Courage to change the things I can

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Since getting into peri, I tend to give up on myself a lot.  Having had a lot of medical attention this year, including having an ovary and uterine and cervical polyps removed, a colonoscopy, a sinus infection, a non-UTI in January, and currently dealing with a possible UTI, or maybe same as I had in January, I've been thinking  about how to loosen my grip on feeling anxious.  Instead of thinking I can't do anything to change what is happening to my mind and body, I want to start changing what I can and close the book on these last seven months of ongoing health issues.  I would love to hear from any of you kind ladies about things you've done that make you feel better and more hopeful about navigating peri and life, and ways that you are proactive about your health and wellness. 

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    I started working out. And I don't mean walking. I mean going to the gym and working with weights. Now I have arm muscles that I've never had in my life and no jiggly arms at 52! Makes me feel great and like I took charge of my body and am defying what aging usually looks like.

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    I'm in peri too, and I would like to know other women are doing as well. While I don't have the problems that you stated, I have anxiety and depression, and I'm sure perimenopause is making it worse. And I'm not sure if my period starting after three months of nothing, and having to run into the bathroom every two hours has anything to do with constant thoughts of my mom who passed several months ago. I was doing well in my grief until yesterday, which is when my period started. I'm wondering if my hormones are putting me into a deeper depression. And the only thing that helps is to focus on something else.

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      Connie, I am sorry for your loss.  I hope that we find some suggestions here that will help you, too.  Focusing on other things is the main thing that helps me, too, even though it's hard to do sometimes.

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    I had a facial done, and a foot massage. Felt really good to get it done.
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    Hi Elizabeth,

    hope u r well?

    well I had a piercing in my ear, called "Daith"....... As I suffered with my migranes for many years probably 20 plus years, worse of it came when I hit my migranes became more frequent........

    where I work a handful of ladies have had this done and said how good it was in helping..........I have since NO migranes but bad headaches..........

    land is helping me in my position loads now, more focused more me, and I love it, 

    apart from other symptoms, IBS, anaemia (I was soooooo low that I'm on medication on the highest dose for the next 6 months)

    but like all u beautiful ladies we plod on as best we can.......I'm walking as much as I can, now we have some sun here...at last in the UK lol. 

    Fresh air, sun........lol where r u from Elizabeth?.

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      Hi Shelly, I'm in th U.S.  That's interesting about the piercing and migraines!  It's great that it is helping you.  Walking and sunlight help me, too.

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    Hi Elizabeth. I talk often on here with you. I am 45. I've had prolonged bouts of depression/anxiety since my 20s & still take maintenance level ad's & anxiety meds. I have also suffere with colitis since 2012 (I know you too have crohns). The best thing I ever did to help me manage depression/anxiety & help me deal more effectively with everyday stress/problems was one to one cbt. (cognitive behaviour therapy) It was arranged through my gp & done on the nhs. It changed my life for the better. You learn to stop negative thoughts in their tracks instead of getting swept down the river of anxiety. With practise in your everyday life, it helps your mental wellbeing become altogether more positive & able to cope, think more rationally, panic less & deal with most issues put in front of you be it health, work etc in a more positive & reasoned way. It is really worth looking into. I am a natural worrier personality & cbt managed to change the way I look at things going forward. Love your positive attitude in trying to forge yourself forward & not let health issues get the better of you-admirable. xxx

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      Thanks, Looloo.  Last year, I took a class on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) with a psychologist in a small group setting.  It made me face some things that I didn't want to face and write a plan for following through, and there was an opportunity offered to join a support group to follow through that I passed up.  I really run into trouble thinking things are all my fault and not letting other people help me.  That's where the bad habits and lack of self-care are an issue.  I don't know if ACT won't work for me or if I just gave up trying.

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      Perhaps ask your gp to refer you for one to one cbt. Personally I thought one to one was more helpful than group, as the practitioner focuses on you in particular - your life, problems, behaviour etc. I also thought it allowed me to be more open, & not clouded by other people's negativity/barriers to progressing. The cbt was fortnightly for several months. Its definately worth considering especially as you are so open minded & willing to try different methods Elizabeth. xxx

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      I agree about the group setting - I think it wasn't for me.  Will send you a message later to say more, but I think CBT could be a path for me.

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    Hi Elizabeth, haven't heard from you for a while on here hun, Maisie & I  were wondering how you are? How has everything been with you?? We miss you xxxx

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