day 22 for my daughter!
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just a little update, it may help someone in their journey.
the shakes seem to be gone mostly, the bad headaches are not everyday, and the tummy pains havnt been seen for a good few days, i notice she is smiling more, and engaging in chatting more, as oppose to just answering when i talk, she has got up willingly for work, so all seems to be positive,
DR check up yesterday, he was quite pleased with the progress, told her to remove herself from any arguments, or stressful situations, not to do anything that will make her anxiety worsen. for some reason she hates busy places now, which with christmas soon, thats a little difficult. but she is trying.
she is another one that feels secure in night time, big teddy bear blanket, cuddled up, pj's on, so when she gets in from work at 6pm, its off to get changed and snuggle, i also think thats to do with the dark cold/damp/wet/windy/freezing weather.
she has come such a long way since day 1, and days 1 to 9 were terrible with side effects, but from day 9 she has made progress, and the side effects have slowly stopped being such a disability.
she and i know its a long journey, a bumpy and emotional journey, but one that we are taking together, and its a bit like being in a tunnel, with glimpses of the sunshine, until one day she comes out the other side into the lovely bright daylight, with the flowers dancing, and the birds singing.
to all who read this, i hope your smiling today, if not, grab a blanket, get snuggling, and dont let it bother you that you need "me" time. xx
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katecogs karen13323
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Thats what I first noticed with my son too - he smiled more, heard him laughing and engaged more in talking rather than a one word answer. Seemed back then it was too tiring and emotional for him to drag words out. He also likes lounging in his pj's at night - definitely a comfort thing.
Yes don't they come a long way from Day 1 at the start of their journeys.
My son started back at work yesterday after 4 months off, and is a little quieter than of late, but all went well. One step at a time.
So yes, like you, I'm smiling too today.
K xx
karen13323 katecogs
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i have to try not to analize daughter too much, and remember that normal moody teenage behaviour does not mean she is spirelling back down!
she still isnt sleeping, and has had 1 night since starting where she managed a full 7 hours, so we are hoping her sleep patterns will chnage soon.
i shall be thinking of your boy, and hoping he is doing ok at work, i s till get lots of emails and texts from daughter when she is at work, but i can read her mood then, sometimes they are to say she has seen some fab shoes in a sale, sometimes they are to say she wants to come home, but we ride through the tough ones.
keep smiling. xx
katecogs karen13323
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I'm sure the sleep pattern will sort itself out eventually - such a nuisance I know especially when sleep is needed the most to help with the healing.
Yes my son keeps in touch throughout the day too, and so far is doing well. I still know he's got a way to go yet, but he's crossed so many hurdles already to get this far. Absolutely, ride through the tough messages ....... your daughter will get there too :-)
So precious are our children
K xx
karen13323 katecogs
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katecogs karen13323
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Yes seems to be doing ok thanks x. He's not in his usual department yet as he's being eased back in gradually, but at his request he'll try his department just this Friday. It's lovely seeing him back in a routine ... and smiling :-) Think he has a way to go yet, but he's so much better than he was 4 months ago.
Im feeling better and more relaxed now too thanks. Just such a relief seeing my son enjoying things more. Looking forward to Christmas as my daughter will be coming home, so a great family time :-)
K xx
vix167 karen13323
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I think im having a few good days too despite the foul weather doing its best to dampen us and our spirits! I noticed today that I had actually initiated a jokey conversation in work (sounds daft but I think ive just been auto responding to my colleagues at work looking back over last few weeks, like your daughter, where normally ill waffle away for aawhile) and I realised id laughed a few times too. A smile or laugh is very telling isnt it :-)
Im taking these days as they come, gratefully , and feel they'll make any bad days that may creep up on me easier to handle.
Christmas will challenge us all I think, im going to join in as much as I can with stuff but allow myself a "get out of jail free" card to get away if and when it gets too much but i normally so love christmas time kinda hoping I wont need it much. Dont let your daughter put too much pressure on herself to join in with everything, just as much as she enjoys or can cope with. Shes so lucky to have you behind her understanding this whole thing :-)
Heres hoping the smiley days just keep rolling in.
Take care. And yes, just hearing how people are getting on does help me anyway. Xx
Pj and naff telly time :-) Ttfn
Xx
karen13323 vix167
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christmas is going to be low key, we have no plans, and will decided as we go, good idea, if you get overwhelmed, take some time out for yourself. dont overdo it to keep others happy.
hows the sickness doing? did you start the bug tablets?
its also lovely that you can see the change in yourself, that alone will make you smile, your on the mend, its the proof you need to know the flu tablets are working, and your mind is working with them,
i think i understand what she is going through as my mother has a history of mental illness, and life could be very "challenging" when i was growing up. but they say everything happend for a reason, and i like to think it gave me the knowledge to support my daughter, and a good friend of mine who suffers with depression.
keep smiling. xx
vix167 karen13323
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Hows she doing? Hope shes having more of the good days.
Xx
karen13323 vix167
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