Dealing with HSV1
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Hello,
I was told I had herpes back in July 2015 (HSV1), and to this day I'm still struggling to come to terms with this 'disease'. This happened in my last relationship and I have now been single for nearly a year. Every single day I worry about it, google something that's on my mind etc, to the point where I have been seriously worried about myself mentally. The reason I am writing this is because I know I need to do something about it, especially because I have to live with the virus forever. I haven't been with anyone since my ex boyfriend and although I'm not interested in anyone right now, I worry nobody will ever want me. So for the past year or so, any male attention I have walked away from. Because even if I was interested.. nobody would want to be with me, right? I really do try and think positive because I know myself 'it's just a cold sore, but not in a nice place and only happens on a rare occasion'. I've considered telling my best friend, but what change will that make? Will it make me feel better? I don't think so. If there is any help or advice anyone can give me I would really appreciate it, as I believe I need it. I probably would of kept this going for a lot longer before asking that question, but my own sister is worried about me, so if someone else has noticed a change in me then that can't be good. I put on a front 24/7, always laughing and smiling, talking to anyone and everyone.. but I've always got 'herpes' in my head.
Thank you.
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chantell56006 hannah46712
Posted
Its been about a month and 1 week now for me. The person that gave it to me knew he had it for 2 years and didn't tell me. Honestly, I'm the opposite of you when it comes to telling people. I have confided in so many people and yes some have stopped speaking to me but I guess they weren't really a friend. If I kept this in I would burst , but I do know it can be difficult to share something personal that so many people aren't educated on. I would say share it with someone who won't judge you but will still remain by your side and support you through this tough time your having with this virus. I hate it!
hannah46712 chantell56006
Posted
Hello there,
Thanks for your reply. This is the problem, people aren't educated and until I was told I had herpes and educated MYSELF, I didn't know anything about it. It's really bad, because I do 110% feel that if people knew about it more and realised how common it is and also that it's just a cold sore, then it wouldn't have the social stigma it has. My parents and sisters are aware that I have it and one sister is supportive but nobody really understands because I feel like unless they have it, they won't really get how I feel. I have considered telling a male friend to gage the reaction I could possibly get in future if I meet someone. I do have a lot of boy friends and I sometimes think to myself 'I could imagine telling him and him understanding'. So I guess I need to think like that because when I do meet someone I will take the time to get to know him etc and if the times right, the times right.
See, that was a lot of positivity coming out of me then and I try and talk to myself like that every day.. but I have as much negativity, if not more, than I do have positivity.
One thing I do know, is that I'd rather know I have herpes and know I can prevent my partner from getting it when an outbreak is coming/occurs. Some people don't know they have it when they do, or do know they have it and not yet had an outbreak..
FelizCastus hannah46712
Posted
Genital HSV1 is better transmission-wise than oral HSV1 and genital HSV2, as it sheds less often. For most people, it rarely recurs. Around two-thirds of the world's population carries HSV1, usually orally (and asymptomatic), but as noted, that's worse to have in some ways. As a result, there's no reason to get so upset. You have the very common cold sore virus, just genitally. How many outbreaks have you had since? Presumably none or very few. Put things in perspective. It helps.
Butterfly90 hannah46712
Posted
hey I don't know if you are still viewing this post, but I feel the exact same as you do. I was diagnosed with genital hsv1 back in October and everyday I Google some symptom or advice for help.