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Depression,anxiety and confusion

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lee12629
lee12629

Me again.Anyone else feel depressed about this situation.My husband is the type that wants to be busy all the time.With this new problem..well realtively new..the atrophy,I have anxiety every day I wake up not knowing if I will feel good enough to go to the store,out to eat,trips etc.He on the other hand wants to be constantly on the go.I still have not decided to take HRT yet,so thus the confusion.I am really scared I will make the wrong choice as what to do about the therapy as well.I have had 3 different doctor opinions so far and that is depressing as it only confused me more,plus all the money its costing.Guess I could use some encourageing words.Thanks.I thought I sailed through menopause and it was over,didnt even know about atrophy..what a surprise and not a good one!

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  • kathleen1958
    kathleen1958 lee12629

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    I don't have much in the way of symptoms as long as I don't try intercourse. When it first started though I had regular UTIs in fact seemed to start after intercourse but I saw a specialist who didprocedure to help with this and also prescribed very strong antibiotics 1 to be taken after intercourse to prevent UTIs.  But the pain when we do attempt anything is so sefere we have more or less just given up now.  I've had various creams but any HTR ones give me bad stomachs pains.   Would love a cure so I could enjoy intimacy again. 
    • fluffmonkey
      fluffmonkey kathleen1958

      Posted

      Hi Kathleen, 

      Yes, I completely agree with you. I am not a sex fiend, but I havent been able to have sex for over five years.I do love my husband, and sometimes I would like to be close with him and show him how much I love him. Doctors seem to completely ignore this aspect of vaginal atrophy, and its physcologically important that we are able to have sex. It seems to be a taboo subject , or at least not a medical one. i am really fed up with the lack of help given to us girls. medically and physcologically.

    • lee12629
      lee12629 kathleen1958

      Posted

      You arent alone..my husband and i also have no sex life..he also has issues,low testoterone..he had problems with treatment for that also. Never when i was younger would i have imagined us having this problem.
    • lee12629
      lee12629

      Posted

      Sorry that comment was for fluffmonkey.sorry about what you are going through also
    • chris00938
      chris00938 lee12629

      Posted

      Lee, Fluffmonkey left the group:-(  She was so put out with what Alan sent to her when he deleted the posts that she left.  She was also very peturbed that a man was moderating.  But I have found her on another group, so if you want to pass a message on, just email me privately.
  • lee12629
    lee12629

    Posted

    Well i have another gyno apt this friday to discuss hrt..taking husband along.I went from red itcy and irritated,now the redness and irritation looks better,but my underwear still irritates me i think i am so dry feel acy,sometimes i feel like i used to right before i used to get my period. Feels like pressure in vulva area.My anxiety is huge..i hope we arent just blameing everything on the atrophy and missing something else.I think i am getting nerve pain there from months of irritation.Started back on calcium citrate and tryed spreading vit e oil on the vulva and vaginal entrance..did feel good when i did it.about to take a shower and put on my 2nd dose can only imagine how irritated our nerves and muscles get there after months of issues.I hope hrt helps..anyone try a low dose anti depressant to help the pain?I am taking anxiety meds,without them by now I would be totally nuts lol.i think my husband is so sick of hearing about this.
    • chris00938
      chris00938 lee12629

      Posted

      It's good that you've got the appointment on Friday Lee because they can check things out and reassure you and hopefully clarify exactly what's going on.  I hope they come up with something that works for you.  Let us know how you get on, won't you.
    • nancyo
      nancyo lee12629

      Posted

      Hi Lee:  I am on an anti depressant and the HRT.. hate taking HRT because I worry about the cancer issue but have no choice with the pain .. I think I am getting a UTI, will wait another day before testing because when the pain starts I can't always tell whats going on.  Sometimes I take a 1/2 xanax for the anxiety because it is awful.  Hopint the best for you and all of the group... I too had all tests because I thought I had something more but wherever I go its the same diagnosis
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