Depression..I didn't think it would be like this

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I've been Prozac now roughly 2 months and I still feel really down. I have an awesome wife, a good job and front a quite successful metal band. So why am I feeling like this. I've gone from being an extrovert into an introvert. I feel socially awkward and inadequate. Every time I do go out my drinking becomes excessive. Which then leads to the worst hangover ever. I know it's putting a strain on my marriage because my wifefinds it hard to talk to me sometimes. I just want things to go back to normal..will it? I just don't know..

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    Hi Jaxon,

    It can take a while to get better. When I say a while, I mean many months. Some people get well right away and some, like me, it takes a lot longer. It took me 8 months to get back to normal. I'm not saying that it will take you that long, but you have to take it day by day and hang in there. It WILL get better. 

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      Hi Karen... Glad to hear you are back to your normal self.   Does normal include no more side effects? I am at 4 months , starting to wake up in a better mood also much less  palps ..some days better then others as far as afternoon lethargy....How did you do in this area? I love hearing your posts. 
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      Hi Meeps,  I pretty much feel good all the time. Back to my happy self. Did have a couple of days recently when I felt a little grouchy, but I had those every now and then before I got ill. No more palpitations or anxiety. I started a new job about 8 weeks ago and getting the extra exercise helped alot. I also have all my energy and motivation back. I'm so glad you are improving. Like katecogs always told us, it just takes time and you will eventually recover. 
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    It's not good to drink while on this medication as it makes the side effects much worse. The depression and or anxiety itself will cause you to feel inadequate. I went through the same thing and it will get better.

    Blessings

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    yes Jaxon Karen is right...more like several months instead of weeks.. you go on line and itll say 4 to 6 weeks. I just hit 4months on 40 mg. starting to have some really good days. I used to cry in the morning for no reason... friends were kind of annoyed cause everything in my life is great ...husband , kids  etc. Worse time was in the am , tired in the afternnon , better by evening ...then startall over again the next morning  also anxiety and heart palpitations. Hang in there ....My husband had a hard time understanding at first also. 
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    What changed, Jaxon?  Can you think of a precipitating event that led to you being an introvert, feeling inadequate?
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    Sometimes depression can hit us out of the blue.  Sometimes we know the trigger, and sometimes we don't.  Whatever the cause it's now led you to the path as we have all found ourselves, and often you may find that you may be low on serotonin, our happy hormone.  These meds will help the to put that right.  Sometimes you may benefit from CBT too.

    Depression is very different to what people imagine.  It can bring the strongest man in the world to his knees.  It's a horrible illness and isn't fussy who it's victims are - whether you're rich, poor, whatever age, sex, race, religion ..... if the scene is set and all the conditions are in place, it can happen.  It can take months, years to work up towards depression, whilst for some it can be an instant thing.

    These meds will help you, but they do take time.  You can't hurry recovery, and upping medication doesn't make it quicker either.  However painful it can seem at the moment, it will get better and you will feel back to your normal self again.  Everyone suits different doses.

    Remind yourself you're recovering from an illness and that you will get better.  Next be prepared to be patient - which is probably the hardest.  Patience, whilst the meds are doing their thing, building up, reassurance from yourself and people in this site ........ and in time you'll find yourself again.

    Recovery often comes in patches.  Well one minute, low the next.  Well for an hour then low.  Well for a few days or weeks followed by another low time. This is normal, but the well times get stronger each time and last longer whilst the low times get less and less.

    Its hard sometimes for partners to understand and to be lenient.  It's confusing, and of course it is for the sufferer too.  There are no outward signs of illness, no physical signs,  and people often wonder why you just can't 'pull your socks up' and get over it.  Oh how we'd like to that, but we can't just step out of it, walk away, as it just follows us everywhere.  If there are no other issues, just gently remind your partner that it's often an imbalance of serotonin and in time the meds will help to right it.  This is an illness, same as any other illness, and where meds help right other illnesses, then these meds will help right this.  We can't function with low levels of serotonin.  We can't think, disturbs sleep, appetite, plays havoc with our emotions, make us overthink, causes anxiety and above all robs us of all happiness and contentedness.

    These meds will help in time.  It took just over 4 months for me to start feeling better then further months to get back on top.  Have been well ever since.

    K x

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      Needed to hear that, thank you. I'm on day 2 of (10 mg) for depression and anxiety. Feeling horrible.
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      Hi

      Oh bless you, depression and anxiety are really tough, and taking the medication can be tough too.  They will put you right in the end though, but be prepared for a long, and often quite tough, road ahead.  People often lose their hope, want to give up on the the meds, often think they're not working ....... but all this foxes you.  Just be determined, keep on pushing through with the meds and in time, much time ..... you will find your way through to being yourself again.  If might however take you quicker to feel well - it does often with some people.

      There's lot of people on this site who will help.  Lot going through the same as you as many who've passed through it all and are now well.

      K xxx

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      Thank you for the kind words Kate! Yes, I'm realizing this is a journey. It's just hard when you have a family to take care of and can't put anything on pause. I'm on day 3 of the Flu so I'm trying to stay positive. With people like you it should be a little easier. Thank you.

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      Yes it can be tough when you also have a family to care for and you're on the go all the time.  Remember though, that however tough it gets, it will get better in time ...... much time.  But recovery will come xx

      Bay Area ...  Are you in San Fran?

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      Will do. Yes, I'm right across the bridge from San Fran. Day 4 of Flu l0 mg (starting off slow).
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      It's good start off slow - hope you're doing ok - post your progress xx

      I'm coming to San Fran in January for 10 days (first time in the States).  Excited! 😄✈️

       

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      I will. Well, hope you have a great trip. Be sure to bring your jacket, as the breeze of the coastline gets pretty chilly!
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