Can you avoid getting an STD?

Hi, i come from a very conservative community where sex before marriage is considered a serious sin. I've had sex a with a woman before while wearing a condom, (I'm a man). I'm worried i may have caught or will catch HPV if i have sex with other women, my parents are pushing me to get an 'arranged marriage' with a religious woman where i can't really reveal that I've had previous relationships in fear of being disowned or ostracised from my family and community. My question is, can i in good conscience avoid revealing this without putting such a woman in harms way, I've read HPV is a really common disease, I'm scared i might infect her and cause her to develop cervical cancer if i don't tell her and she doesn't get screened. what are the odds of something like that happening, what if i abstain from sex for say 2 years (read that HPV lasts that long on average) would that be considered really unlikely (what are the odds?). what about herpes, can you get that if the person you have sex with doesn't have any visible symptoms? Is the HPV vaccine considered effective if taken in early 20s? Can i have sex without worrying if the woman does not have any visible symptoms, i wear a condom and take the HPV vaccine at 23? Thanks.

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