Deja Vu, Anxiety, Depression And Panic Attacks
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My Brother Is 14 years old. He was suffering from depression for Over a year sometimes it would stay. For weeks and sometimes even for months at first i thought it was normal exam tension but my brother being the type of careless person he is does not Worry about exams and when his exams passed he was still depressed my older cousin thought maybe it would be nice to cure it by some synthetic i tried to stop him but he bring the stubborn little idiot he is did not listen when he took like 3 hits he started experiencing extreme deja vu he started panicking his heart beating as if it were to explode any miniute he thought we were going to kill him he thought my cousin was the devil and god was punishing him. Now he has anxiety depression and deja vu he thinks he is stuck in a time loop and we are not real i am feeling really guilty he was my brother and my responsibility i should have used all means to stop him please help me he says he is gonna die and it scares me i love him to death he may be stubborn but he is still MY Brother
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jan_39653 LastHope
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OK, I worked in the field of drugs for several years so I think I know what you're talking about. There are several issues here but first of all, the drugs. It's very rare for permanent damage to be done through such limited use. You don't say what specific drug was used but synthetic usually covers the hallucinogenic kind of drugs. As you probably realised and your brother didn't, you generally need to be in a good place for a good effect. If you are feeling bad, the experience with these kinds of drugs is more likely to be bad - and scary.
But your brother was already in a bad place, showing signs of mental distress beyond what might be explained as exam stress. Now the situation is worse. It's not your fault. You don't give your age but I suspect you are too young to be taking on this kind of responsibility. What is family life like? Do you have a parent or carer who you could talk to about your worries? You don't need to mention the drug experiment if that's what's bothering you. What is his school like? A lot of schools have good counsellors and support services, as well as training to know when a pupil needs professional help rather than just school support.
At 14, your brother is old enough to make some decisions for himself so he may not want to ask for help through school. But he is still a minor and, although he might not appreciate it at the time, you are within your rights to act on your own concerns about him - by talking about your worries with a school counsellor or, better still, with your parent/s. I'm surprised no one has noticed the marked change in him.
What you cannot do is ignore this, which I'm sure you know because you posted here. BUT remember, you are not the cause of his problems - he may well be ill but only a doctor will be able to determine that. You advised against the drug experiment - that's your cousin's and your brother's responsibility. All you can do is encourage him to seek help and, regardless of what he decides to do for himself, get help yourself before you become so wracked with guilt that you make yourself ill too. He's lucky to have someone like you who cares so much.
Btw, it's not Last Hope you know. It's First Step. Good luck.
LastHope jan_39653
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First of all thank you for your reply i have considered the option of a psychiatrist but my cousin does not want anyone to find about the weed part i asked him weather or not he cares about my brother so we talked to the family doctor and he told us it is because of too much negative he also pointed out it could get much worse if we don't do therapy
i will have to tell my parents because im young myself and cant afford therapy one thing that i have noticed is when we go out and keep him busy he remains neutral and sometimes very rarely feels
Deja vu The deja vu scares him the most and causes him to panic he was very popular in school and making friends was not a problem now he only has a few very close freinds who are also very worried and have talked to me about his behavior
jan_39653 LastHope
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Despite all its 'good' press, you'd be surprised how many people react badly to weed, especially if you really mean skunk which is very unpredictable. What your cousin thinks is irrelevant - he'd put your brother's health before a good telling off for his stupidity?? Huh. It's over and done - he wouldn't be prosecuted. If he's a regular user, you'd be well-advised to avoid socialising with him, family or not.
Well done for approaching your family doctor. Help is essential, to get your brother back on track. The drugs may have been the last straw but they merely triggered what was already going wrong.
I do notice though that you still write as though this is your responsibility to sort out. It isn't. You can provide loving support for your brother but you can't put him right. Don't think that for a minute. You've done your bit. Step back and let your parents and the professionals do their bit, for your own sake. I speak here from experience here. I wish you brother all the best and both of you some peace of mind.
gill73026 LastHope
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