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I'm in need of some serious help. I'm a professional engineer, i started smoking back in 2010 and smoked continuously for all these years. Now when i quit this habit, i'm experiencing very negative thoughts all the time, and specially my brain is targeting the lady, which i'm going to marry in coming months. Please i don't want to spoil my life. She is perfect, i love her deeply and she is also madly in love with me.These negative thoughts are killing me, all the time only negativity comes in my mind about this innocent girl.


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    Wats they'll negative thoughts u need to explain more and how is your brain targeting ur mind is it thoughts of her leaving you or otherwise

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      no...seriously i'm ashamed of even mentioning these imagining about her character, living in imaginery world...i know these are only illusions...but my brain is forcing hard m mind to be in that believe in these illusions...

      u can say, i'm fighting...fighting with my brain...i'm not giving up, but most of the time i feel i lost..

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    How long ago did you quit smoking?  Are you still withdrawing from them?

    what do you mean your negetive thought are tageting the lady you are going to marry? 

    Did you replace smoking with exercise? It may help you feel more positive. Even just putting on some favorite music and dance in your living room! It does not have to be hard.  

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      yup i'm exercising...

      this all started when i quittted smoking 6 months back...after 4 months i started again...and smoked for 2 months.....and now again i quit it, and its been 2 weeks...

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      thoughts are simply just that, thoughts. there need be no shame in them.  i don't have any knowledge in the things that are happening to you, I would suggest seeing a therapist. maybe they can help you sort your thoughts out.

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    I think I know how u feel. I think if u get the thoughts out somehow then someone can tell u or reassure u that you don't really want these things to happen.

    I was also engaged to a great lady but I had thoughts of her dying or wanting her to die. I also thought these things about others I knew which made me think it wasn't just about her. I had been thinking these for years to the point it was just normal for me which also I never told anyone I was ashamed.

    I don't know what's going on inside ur head but I do believe it's stress on you that's partly causing this.

    I bet ur going out of ur mind cos perhaps you feel ashamed to talk. But u must talk to someone a doctor a therapist.

    It will help.


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