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im a 21 year old male , just compelted thh second year of university the hardest of my life. Let me explain throughout first year my nose was scared in a accident , As the knows is cartalige it was a keloid scar which people know looks horribly and disfigured although after 3-4 dermatology operations i was becoming my old self. From february to october november first year of living in halls of dealing with people i hardly know on a day to day basis getting judged and hearing conversations of what the hells that on his nose. Im so proud i overcame this. Im now in a relationship, football team and love life. a month a go i was at a friends leaving party. I had drank to much and fallen asleep on the sofa where i awoke to my forehead being on fire, i dont know if it was on purpose or some sick joke but i never received an apology and ive never truley woken up from that day. but im in the worst whole of my life again. I cant think straight, do day to day activites, ive thought about getting a knife and cutting the person up who did this to me or shooting him before i take my own life. My face is horribly damaged and the thoughts are worse than ever as i hate doctors who dont take you seriously or cant actually offer you help. Ive visit the same dermatologist to help although its compeltely differnt this situation. My life was in birmingham now im back home and the anxiety is beyond belief returning to birmingham. Im heading away with my girlfriend who im so scared to see in a week and ive told her about it although she said she doesnt care i know she will which is why my last relationship eneded. Every morning i rattle with anger punching things , scared, insecure, helpless. feeling like a burden on my mum who ive put through so much as i try to explain how i feel but she wont understand. Without her i wouldnt of lasted this far and now i really dont see any hope for me. The packet of drugs are right there and to take 30- 40 in 2 mins seems so easier than being with my girlfirend traveling the world when im so frightend to walk to the shop 5 mins away as i get horrible comments. Please advise me on something , theres not much that can be said i understand but right now im at rockbottom , i feel the presuure , ive quit my job , football team and i think uni and my gf are next .. then my life can end or i can the end the person whose done this to me just to have some peace or something
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karen76745 ryan66681
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peter2824 ryan66681
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I am very glad to tell you that there is help out there. You just need to be pointed in the right direction. Think hard about what you are thinking about doing. Make a retrospective assault case against these people. Shooting them or knifing them is not going to make them suffer. A year in jail with a criminal record will sort them out. Being kicked out of Uni if they were the ones that did this to you.The thoughts of suicide in this kind of problem are all to common. Please for the sake of your family, friends even your girl friend. She sounds like a brick, someone who loves you for what you are. Let her help you when she can. Allow her to get near you and don't push her away like the other one. Hold on to her and don't let go.
If you are going to continue having plastic surgery the out come might not be perfect but the Red Cross cosmetic disfigurement team could help you to mask the problem to your face by teaching you how to camaflague it. Thanks for seding such a sensitive story to the forum. You will have many more posts, some from people who have been adversly affected by the type of problem you have now and face for sometime to come. Best regards Peter.
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hypercat ryan66681
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I do know what I am talking about as I had very severe acne as a teenager which has left me with scars and pits in my skin to this day.
There are several points I want to make from my own experience
1. It looks far worse to you than others.
2. Do what you can to improve the damage ie I had 2 dermatologies on my skin in the past which has improved it quite a lot.
3. I am female and men judge women on their looks a lot more harsly than men are judged. Woman are judged at value of face and men at face value.
4. Any woman worth her salt will see beyond that to the lovely caring man you are. Lots of men are put off by a woman's disfigurement but women tend to be more accepting.
5. People will make nasty remarks - I have had too many to count and ok it does hurt but the more you show a reaction the more they will do it.
6. I say things to people like 'Well you are no oil painting are you?' or 'Well these are battle scars - what's your excuse?'
7. The more you worry and concentrate on it the more people will take the mickey.
8. In life you have to change what you can and accept what you can't.
9. Don't let it make you bitter - what's the point in that?
10. It is not worth spending your life in jail for or killing yourself over it. You only have 1 life and it's yours to live how you choose to.
I hope this helps a bit love. Bev x
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caroleUJ62 ryan66681
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Then - or rather as well - asap, get some therapy to help with this, as you really do need some.
Lots of luck. It sounds really horrible, and I know you think you cant pull through this, but honestly, you can.
kellyzboyz ryan66681
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I realize it's easier said than done, I do get that! Are there any local support groups in your area? Don't give up! Remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and the best revenge is success! You want to be here when karma comes around! It always does sooner or later!
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