everytime I get back up something knocks me straight back down

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suffering with depression don't get much support had terrible life last few years lost 5 family members and it's thrown me for 6 I don't wanna socialise don't wanna be at family occasions I used to be full of life always happy and not stressed things have got to me this week have been really low have had man flue to and must say I have never been so ill on all my life not eaten for 5 days headaches and sore throat missed seeing my kids this week to as was so low and poorly I don't think I'm ever be right again my stepfather unless is getting worse and don't think he will last long I know I've got to go thru all this once again life's so cruel 😢😢😢

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    Warren

    In my past I have lost many family members etc and sometimes it can take an extended period to get over the loss.

    The best way of getting over these losses is to talk to family members around you about the person who has just gone, talk about the good as well as the bad times. In this way you celebrate the persons life and you confirm your feelings regards the loss and remember the person as a vital person with all that was human and loving associated with that person.

    If you have no-one to talk to you will need to talk to your GP and arrange some CBT to talk out your family losses.and the mixed feeling we all have when someone we love departs this World.

    I have always found that helping the person when ill to death helps me understand I did all I could for the person. when alive. You see the person not only as family also someone with all the weaknesses that we all have in those final periods of life. Yes I understand this may be not possible in many cases, so we do not get that chance.

    Remember the person warts and all and accept  and remember.

    BOB

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    Hello Warren. So sorry for all the loss that you have and are experiencing! I like you...have lost several...major people in my life one after the other and it was very painful but like Bob I was able with my mother to spend an enormous amount of time with her and was with her when she passed away. It helped me so..much. With others it was sudden and I could not be there at the time. We all will experience loss it's a part of life. 

    Warren life sometimes sends is one thing after the other instead of one thing at a time. Don't understand that but we have to cling to the people that are left and let ourselves grieve. Maybe you could benefit from some grief counseling. I did. 

    Getting that physically sick only complicated an already difficult situation. So sorry. 

    The one thing that you can count on is that we on this site understand the pain of depression and anxiety plus loss. Will you please keep us posted? We care. Diane

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    Warren a couple of things when I am in my disease of depression it says withdraw don't see people..hide away..feed the demon..stay away from family then they can't comfort you! Turn into yourself. It takes everything that I have to get ready and walk out that door and see the people that I love and that love me. I refuse to give (depression) my disease control over me!  I fight it. I hope you let your family comfort you. Try hard to put yourself where you..your friends and family can lean on each other. 

    I'm no different than you except that I have antiperspirants and lots of therapy under my belt. I don't know if you have tried meds and counseling but they have really saved me. Good luck friend! Diane

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