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Contacting old partners?

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R09876
R09876

If there is no way of knowing how long I have had it or who I got it from, is there really any point in contacting old partners? I do not speak to any of them so I do not see these conversations going well. I just see it bringing up a lot of pain and anxiety for me in addition to the terrible psychological impact this has already had. I obviously will always disclose to future partners but I am having an internal struggle with the old. Any advice?

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  • Ros90591
    Ros90591 R09876

    Posted

    Unsure if you health clinic offers it but there are some clinics/services out there that will send an anonymous notice to your previous partner/s letting them know that a past sexual partner of theirs has recently tested positive for hsv.

    They get notified and you remain anonymous. No need for the awkward convo. 

    I would find out if this is something your health provider offers and take this route.

    Hope this helps

    • R09876
      R09876 Ros90591

      Posted

      That's a good idea! I really just don't want to have to text them and explain this. It is hard enough dealing with it on my own with it all being so fresh so I don't want to add that into the mix. 

  • danielle15132
    danielle15132 R09876

    Posted

    Let it go I've been there and doesn't do anything but make me feel sorry for myself. I have to get better. It's not the end of the world. Initially you'll sure feel like it. I been positive for a whole year now, and I'll admit things have gotten better. Hang in there.

  • sydney50563
    sydney50563 R09876

    Posted

    I tried to reach out to my ex but he wasnt taking it serious for me to ask him like who were you sleeping around with because when we first started dating we were clean somewhere down the line he had to have stepped out
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