extremely LOW self esteem/ social anxiety help! :(

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Hi all.

So in the last few years I have suffered from slight social anxiety but it's always been on and off nothing major. I would still go out with close friends and so on. However this has became the worst it has been in the last 3 months. I am 21 years old male, and I suffer from extremely low self esteem. 3 months ago my eyes became bloodshot for no reason and wouldn't go. I refused to go in to work with bloodshot eyes and therefore got the sack. Anyway 3 months on my eyes still have slight red veins in them that are visible and is driving me nuts. I am a person who if I don't feel like i look good i won't go out the house it's as simple as that. Which at the moment is pretty much every day. I feel I look ugly and don't want to be seen in public. I would hate to bump in to somebody i went school/college with because in my mind I feel as though they would be thinking what's happened to him! I think when I do look my best I would consider myself fairly attractive but it seems to be getting worse and worse im only 21! I am so insecure it is ruining my life. I can't see myself ever getting into a relationship. The really sad thing is that when I get to know somebody I do feel like i am a really nice person but people think i am unsociable when I don't want to be! I don't work and the job centre are sending me on courses which I don't turn up to because of my social anxiety!

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    I think you should get professional help dealing with such issues. I understand abit because I've been depressed since I was a teenager. I've low self-esteem too and you know what? It's ruining alot for me, it ended my relationship because my partner feels I don't love myself.

    I'm currently using online forums to learn how to start loving myself n recognizing that I deserve good things. I always feel less than everybody else, feeling like my partner was with me out of pity. Feeling like people were judging me when I walk on the street. I have a serious inferiority complex n I'm determined to deal with it. I'm not an American citizen so I don't have health coverage n cannot afford professional help.

    But if you can get help then do it. Trust me, these feelings we have will only cause us to exist while everyone else is living.

    You deserve to live and you deserve to have a relationship.

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    Self esteen isues are in your head, you need to accept who you are.

    Is it affecting your relationships with others?

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      It does not affect my relationship with my family but going out, bumping in to somebody I might know, meeting new people I just can not do because I am so insecure.
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      Spend time with your family and build up your comfort level. You need them.

      Think about the happier moments in your life, and try to get back to those. It's hard but you can do it.

      If you need anything, keep posting on this forum or send me a PM. 

      All the best.

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      Thanks that means a lot. I just sit here and think depression on a whole is a really serious thing but when you're a young adult and have the whole world infront of you but because of anxiety/depression everything is holding me back and I am not making the most of life. I sit in my room and wait till the day ends over and over again literally!
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    Low self- esteem stems from negative self-talk. you Can overcome it. You should check out my site north shore life coaching.
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