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Can't make friends

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mikayla23417
mikayla23417

I'm in college and sometimes I feel like I have no friends. Some days when I don't have class I''ll just sit in my room on the computer. I eat a lot of meals by myself. I do have friends. I am on a sports team and friends with a lot of people on the team, I am just not close with any of them really. I don't have a really close group of friends or a best friend. I never really have and I don't understand why. Does anyone else feel like this?

I don't get how to get close to someone. I feel like everybody has close friends already and it's hard to get close to anyone new. How do you even make a best friend? Or get in a squad? In general there are some people that I meet that I wouldn't want to be friends with, but even people I really hit it off with seem to already have close friends and I'm afraid to try and make plans with them too often because I feel like I am bothering them. It didn't bother me as much in high school because I would see my friends all day at school, but now I don't have classes with a lot of my friends and I'm afraid that they're too busy to make plans with me. Especially in the off season when I have more free time and don't see my team everyday. Sometimes I just feel so low and depressed, which makes it harder to leave my room. It just feels like I'm spiraling.

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  • saraa05608
    saraa05608 mikayla23417

    Posted

    Honey its norml... honestly being alone is better than having fake friends ... and if u cnt get along with d ppl. Thats just bcz they are not ur ppl.. when d right oreson will come u will automatically connect with thm.. u dnt need to chase or wait. Of u just need ppl to hang ovr with just ask ur mates. N stop thinking that u r bothering. Just ask .. if they are okay they will tell u of they r not they will tell that too. Just try n ask. N believe me when u find a prsn like u or a flexible prsn u wont have to ask again n again.. it will work out. I had alooot of frnd alooott. Close ones too.. but didnt work out.. when i needed thm .. they wr not.. having a bunch of close frnds dznt mean that u have frnds. In d time of need they will show that either they are ur frnds r not.
    • loo52033
      loo52033 saraa05608

      Posted

      Which I found out the only person I called a friend as not been there for me what so ever and is only interested in her own life now she has a new partner she won't even meet to let our children ?see each other ?who where also good friends

  • loo52033
    loo52033 mikayla23417

    Posted

    Im the exact same I feel that im the way I am because I do t have friends so I seek interaction with makes ??an they only want one thing im seeking a friend really not a cheating affair partner 😟 it's so bad and so lonely I can never make friends I feel even when I go to groups where people are the same as me we never hit it off its so hard I get it 100% x

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