Could I have depression and anxiety?

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About 2 months ago, something happened in my relationship (my fault) that kind of triggered (at first) an enormous amount of guilt.. which then subsided a little bit. I was good for a few days and then bam... "do I love him?" a thought so truly devastating and painful that I was crying all day. A man, so loyal...loving...caring...truly the love of my life. We have a relationship like you've never seen before. It's so unique and that's what makes it so special. But when these thoughts started... I truly feel like I've lost myself. These thoughts give me multiple breakdowns a week.. cause me to feel extremely overwhelmed everyday. I feel tired, exhausted.. I don't fantasize about my future anymore because the want to "live" is kind of gone. (Not a suicide threat).  Before all of this... my boyfriend made me so damn happy. Everyday, my love truly grew stronger for him. We talked about our future, and what we want. We have all of it in common.  I can still be sexual with him some days. But when I overthink and get these thoughts...I cannot. It's truly killing me because I don't want to end things with him... all I want to do is get back to being happy with him. I keep getting these intrusive thoughts like "do I love him" "what if I will feel like this forever and the only way to get better is if we leave each other". I cannot be without him.. everything we've talked about.. all the memories we made. He truly loves me to the core and I do too.. but these thoughts are killing me. When we're apart, like rn.. we sleep on the phone together every night and it's something I can't not do. I cry to him over the phone, explaining to him how much this is hurting me. He tries to understand to the best of his ability and he's as supportive as he can be. Could I be depressed and anxious? The first 2 weeks of this issue.. I was lying in bed all day all night.. I was sweating with a cold chill and every noise I heard scared me and made my heart race and made me sick too. I did not eat, i still don't eat right. I did not sleep right. Just so many issues that have again, slowed down a bit. What should I do? 😞. The only time these feelings kinda go away is when I do things together with my boyfriend. When I'm alone and SOMETIMES with him, the thoughts hit me and I just want to cry. I don't feel free.. I feel trapped in a pool of my own thoughts trying to eat me alive. Please help me. Sometimes even, I overthink him leaving ...or even my health. Everything triggers anxiety in me. When it's my health.. I feel like all the stress is making me go bald. Then I think I'm going to make my boyfriend truly unhappy because of how I am and that breaks me. I'm just honestly so lost. I'm supposed to get my own place soon and then I have to start the process of moving to the states (because my bf lives there) I wouldn't have had an issue doing that if I wasn't feeling like this but all of that just seems so overwhelming and I don't want to do anything. I don't want to work, I don't want to go out in the world..all I want to do is stay at home and I just can't do this because it will ruin my relationship and my life. What should i do? 

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    Hi Chantal,
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      Hi chantel

      You sound v depressed. First thing i would do is go and see your GP.

      I hve been there. I remember when I got depressed 2 years ago and i had a boyfriend, and i actually told him not to contact me, as i knew he would not be able to deal with it and also a little part of my depression was to do with him. He did leave me alone. However when i recovered i did contact him and we got back together and things are good now.

      Hopefully yr GP can advise you what's the best course of action to take.

      Good luck


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    I think the first thing you MUST do is forgive yourself.

    It is important to realize that we all make mistakes but you must not beat yourself up forever.What is important is whether or not you wish to repeat the incident that led to these feelings. If not...forgive yourself and move forward.

    Take care

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    Hi Chantal - many on this site will relate to how you feel. You are describing depression. You need to tackle this condition today. See your Doctor and explain what is happening. Be honest. Meds may be prescribed. There may be a need to tweak or change meds to find the dosage/type that is right for you. Meds will work in 3-8 weeks. It's important to keep taking them even when you are feeling better, and you will need to continue them until a balance in life has occurred. It's also important not to suddenly stop taking them as abrupt withdrawal can be dangerous. Your doctor will advise you. Meds will help even out your mood and are best used in conjunction with therapy/counselling or a psychologist. Ask your doc for referral to one of these. There, you will be in safe place where you can express openly. You will learn coping mechanisms to deal with negative thoughts and how to recognise any triggers to your condition. The important thing is that you act to address your situation. Tell your boyfriend what you are doing. Include him. Hang in there and try not to allow fear of the unknown block your way to treatment. Take it one step at a time. You will feel better soon, you will have a better understanding of yourself, and you will be there for your boyfriend.

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