Effects of Depression on emotions AFTER breakdown.

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Hi, last year I was under enormous pressure at work which also coincided with deciding I wanted to do a differnt job. This led to alot of time off work with anxiety and depression after I just completely broke down in front of my boss and suffered panic attacks whenever I thought about coming back to work, I went back to work after three months. My question is this. Does going through somethiing traumatic actually effect how we react to stress and emotions further down the line? I'm currently going through a procedure at my place of work where they are trying to see whether i'm able to do the job. Pretty soon, if i'm not careful, I wont have a job. The problem is, I dont feel anything anymore. Stress used to be a big trigger for me to complete tasks but now I feel nothing. Jobs dont get done, I dont do things which would actually benefit me and to be honest alot of the time I dont care. I do have a family who I love very much and I know I should, and normally would, do everything to try and save my job. I just dont seem to have the will power anymore. Can anyone help? how do I force myself to get through life. The only time I feel stress now is when its too late, and pretty soon it will be. I dont know what to do anymore.

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    Yes traumatic events can change how we think.

    I used to get bullied very badly when I was around 15 and got so stressed and upset I now totally shut off my emotions towards anything because I got destroyed so it's easier to just block off any emotions and feel nothing.

    It's just a way I cope and probably how you are aswell which isn't healthy, I have only just come to terms that I need help and need to stop thinking I'm fine. Don't force yourself to do things though, I find that to only make myself worse.

    You are lucky you have a caring family and should take the support from them but you should go and see your doctor. There's nothing like talking to people who understand you, coming here helps me deal with things until my flight back home when I can start therapy..

    People here are very nice and we all help each other smile

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      Thanks Jake. You're right, people here are friendly. I've used the forum before but haven't been on in a while. My problem used to be that I would get so stressed out about doing little things I would kind of freeze and then have to distract myself from the task in hand so I would feel better. Now I just dont care about anything and I know its wrong. I know that I'll be putting my family and home at risk by losing this job but for some reason that doesn't seem to be enough to give me a wake up call. I have an appointment with my doctor tonight. Its actually about an ear infection I think I have but I'll probably mention this too and see what he says.
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      I know this hardly compares but worth saying.

      Last year I was probably at my lowest, dealing with all the problems I have and having to finish college and the stress of both got too much for me.

      I had done amazing the year before and had one year left and was just totally burnt out on my life that nothing could change how I feel and just shut down completely. I knew if I failed I had wasted 2 years but it just wasn't enough anymore and just couldn't care.

      And yeah it's worth bringing it up with your doctor, I have to go 2 more weeks before my flight but I feel if things get any worse I might have to see if anything can be done over here and see if a doctor will see me. 

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    This appraisal or assessment probably sees you differently now  because you are dealing with stress differently so maybe the job won't be right for you anymore if you are ill and don't react to stressful situations anymore.


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    I used to be in a very stressful job and coping with lots of targets.  I found the stress came first then was followed by a reoccurance of my depression, and anxiety as well. Depression can make you feel numb and unable to cope and you can get burn out.  Does this sound like you?  Some stress in life is good but we all vary in the amount of stress we can take.  Too much stress equals burn out.  

    I would go to your doctors,  maybe you need some counselling?  Or meds might help.  

    Do your firm know you suffer from stress?  They should be able to help perhaps making some reasonable adjustments ie more sick leave for stress or extra breaks etc.  Are you in a trade union?  You would get help from them

    Another thing you should get is a stress risk assessment form from work - ask for one.  This will highlight the areas you find most stressful.  A company has a legal requirement under health and safety to make adjustments to help an employee to stay in work.  

    You could also ring ACAS for information.  Good luck.  x

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    Did you take any medication during this time? They do say with benzos or antidepressants that they can alter your response to stress. Please research that.

    I had a physically abusive partner for years until I left him this Xmas and then i got depression. I also went back to work then got made redundant but I did feel all ofthis.

    I would say the numbness to stress is a self preservation mechanism to prevent the feelings you previously felt. In short your mind is thinking "I am not feeling like that again*

    I'd see a councellor and look into the medication IF you take any. I dont take anything but had citalopram 10mg for the depression after I left him.

    It will get better

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