Dealing with rejection

You're not alone so don't feel like you have no hope in finding someone. There are millions of people with herpes just like you and I living a healthy normal life with kids and are married it's understand that's not a risk she's willing to take (so what) you'll find someone who will love you flaws and all (and herpes of course)

HONESTY is the Best policy!!!!!

Told the guy that i've been seeing for a year and a half. He hasn't called me since & my thought is:

? i am the same person you have been seeing for over a year ... this HAS NOT changed who i am!!!

? better to be honest, get it out there, and move on

? there are well over a million other men on this world and plenty of which would find happiness in my company & there a billion other women in this world and plenty of which will find happiness in your company

You are the same, don't let this get you discouraged. Keep your head high. In the end this is a virus that you can avoid spreading, so if there is someone who is afraid to be in your company, know they are allowing you to move closer to the person who will accept you for who you are. There is absolutely NO reason to be ashamed or get yourself down ?

Stay happy, stay informed and above all stay honest.

I'm 21 and was recently diagnosed with hsv2.

The only thing positive about that is the fcking test result lol.....

I do realize however, there can be many positive outcomes of this. Use mine for an example.

To be honest I've always loved sex and got it when I wanted it and a lot of the time no protection cause I liked that and didn't care. I wasn't having real relationships, I was just trying to feel good when I was feeling lonely, or horny obv, although in the end that just got me a disease I'll always have. And no real connections even though THAT really is what I yearn for, I just never gave it a chance, scared of getting hurt I guess. In the end, I hurt myself! The positive of this is that I now can't have multiple partners. Now, not just any guy can have sex with me. Sure, I'm going to experience rejections just as you shared. But that means no more meaningless flings or one night stands. I'll have to actually like this person and give them the option to keep going, or not. They will have to like me enough or even love me enough, to want to have sex with me. Many might not want to take the risk. But the person who loves me, will show me that my disease couldn't separate us. My disease won't change his love for me and wanting me. The realization of this made me smile deep inside because that is a pretty big deal or "special" when you put it this way. It's the truth. No one wants genital herpes. But if you tell someone this and they still want you, they're clearly awesome eniugh to be in your life. If they don't want to be on that level with you because of this, it's ok, they don't want you badly enough! I can live with that! Psssh fine I didn't want you in my bed anyway ha.

So now, I have a chance to really step back and look at the bad decisions I made and be mature about it on a whole other level. Sex should be taken very seriously and my whole young life I've been kind of frivolous with sex. Sex is a privilege. Now more than ever. For everyone, with or without a disease we need to look at it this way. Sex feels wonderful but it's truly a sacred thing, and as a woman I have a whole newfound respect for my body and what it's capable of. One day I will have children, and you will too (if you want) and then we will realize how we amazing we are, and we won't sexualize everything about the human bodies. One day my nipples won't be kissed and sucked by a man, it will be my babies food supply lol! Sex is nice but there are other things that are important. Is the person you're with, could they be the love of your life? Does she mentally stimulate you? Does she make you feel better? If you get rejected you should take it as a kind gesture, oh ok thanks for not further wasting my time, can't wait to find the chick that doesn't care and loves me enough. If that's too sexually frustrating however haha maybe try dating website and find a hsv2 positive woman who's down. I checked out positive singles just to see, curious. It'san option, I'm not that inclined on meeting someone right now but it is nice to have that option, unlike the douche bag that gave this to me without telling me, I would never want to hurt anyone, so it's cool to not spread it and find someone that way maybe.

Just remember how special you are, regardless of this. I know it hurts, I don't even know how I'm giving advice right now I'm still really upset but it's true! If they're worth it, they'll show it be being with you how sweet, you'll know you're worth taking the risk for. Kind of romantic when you think of it that way