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Depression and nerves difficult to manage

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markR7
markR7

Please reassure me. My anxiety is through the roof and my mood is as low as it has been in years. Im in totally the wrong job. I spend much of my day alone in a quiet sales enviroment and I miss being around people. My friendships are all fake or "paid for" for example acqauntences via providing services such as hair or laundry. I feel so alone. I have an amazing wife and kids but the kids behavior and my low mood make it very trying at times. I am applying for jobs but feel constantly rejected. I try so hard to be liked but i cant retain friends. I darent even text people any more because i worry that they must hate me if i dont hear back from them pretty soon. I worry about money, the future , the current security issues on the news. My life is one big worry and seems to be worsening .

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  • edwina97301
    edwina97301 markR7

    Posted

    Hi mark. Sounds very familiar. I spend a lot of time alone, due to my anxiety . Ok around family and hubby, but friends drifted away as I felt anxious even ringing them and would sit and worry if they really were my friend or were talking about me, using me etc, I just think negatively and constantly go over thoughts of bad things happening, worrying , just can't stop , called rumination, or catastrophising. Had counciling, but mind always goes back to worrying. It's common with anxiety. Your not alone, it helped me to find others here  who know how this feels. Have you told your gp exactly how you feel. Great tips here on mindfullness , helps a lot of people with negative thoughts and anxiety. Know how frustrating this is. Hope you feel reasured your not alone , glad you posted here😊??

    • markR7
      markR7 edwina97301

      Posted

      Thanks. It is very reassuring to hear this. I have had a really bad day with it all. Absolutely shattered with constant worry. I know what you mean. I feel best when surrounded by family. When i feel exposed or in the public domain such as at work is when i feel my worst. Especially when my paranoia make me feel talked about. Thanks again for your thoughts. I am trying to help myself and relax but it is so hard.
  • edwina97301
    edwina97301 markR7

    Posted

    No probs, if you ever need to vent or just need a little reassurance post again, this is a great site, lots of people who care as they understand, been a godsend to me when I don't want to keep bothering my family. My family assure me they don't mind and they are glad to listen if it helps me but there's nothing better than speaking to people that really understand how this feels. 😊??

    • markR7
      markR7 edwina97301

      Posted

      Hi. I feel pretty bad again today. Its chucking it down and im sitting in this lonely freezing cold shop by myself. I ve had literally no replies for any of the jobs I have expressed interest in. Feel like im loosing confidence in myself by the day / hour. Dont know what it is about me that makes me so low priority for jobs and or friends. My family too have been great. My wife is the most supportive person I know. Im just so tired tho from the constant worry, rushing around and then sitting like a lemon in work doing nothing and having no interaction with anyone. Feels like solitary confinement. Does anyone think the job is linked to my mood.
  • marleen85993
    marleen85993 markR7

    Posted

    Hi Mark I would imagine sitting on your own all day is not good for you at all as you have nothing to distract your mind and you have a lot of time to ruminate about what bad things could happen.You should perhaps have a chat with your doctor and see if he can help you with your anxiety.It takes time to find a suitable new job so try to be patient and stop being so hard on yourself.If your friends are letting you down spend quality time with your wife and kids and enjoy your time with them.Try to get therapy for your anxiety and be patient with the job hunt.
    • markR7
      markR7 marleen85993

      Posted

      Thanks. It is a miserable time. Doing a job application now and its a joke. Feels like being at the bottom of a mountain and pushing water up hill. So tired. To see this stupid application through will be at the cost of having a few days away with the kids. Even if I decide to stick with filling in the form, experience rather than pessimism tells me that i wont even get the interview. Didnt think it was possible to be this tired. Thanks tho for your kind words. Im gonna try and sit down in front of tv just now. I think you right about sitting around during the day. I should have taken this form in! Many sincere thanks and best wishes
  • edwina97301
    edwina97301 markR7

    Posted

    Hi mark Sorry you are having a bad day. Don't think your job helps. Spending too much time on our own just makes anxiety worse and we tend to overthink everything and magnify how crappy we feel. I can sit for hours thinking 'poor me' , just wish I could switch off. Definitely helps talking to others but sometimes feel so anxious it's hard to socialise, it's such a vicious cycle, hope your days better tomorrow, 😊??

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