations from you guys?

 

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus jay57455

    Posted

    I've not been in that situation, but I agree that you shouldn't stay with someone just because they accept you for herpes. You should stay because you like them enough to stay. Herpes should not be part of the equation, but I appreciate the predicament. That is very honest of you to do what you did, btw. Honest with yourself and her, even though it hurts on some level. My two cents, anyway.
    • jay57455
      jay57455 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply, Im trying to overlook the whole herpes thing tbh I am over it but wen I get an OB it brings all these doubts back but it will heal and next time I will go longer without an OB smile
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus jay57455

      Posted

      Good attitude! Yeah, recurrences are a frustrating reminder, but they go away, then it's like you don't have anything again, so why give H more attention than it deserves!
  • jack59766
    jack59766 jay57455

    Posted

    You did the right thing by ending the relationship, stay strong. You shouldn't be with someone based o them accepting you for herpes or not
    • jay57455
      jay57455 jack59766

      Posted

      Thnaks for your input easing my mind abit more now smile
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