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Hi everyone ive been suffering with anxiety and depression for a few years now. Ive tryed medicaton and councilling.i cannot take tablets they make me worse and councilling is no longer useful so ive been getting by wiv the help of my partner but he has recently been sent to prison.my depression as got worse and i feel i cannot cope without him,i feel unloved,unwanted,lost and alone i jyst want someone to talk to really who maybe going threw the same if pos.
Thankyou
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Fanny_Jane
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I know how hard it is for you but you are doing great. We are halfway through September and time is passing before you know it it will be Christmas!
Keep trying your very best to be positive, as you walk along look at the trees and stuff, I often just look at the clouds and think how lovely nature is, smile at a cat, appreciate the fact it's not raining (unless it is raining for you- oh dear).
You will get through all this you just need time to breathe and be calm.
Always thinking of you my dear, Fanny Jane.
Alleyjames
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stacey-james
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Fanny_Jane
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Thanks for asking about my appointments, one lot of good news, one lot of bad news, that's how it goes sometimes.
I am so very sad for you that you are struggling so much. I'm afraid that it is a shame that everything takes so long to get sorted out. It's because there are so many of us.
Although I can't do anything to help you except listen I do urge you to try and eat properly.
Here I do my granny bit... If you don't eat properly your immune system will get low and your body will be suseptable to all sorts of winter bugs and viruses. Then where will you be? Your partner will come home to find a skinny weak person. It is up to you to keep well so that he can come back to a healthy girl.
Also not eating does interfere with our sleep patterns as we get night hunger. Sometimes you do not even realise that this is happening to you, as you get so used to ignoring the fact you are hungry.
Our bodies, especially our insides need nourishment to work properly. You can make yourself seriously ill if your nutrient intake is too low.As you know this leads to you feeling even worse about yourself and life in general.
You don't need to eat three sqaure meals a day if your'e not up to it. Just make sure what you do eat is good stuff.
Make sure you drink milk, eat cereal sometimes, have a bit of fruit, cheese, a salad,nuts or raisins,yogurts even a chocolate bar is full of milk.Soups or pasta are great, cheap and easy and good for you. Marmite (if you are a lover, you may be a hater) is very tasty on a bit of toast or peanut butter as it gives you energy and the nuts are good for you.Good old beans on toast with a bit of grated cheese on is quick and delicious.Ready made custard pots are another idea.
Have a look round and see what you fancy as I'm sure you just don't feel like cooking at the moment.
Have a think about it and try and make the effort to eat now and again.Not just for you but for your family and your partner, even me!
I promise you I'm thinking about you all the time, I've made you my internet honourary grandaughter .
Please keep going Stacey, you are young and have a whole life ahead of you. It's only when you get old like me and you look back that you realise you could have done somethings differently, if only you'd had the courage at the time.
Bless you, take care, let me know how you are doing. Fanny Jane.
stacey-james
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Fanny_Jane
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Well done for phoning the solicitor, I know that takes a big amount of courage to do that. Also for getting a bit more sleep and trying to keep busy. You will get better at dealing with your feelings and anxiety as time goes by.
Obviously no one can know what is going to happen and how long James' sentence will be.Whatever he gets you will have to be strong and make a resolution to carry on with your life while he is inside. You must try and concentrate on other things and be the strong one.
It is an historical fact that we women are good at dealing with hard times and you will deal with yours too.Time slips on by even when something seems like forever away.
I am always available if you want to post me and will hold you in my heart while I go about my daily life.
Bless you and take very good care of yourself, Fanny Jane.
stacey-james
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Fanny_Jane
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Good luck with your assessmet, I shall be thinking of you. Take a deep breath if you are very stressed and try to breathe slowly, it really can help calm you and your body down.
You are doing so well and you are nearly there, October begins on Monday.
Please let me know how you are getting on and try really hard not to get too down.
Remember to think of small things that make you smile, even if it's just a little bit.
One day you will look back at this time of your life and it will seem like a bad dream, as things will improve.
I have had a few really bad experiences myself in the past I assure you, and am amazed to find myself thinking back and being glad that I hung in there and got on with my life.
Bless you, take very good care of yourself, Fanny Jane.
2357
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From what I've read, it appears you have a history of depression and don't really have had much help along the way.
Perhaps, you should consider seeing a different doctor?
I would say you need to be referred to a phychiatrist. You may well need to be on medication.
I know you have said, you can't take antidepressants.
But I don't know the reason for that??
There are many different types and it can also take time to find the right dosage.
This is what a phychiatrist wil help you with.
There's no doubt you have a lot going on in your life.
But, you need to look after yourself first, before you can help anyone else.
Depression, is very complex.
And can make it very difficult to cope with any difficult situations we find ourselves in.
So, this has a 'knock on' effect.
I don't know if you have any children or pets?
I have 3 dogs and i know I couldn't cope without them.
it's also, a reason to get up in the morning, because i have to see to their needs.
if you are able to have a pet, i'd seriously think about it. the shelters and rescue organisations are full of animals, needing a good, loving home.
i have Bipolar and many health issues. i am in constant pain.
But, we can always find someone worse of than ourselves.
Hang on in there and try to be proactive in getting the help and support you need.
even if you have to go back to the doctors every day.
trying to cope without the proper help, is not going to make your situation any better.
stacey-james
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Fanny_Jane
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Of course James is on your mind, quite natural and normal, it is by thinking of people that they live in our hearts all the time. Believe it or not I think of my hubby (40 years together) all the time. He goes away now and again on business and I really miss the old boy! Goodness knows why he drives me mad most of the time.. My son is in the Navy and goes away for long periods. He has a wife and two little ones, so both my daughter-in-law and I know what it is to miss someone badly and ache for the days to pass when he comes home. He always does though and then we make up for lost time.
3 weeks is nothing, everyday is a day nearer and before you know it he will be home again. You must make sure you are eating properly to be healthy and pretty for him when he gets back. He will be longing to get home as much as you I'm sure. He needs a happy face and welcoming smile.
Soon you will be together, you have been so strong and you are almost there. I include you in my prayers every day and am so pleased that you will be together before Christmas.
You can then move on and live your life. Stacey, learn to appreciate the small things of life. A smile from a stranger, a dogs waggy tail, a beautiful tree. The other day I was pushing my grandson in his buggy when we saw the most beautiful rainbow, it was so lovely and my grandson was entranced and excited to see it. He told his mummy we saw a painting in the sky and we laughed together for sheer joy of it.
Bless you my dear, I am here when you want a chat, take care and please allow yourself to learn to smile again. Fanny jane.
stacey-james
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Thankyou
take care
Fanny_Jane
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You are bound to be feeling apprehensive with James coming home again as It will be a big moment in your life. One minute you will be feeling over the moon and the next the anxiety will set in again. This is absolutely normal so try not to worry too much. Two weeks will whizz by and during this time you will have ups and downs. Just keep busy and as postive as you can.
Remember that James will also be feeling anxious and will need a lot of support when he finally come back.
Thank you for asking I am up and down too but my woes are more physical and I'm very used to them.
Today I am looking forward to my sister visiting later on. We will have a good old natter, drink tea and eats lots of cake! Very boring really but nice to catch up together.
Take very good care Stacey, you are nearly there and I am thinking of you while you wait. Fanny Jane.
stacey-james
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Take care and i will speak to you soon
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