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My doctor perscribed fluoxetine 20mg because I wanted councilling because ive been through a lot this past 2 years, but i dont think im depressed and i worry about what these tablets will do. I lost my youngest daughter to cot death last year and my husband got very depressed and angry. He has taken flouxetine for 6months now and they seem to be working for him. I have had to prop up my husband as well as cope with my oldest who is 6 and has behavioural problems, i also lost my job a year ago and I told my gp that id had enough and needed a break. i took the pills today and now i cant sleep, i only just got back into a normal sleep pattern about a month ago so that really sucks. my husband says that the pills could make me suicidal if i dont really need them and now im really scared , he thinks i should stop taking them but i dont know what to do????
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Skye
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Sometimes, doctors can be very quick to prescribe medication, when someone would benefit more from talking through their problems, concerns etc with a professional person.
(Im not saying there`s no need for medication, coz in many cases there is.)
You`ve certainly had a helluva lot to contend with recently, and that does take its toll.
You say you don`t feel depressed. How do u feel. Can u describe how u feel (even just in a typical day)
tra
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most of the time im too busy to feel anything but when i have time to think, i feel stifled, trapped, like my feet are stuck in the cement which is my family.
i've been with my husband for 8years but for the past 3years he's had depression and has barely left the house, he also has a physical illness which means he has been unable to work. He has total control over the tv, and im not really a going out person so i find myself talking about things i have no interest in or voicing his opinions because i have none of my own. he also got very possesive and controlling, (a symptom of his depression) telling me when to go to bed, when to get up, where to be etc. I just had so much to cope with, working, looking after our daughter, running the house and organising every aspect of my husbands life too. He started on fluoxetine in Jan this year and is starting to return to normal, so its typical that i would pick now to fall apart, just when things are getting better.
Even though i knew that i would burn out sooner or later it still came as a shock.I started having strange daydreams about my hubby or my daughter dying, so that i can be on my own guilt free but i love my family dearly and have no intention of leaving. I tried to tell my hubby but he got very upset and took it personally, however in the last week he has given me some space and i felt better that i had in ages the very next day.
I usually work in the care sector so i know that i still need councilling, but i dont think that i need anti depressants. I'm also not on the pill so im very worried that i might get pregnant and after losing one child ( I didnt look after my self during that pregnancy) im not willing to take any chances but my hubby would really be upset if i went on the pill as he is a bit older than me and told me point blank that if we dont try for another child now, it will be too late and we may as well not bother.
Skye
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I don`t find it surprising that ur \"falling apart\" so to speak , as ur husband gets better. For a long time uve had to carry a heavy burden (more than one) on ur shoulders. You can only do that for so long....then ur seams start to split.
You sound as if you need more space, \"me time\". Youve been suffocated by being the strong person, taking care of everything and everyone whilst your husband was unwell.
(I know exactly where ur coming from there)
Can u get counselling? You`d be surprised at how helpful just venting your thoughts to someone who doesn`t know u from Adam can be.
As for the baby thing. I really don`t know what to advise you. Do u want another child? Is you husband well enough to help you cope with a baby and your 6 year old? Could you persuade him that having a baby is not priority right now....him getting well is. You finding yourself again is. Know what Im on about ??
From your message, you sound very rational, I think u already know what the root of your problem is......you need time for yourself and the chance to vent your frustrations and thoughts about all the crap of the last few years. ( I had to do that. after 3 sessions.....christ what a difference). You need to be your own person again. Seems like youve lost that somewhere along the way, IMO.
Hope u don`t find my post rude or an invasion in your life. Just reading between the lines.
(The medication your on is quite a good one.(but like others, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn`t) Like any medications there are side effects. Alot of medication can make a person think suicidal or nasty thoughts. But to be honest, I believe this to be rare, so I think ur safe enough)
tra
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Youre right of course, and i think i wrote the post because i needed to vent.
Im on the waiting list for councelling and ive tried to get help from CRUISE but their very busy, my gp told me that thats why she gave me fluoxetine but ive already decided not to take them. Theyre too scarey. Ive tried to disuade the hubby about another child but he has rights 2 so thats just no use , i just keep my fingers xed and i suppose i'll have to deal with that if it happens.
Thank you again for answering a cry for help, I know what to do so i'll stop being such a moan. lol
Skye
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Your not a moan. Just venting!! And sometimes venting to a stranger can make the world of difference.
Anytime u want to vent...pls feel free. There`s nothing worse than keeping things inside til u feel u could explode with it all.
Been there 2....