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Hello ladies
I have been feeling so positive for the last few days, but now feel the lowest I have for a while. I feel nauseous this evening and whilst I haven't got the external issues some of you have described, I do feel very tender inside. Whilst not constipated, my digestive system is not happy about all the chemicals I am introducing. I feel bloated and uncomfortable and have a headache. I just feel ill and I am fed up and cross.
When will I start to turn a corner? I need some light at the end of this tunnel (normally I would be amused by that unintended pun, but.... ??)
Helen
Xx
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edith- helen03642
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Hi Helen,
I haven't had any repair surgeries yet, but I know from other op recoveries I've had, getting the right type of analgesia and medicine for other unwanted unpleasantries can sometimes need reviewing; perhaps you could see if that's a possibility with your GP. Recovery can be so very difficult, but some things can be controlled better and not left to just endured.
I find that ginger or peppermint, even if just the smell or a couple of sips of tea can help dull the sensation of nausea a little, enough for me to feel that I'm taking back some control over my body which helps me deal with things better. Reviewing your medication with the GP might offer help as well, and of course check that you're alright with those things and there isn't ant contraindications.
Hope that you're feeling better in your recovery soon.
Edith
helen03642 edith-
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Thank you Edith, that is a very sensible suggestion. I couldn't see the wood for the trees last night xx
edith- helen03642
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It can be so horrible can't it! I'm glad you are feeling a bit better today, we just have to allow ourselves to feel whatever we feel freely, but know it is not forever. We're allowed to have an ebb and flow of confidence and control, which sometimes means a day of sofa dwelling, a cry and call for love and comfort! X
gill08662 helen03642
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gill08662
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Oh dear my tablet was playing up and ended up sending 2 replies this website does occasionally play up 🙄 xx
carole28488 helen03642
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Hi helen: So sorry you are feeling bad when you were doing so well. Don't let it get you down, girl....I had my operation for anterior and posterior four weeks ago today. Sometimes I feel so good that I forget that I even had the surgery and have to rest when I'm tired.
Other times, especially after a bowel movement, my stitches start to hurt and I feel extremely tired. I'm retired from work so I get to lie down when I want to. I don't know if I could have had this surgery if I were still working. I was a paramedic and had to life heavy stretchers. I think that is what got me into the mess I was in in the first place..lol....I also have major back problems, which help me to get tired soon. Please hang in there sweetie...I will get better....HUGs....xxxxooo
Jan999 helen03642
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Day 21 is very very early in your recovery and following any surgery you feel out of sorts for some time. The anaesthetic causes changes in the blood stream and digestive system and when any patient had an incision then blood cells are disrupted and that takes time to recover. Of course you'll turn a corner, we all do but it takes time and sometimes when you are feeling like this Mother Nature is telling you to slow down and rest.
helen03642
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Thank you all you lovely ladies for your helpful words and suggestions and positive support: Edith, Tuleden, Trina, Sue, Carole and Matron. It really helped me and I have had a great day today, proving your reassurance to be spot on. This is the first major surgery I have had, so I don't know what to expect and neither does my body.
Every day is indeed different, and rather than choosing our attitude which is a big ask when resources are challenged, we can accept that the road to recovery is a hilly one, rather than a straight one!
Hugs for you all.
Helen
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helen03642
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Sorry Gill - I knew I would miss someone in the list! Thank you to you too😘
gill08662 helen03642
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Jan999 gill08662
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I've been on this forum for a number of years and apart from 1or 2 ladies everyone has been very supportive and willingly shared their experiences, some very personal.
sue52969 helen03642
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Hi Helen
Only just read these messages. I'm sorry to hear you're fed up lovely. It really is so hard and as you are finding its often the case of two steps forward, one step back. I too have good days. Yesterday I went out and walked (slower than usual ) for 40 mins. I felt so good and though I was tired later, I felt that a walk in the sunshine was good for me.
However, today I've been tearful and feeling quite isolated, which is not like me at all.
There are all sorts of feelings involved , like worrying about going back to work etc. So any time you feel down, so just like you did, come on here and let off steam. We're all with you hun.
Chin up and lots of love
Sue xx
helen03642 sue52969
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Thank you Sue. I hope I haven't used this Forum inappropriately. (I don't think I have). It seems natural to me to reach out for comfort to those are in the same, or similar boat. I appreciate that we have all had slightly different surgeries and are all of a different mental make up; but I have found the posts I have engaged in here overwhelmingly sensitive and supportive.
Well done with your walk today. That's double what I think you did a couple of days ago, so celebrate and take that well earned rest.
😘😘
Jan999 helen03642
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helen why would you think you'd used the forum inappropriately?
helen03642 Jan999
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Jan999 helen03642
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Not at all Helen. It's good to share our experiences xx
Jan999 helen03642
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Not at all helen. It's good to share our thoughts and experiences on this forum x
edith- helen03642
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For me, that's what is so helpful about interacting with women on this forum (and it's only been a couple of days!), that I'm able to share and read such candid retellings about conditions and symptoms that we suffer from, but may experience very differently. In that respect, you can't really overshare, nor is there a hierachy of what is a positive or negative reaction!
helen03642 edith-
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Well said Edith 👍😀
sue52969 helen03642
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Helen
Please don't think you have been inappropriate at all!. Yes this forum is exactly for what we use it for, to share, to reassure and to find out of what we are experiencing is "normal ". I've found it so helpful to hear from people who are further along in the process than me and to try to reassure those who are not so far in.
We are here for each other so don't let other people's negativity get to you hun.
Lots of love
Sue x
Jan999 sue52969
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I have to be honest I don't think anyone has been negative on this forum for months now which obviously makes everyone feel comfortable posting and expressing their feelings
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