cant stop

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I got married in July to a wonderfull mad that deep down inside I know I love and that he is great for me. We have been happily together for 7 years. A month before my wedding I started having cold feet but bad cold feet. All I thought about was do I love this man do I want to marry him and I would let it take over my life and panic and freak out even when I knew I was being crazy. I went though with the wedding and I was happy I love him and I told him about all the crazy thoughts and he was their for me. After the wedding i was a little better but the thoughts came back of what it would be like with out him in my own apartment and I was like I would hate that but I cant stop thinking it and freaking my self out. It sounds crazy and it is runing are marriage our wedding but deep down inside I know i want to be with him so I dont know why I keep obsesing over it and wont let my self just love him like i did before. I hope its just anxiety and their not true thoughts. I need help i feel so.... lost I just want to be us again or me again this has been going on for 4 months and i am put on 20mg of a anxity medicine. does not seem to help much.

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    You sound like me I got married in September and I love him to death but I did that before the wedding then during the honeymoon kept looking at him thinking do I love you I know I do!! This has escalated and now have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder and ibs I am in a real old mess I think it stems from we don't think we deserve them they deserve better than us does that make sense to you? Xx

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    Have you heard of relationship ocd?
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    It sounds like you're experiencing intrusive thoughts that are common for anxiety and OCD. Basically you'll get a thought in your head that shouldn't be there, you know it's not true, but it keeps coming back and makes you nervous. This can happen with lots of different things including marriage. Give the medicine time to work, it might help. Also try to ignore these thoughts as best you can. They can't hurt you or your marriage if you try to hold them back. Much love xx 

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    You need to ask yourself, is this fantansy or a real need.

    What was your life like before you met your Partner ?

    You need to look towards your past and how you met your partner and the relationship how it developed.

    That is the only way I can suggest. If you need to talk I am here, you can PM me.

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