Everything is a mess

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I am failing 3 of my most important classes right now, my room is a mess, I just broke up with my boyfriend for a little break who is now suicidale and seems to forget that I am going through the same thing as him, I haven't gotten more than 4 hours of sleep for the past month, and I can barley get through one class period without going on the verge of tears. I take a medication that helps me pay attention, there was a week when I didnt have them and that explains my grades. Someone please help I don't know what to do

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    If you havnt done this already you should talk with your doctor, student councillor, and your boyfriend and family. Dont carry this trouble on your own. You can always deffer your studies but not your health. You are young with all life ahead get help and support, things will get better, believe me I have been there.
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    Hi Brynna,

    Please keep in mind that your are not resposible for your (ex?) boyfriends behaviour or threats of suicide. If you think he is likely to try you should report it to the student councillor/meduical professional they have at the uni. In fact do this anyway that way you know you have done what you can. Also advice him to get help but remember you cannot and should not force him, this is his resposibility not yours. You cannot help people who wont help themselves. For him to dump on you while not taking steps to help himself is unfair and selfish. And the more you feed that behaviour with yout attention the more it will continue. I have had personnal experiance with this. If you truly believe he is in danger then tell a medical professional who is trained and in a better position to help than you are. But do not accept responsability for his actions and do not accept emotional blackmail in any form. 

    OK, that said now you need to spend some time thinking about and looking after your self. What meds do you take for concentration? Are they stimulant based? Maybe some sort of amphetamine? These. will keep you awake, increase your stress levels and contribute to worry and paranoia. Sure they may help you concentrate in the short term but long term not sleeping is your biggest enemy with concentration and stress. Please take a step back from it all. Take time out and rest. 1 week off uni to rest and recover is better than another 4 weeks of learning nothing because your exhausted and stressed out. Me time is what you need, with some good nights rest. Come of the stimulants (including caffiene after 4pm) and relax. If you cannot sleep don't worry just replaxe with a good book. Keep away from the phone. lablet and laptop at night as well. If you still have trouble speaking go and speak to your gp.

    You said you have problems of your own. Besides boyfriend and sleep what of problems do you have? Please let us know so we can help.

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    Hi there Brynna,

    I would suggest the first thing is to speak to your doctor.  Be honest with them and explain how you are and feel.     Is it your schooling or your break up that has brought these feelings on, or are there other issues?  They will listen and it maybe that you need some form of medication to help you, even if only for a while.  Sleeping will help, so even if you just talk to them about that please do.

    Life can be cruel and we do not always get or have the answers, but there are always others that have experienced the same so please do not feel alone.  Others on here will always offer you support, be strong and chat here, it can help.

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    Hi brynna, like a lot of posts I also suggest you see your doctor as soon as possible as you need help to cope with all this anxiety and depression. You need to sit down with your boyfriend and try and explain exactly what you are going through. You should also sit and talk to your family.  Your schooling comes second and your health must come first.  You can always go back to your studies at a later date.  What exactly are you on to make you pay attention?
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    Hey, Im in such a similar position, I broke up with my girlfriend recently amounst other things. I was scared to tell people but I did, my friends who are all very 'lady' have helped me so much sending my to university counselling who helped me pluck up the courage to go to the docs and get my diagnosis. Just talking an hour a week makes you feel like somebodys there. I love my ex but at the moment talk about it but do things that make you happy, your studies will take care of themslves one way or another.
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