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roximl
roximl

I'm a single mother of two boys, we're spending Christmas with my parents so I haven't had to do much in the way of preparation which is good as I don't think I would have coped. These last few weeks have been unbearable, I've barely been able to function. I didn't put up any decorations this year and have sent no cards to anyone. My entire house is a mess and I'm just falling apart. I just want Christmas to be over but then I feel guilty because of the boys. I've spent the first few days of their school holiday in bed while they've played on the Xbox. I had loads of plans and bought craft things to do with them, but I've done none of it. I just can't. But the guilt and anxiety about ruining Christmas for them just makes it worse. It's a vicious circle that I can't get away from. I don't know what to do. I'm dreading tomorrow. Having to get up n dressed n pretend that I care all day. I don't know if I can do it. Is there anyone else that's struggling with this time of year or any suggestions of how I can get through this?

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  • UK-Ven-medicate
    UK-Ven-medicate roximl

    Posted

    Its such a tough time of year, my ex wife wont let me see my kids so I am in pieces.
    • roximl
      roximl UK-Ven-medicate

      Posted

      I'm so sorry for you, I'm lucky to have my boys, it would be much worse without them. Have you got plans to keep you busy at least?
    • UK-Ven-medicate
      UK-Ven-medicate roximl

      Posted

      I got the best chrsitmas present, the kids rang me up and spoke to me on skype to thank me for their presents.
    • roximl
      roximl UK-Ven-medicate

      Posted

      That's great, I'm really happy for you. My days goin ok so far. Just about to sit down for dinner
    • UK-Ven-medicate
      UK-Ven-medicate

      Posted

      Now the days nearly done with , you can chill a little. Tommorrow is a new day and you have the chance to make a difference. Just something small for the boys then you may just get the boost you need to put you back on track

       

    • roximl
      roximl UK-Ven-medicate

      Posted

      Thanks, I got through it, I managed to hold it together until everyone had gone to bed. Got through work today too, one day at a time smile
  • simon1975mar
    simon1975mar roximl

    Posted

    Hi - I fully understand. Christmas can be a very depressing time.

    I suggest that you try and not feel guilty. I know - easier said than done. I think your boys are going to enjoy Christmas. They have gifts, they're seeing their grandparents. They'll have fun. And they probably wouldn't want you being depressed for their sake.

    If you can, don't 'pretend'. Just try to relax and see what the day brings.

    Forget about not putting up the trimming, and everything else. You're staying at your parents - so you don't need to worry about such things.

    Just let the day unfold in its own way ... and hopefully you'll enjoy it!

    All the best. And take care.

    • roximl
      roximl simon1975mar

      Posted

      Thanks for replying, I know I shouldn't complain, I have it so much better than some people do. All their presents are wrapped and they're all excited and I'm sure we'll have a great day. I need to just stop worrying about it I guess. 
    • simon1975mar
      simon1975mar roximl

      Posted

      Don't worry about 'complaining'. In fact, you were not complaining! So no apology needed ... You were simply expressing yourself - and that's fine. I encourage you to do so.

      I'm glad the boys are all excited. Yes, you'll have a great day!

    • roximl
      roximl simon1975mar

      Posted

      Thanks, it was an ok day. Nothing bad happened and the kids enjoyed most of it.
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