Depressed after operation and bereavement
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Hi all,
Was not sure which group to put this on.
I had a total hip replacement on 17th September after two and a half years of pain and two failed ops.
On 12 th October my mother=in-law died aged 91 after a protracted illness.
I am now 67, soon to be 68 and the eldest surviving family member.
I am recovering well from my hip op BUT I have this weird sensation that I will be next to go.
I feel as if the Grim Reaper is after me.
Please be gentle, funeral tomorrow.
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lorraine52317 shirley17649
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful ops and your recent bereavement. I hope the funeral tomorrow goes as well as it can do in these sad circumstances. You will get through this its all in the timing. But please be kind to yourself over this period. Make sure you don't overlook meals and fluids.
Here for you!
God bless
Lorraine xx
shirley17649 lorraine52317
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I know this will pass eventually. My husband and children are supportive but even so we are feeling our mortality very sharply at the moment.
All we seem to talk about is funerals, wills and where we want to be buried/cremated.
No lively conversation.
People are asking me where I want to go for my birthday and teh answer is Nowhere at the moment, not in the mood,
lorraine52317 shirley17649
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I do understand thinking about our own mortality. I do too I'm 55 now and not in the best of health due to recovery from my first experience of severe depression. I also talk to family about my wishes when it my time. I don't think we are alone in these thoughts it's a thing I imagine we all do when we get to our later years. Not that we are that old lol!!
Just think you could have another 30 years plus left! That's a lot of time so make sure you do a lot of living!
Warmest wishes to you
As mentioned. .. here if you need me at anytime xx
shirley17649 lorraine52317
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Yes, you are right I know. At the moment there is nothing I want to do with it, nowhere I want to go.
I have been housebound for so long I have given up wanting to go anywhere,
Even shopping no longer appeals. I walk a bit each day to exercise new hip, then wonder why I ever bothered with it.
lorraine52317 shirley17649
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It's easy to become depressed and lose interest after being so unwell with your ops and being mainly housebound. Have you spoken yo your gp about feeling you don't want to go anywhere? It maybe worth getting a medical viewpoint xx Don't forget your still young with lots of things to experience in the future. tap in to all those resources that could help your mindset so you can start to look forward and enjoy the many years you have in front of you xx
shirley17649 lorraine52317
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Just about to change gp as soon as I can. Mine is over-full and busy. I will get an appt with new gp as soon as I can register.
Maybe I will feel better after funeral.
Thanks
carole28488 shirley17649
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shirley17649 carole28488
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You are right. Everyone around us is dying off.
I am in UK where life expectancy is shorter, I believe.
Husband has lost his elder brother, father and mother in the last three years. He is feeling rotten too so we do not lift each other up much at present.
carole28488 shirley17649
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Let's just live from day to day and not worry about tomorrow. It always takes care of itself....HUGS.
shirley17649
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We must both be in our sixties. I have got to come to terms with this yet and I know I am one of the lucky ones. Plenty of my classmates have already gone.