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kirstie23
kirstie23

Hello, my name is Kirstie. I'm 23 years old, female and since December 23, 2015, I discovered that I have Genital herpes (HSV-2). I was with this guy in the beginning of November. And came to find out that he had a girlfriend the whole time... of course I ended that... Then I started messing around with my good friend afterwards (my friend is one of the most trusting people I have ever met. Been friends for over 3 years.) But when we were messing around, we had unprotected sex once and had protected sex about... 3 or 4 times (still no symptoms a at that time). December 13th, I started having irritation down there (burning while using the bathroom, sores, itching) but I didn't think of anything of it. Just thought I scratched too much down there... then it wasn't going away, and I was in more pain than anything. During that week, me and my friend had protected sex while I had the symptoms (still wasn't aware about it.) Finally, December 23rd, I went to the hospital and see what was going on. It came out positive.. I asked that guy if he had it and he said he would get back to me when he is back from being out of town. .. I haven't heard from him since Christmas day and to be honest, I don't want to ask him again cause I have a feeling that it is him since he had a girlfriend. And my thing is once a cheater, always a cheater. So who knows if he has been with other girls or what...

But I told my friend the same day I found out. And he told me he is going to get checked soon... my concern is could I given him it even if we had protected sex? And my next question is, after my breakup with that one guy and not having symptoms at that time... could I have gotten herpes immediately from him or what? And as for my dear friend... we had unprotected sex after my breakup... Could I possibly had herpes at that and given it to him? I keep reading that sometimes you can get GH and don't find out until you finally have an outbreak... I'm just so lost. I asked my friend if he had any symptoms and he hasn't.. I feel like he will be okay but he hasn't gotten checked either.. I just really don't want him to have it because he means a lot to me and I would be devastated if he did get it from me... I really appreciate whoever had the time to read my situation...

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  • Koolredd
    Koolredd kirstie23

    Posted

    Hey Kirstie..

    Sorry about what your going through and I hope things will sooner then later even out with you.

    I'm in the same exact situation as you are .. Someone I had unprotected sex with had it & they never alerted me with it .. So it's a life long situation that I am In.

    I have a boyfriend but I don't even think that is going to work out which makes me even more nervous and insecure and down about this virus .. I don't know how to control my feelings .. Like why did I get put in this situation ? All because someone didn't want to alert me that they had this ..

    I can tell you that my boyfriend did get very lucky . I had bumps and everything ( experiencing an outbreak) and I didn't know I thought it was due to an nair reaction resulting in an chemical / 2nd degree burn ... But turns out I had genital herpes ..

    And we had unprotected sex during the process & ironically thankfully nothing happened . And he has gotten tested twice ...

    I'm not going to say he did . But if you guys used protection it's not very likely .

    Sorry that you are going through all this .. Just hang in there ,

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus kirstie23

    Posted

    When was the last time you had sex with the guy with the gf? Because it sounds more like your good friend is the source, from what I can make of the timings above. Symptoms usually occur within a week.
    • kirstie23
      kirstie23 FelizCastus

      Posted

      The last time I had sex with that guy was before Thanksgiving.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus kirstie23

      Posted

      When you developed symptoms, was it a week after sex with him or your friend?
    • kirstie23
      kirstie23 FelizCastus

      Posted

      It was about 2 weeks after me and that guy had sex when I started having the symptoms. My friend and I had sex a couple of times a week after my breakup.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus kirstie23

      Posted

      So both are within 1-2 weeks of your symptoms? If so, it could be either. Incubation period is 2-12 days, up to 20, but usually within a week of infection for most people. A carrier needn't have recognisable symptoms, but can still be contagious.
    • kirstie23
      kirstie23 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I honestly don't think it was my friend... we had sex before I met that guy and I never had any symptoms before.
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