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juliette_08995
juliette_08995

After 22 years of living with my granddaughter on Sunday she is moving away and going 22 miles away. I am devastated cannot eat only drink tea cannot sit down for more than a few minutes. I feel there is a knife turning in my chest. I will see her again hopefully several times a year but in the meantime I feel so desperate. I am 72 years old married but my husband is a cold uncaring man with no emotions.

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  • shelley10976
    shelley10976 juliette_08995

    Posted

    Hello. Is there a reason you can go see her every day? She's only 22 miles away!! You will find a way if there's a will. Good luck and remind your granddaughter to visit you half the time too.

  • maria_1963
    maria_1963 juliette_08995

    Posted

    Is there a possibility that your granddaughter could set up webcam , skype on your computer so you can still have that contact , it is a shame your husband could not be more understanding unless he is hiding his feelings ? 
  • amanda35274
    amanda35274 juliette_08995

    Posted

    God bless you juliette im struggling as well just now for different reasons and i was doing so well. U sound like i am just now full of anxiety. Xxx its hard to have no support either kp talking on here if it helps. Im sure ur grandaughter will miss u too. Try get to see each other as much as poss xx
    • juliette_08995
      juliette_08995 amanda35274

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply even worse when you know you are being stupid but at the moment the heartache is very real
    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 juliette_08995

      Posted

      Aww bless my mum has moved back to where she grew up too. From uk to scotland. Its v hard. Yr not being silly. Its as real as diabetes heart disease anything physical. Its hard to bear xxx hugs to u xx
    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 juliette_08995

      Posted

      Just threw myself into work. Kept busy xx and short term diazepam. Very hard to come by from gps unless yr an ex addict xxx that and one of the nicest drs ive ever met. Total credit to her profession. Wants me well & has rang me at home when i was an appt no show to check i was ok how nice.. They dont come much better xx

    • juliette_08995
      juliette_08995 amanda35274

      Posted

      Unfortunately she is terrible at keeping in touch with everyone. I message her and leave messages on her phone, she says she will get back but doesn't. Of course I am 72 and she is 22 such a big gap and she does not understand how I am feeling and what I am going through. I would like to travel down to see her at easter for a couple of nights staying in a hotel, but I am worried about putting pressure on her.

      How are you coping now.if I was younger and worked it would keep my mind occupied but not possible at my age.

    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 juliette_08995

      Posted

      Oh bless u i understand xx its diff for u. But i think if yr staying in a hotel its a visit with no pressure rather than staying with family xxxx im finding it hsrd to cope without diazepam xx
  • laura08496
    laura08496 juliette_08995

    Posted

    dear juliette, knowing you are feeling much heartache makes me sad. it does feel like a knife in the chest indeed. this will be a tough period of adjustment for you. and i know she hasn't even left yet....but in time, i promise it'll get better. but in the meantime, you need to take good care of yourself. you need to eat and drink more than just tea. it's hard to do at this moment, but you will feel better when your body is taken care of. and maybe you can try some warm milk right before bedtime to get much needed sleep. so sorry this is such a huge stressfull change in your life. but you aren't alone. many of us face the same loss when a family member leaves the home. and it's always your favorite loved one moving out...not the distant partner who's not helping much. you'll be in my prayers today. just be good to yourself in the days coming. reach out to family and friends that could cheer you up and give you support. and i know you will be proud of, and wish the best for your grandaughter. she'll miss you too! please feel better

    • juliette_08995
      juliette_08995 laura08496

      Posted

      Thank you Laura, I will go out for a walk later always helps to get out of the house. Jessica, sadly, is going tomorrow so I am dreading that day coming, I am going to store her stuff in my loft
    • amanda35274
      amanda35274 juliette_08995

      Posted

      Aww likewise. Sorry for delays in between messages got ppl here this weekend xx ♡
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