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I had anterior and posterior surgery in late feb this year. I feel like it's prolapsed again as there's a bulge, although smaller and constant wanting to wee all the time. Getting up in the night to go too. Also got a pain on my left side which I had before the surgery. So fed up I stopped doing pelvic floor excercises as it seemed a waste of time! I really don't want to go to my GP again , I feel like a hypochondriac!

I was silly as I carried a really heavy weight for my friend who'd had her thumb injected and she asked me to help her with shopping! That was about 2 months ago and I so regret doing it :0(

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    Hi Rosiepix,

    So sorry to hear how worried you are, I do so hope that things dort themselves without the need for future surgery.

    It is so difficult to avoid weight bearing on some occasions.

    When I pack shopping for elderly customers I try to split the weight into different bags, and I dread it in case they ask me to lift their bag into their trolley. Although have been told to shout for help and ask one of the other girls for help.

    Even worse on self scan when they scan one of the heavy cases of juice or beer and change theit mind and no longer want it, as I can't leave it sitting at till point and our runner is not always around.

    I have to bend knees and hold anything heavy at chest level so my upper body takes the weight. I understand the position you were in with your friend, it is very difficult.

    Please go see your GP, maybe get refers back to the physio. The physiotherapist may still be able to help. I do hope this all sorts itself.

    Keep in touch.

    Phyllis x💖💖💖

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      Thanks Phyllis, I was so stupid doing that, us women aren't used to not being able to do things are we! I'm calling my GP Monday . Hope you're continuing to improve xx

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      Thanks Rosipix,

      I'm good, great to be out and about and functioning, but also frustrating being limited by repair all the time. I know it's sounds ungrateful but I'm not; in fact very grateful that I am back at work and can go swimming, light weight shopping, lightweight housework. But get frustrated having to moan at others for things like hoovering the stairs, heavier shopping, haven't asked about spring cleaning yet (I remember pulling everything out a cuboard last autumn, it had not been done since last repair) it was starting to smell fusty and damp. Maybe that's when I damaged repair last time as I remember saying to my friend at work that it had been too much.

      Anyhow reminding myself it's not worth the risk as end up in pain and unable to do anything and stuck in house all the time.

      Glad to hear you will visit GP, maybe if it's only a little lapse it will sort itself in time.

      Fingers crossed for you, take care,

      Phyl x💖

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      I had my 2nd surgery about 3 years after the 1st surgery. Not really sure what caused the failure, think it was a number of things going wrong as well as lack of information on my part. But looking back surprised it lasted that long. Hoping this one last but finding it difficult to protect at work.

      Can't afford to retire and don't want to be dependent. Have had a look on job sites but most jobs are either long hours on feet or looking for recent experience in office based employment. Not easy to change direction at this stage.

      My initial prolapse was very extensive, didn't realize what was happening in heavy manual work and then I was trying to avoid surgery not knowing how far gone it was and ended up stuck in house and almost completely off my feet. 9 months from hospital referal to surgery. Had surgery cancelled twice before getting fixed.

      This time I went straight for it as things only get worse while putting the inevitable off. Hoping things will last this time being ever so carefully. Don't know how I will protect repair for 10 years till retirement .

      But as Matron says new and improved techniques all the time so surgery only ever getting better as well as specialised training too.

      Phyl x💖

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      Oh wow you have been through it! If it wasn't for this pain in my side I'd just learn to live with it but it's so niggly all the time I can't imagine not getting it rectified. I'm due to retire and have been putting it off. 65 in Feb so it's imminent and think this new episode will be the push for me to give it up. I work with under 5s so it's quite physical xx

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      You are so lucky that you are near retirement if u was you and needing surgery again would wait until retirement if at all poss... to give any new repair the best chance to be successful.

      But hopefully you will not need another repair , maybe some time off and a good rest it can't be easy coping with toddlers.

      Phyl x?💖

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      Yes, Def... agree wish I was at least 20/30 years younger but retain the wisdom. I miss not being able to help my eldest daughter with her three cheeky monkeys all under 4 yrs.

      I did help after 1st repair but this time taking no chances. She has went back to work full time now so their dad has them full time, feel a bit sorry for him, his mum helps when not touring around the country. One of my younger daughters helps out a lot and occasionally takes the older boy overnight to give them a rest as do the rest of us on occasion.

      I can't wait till I retire have lots of plans about what I'm going to do. But of course it all depends on being healthy enough to have resonable quality of life, and my sister keeps reminding me about taking it very careful and allowing enough time for proper healing as we are talking about the rest of our life's.

      Anyway, I suppose we spend our lives adjusting to circumstances!

      Good luck with GP,

      Phyk x💖💖💖

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    Hello Rosiepix. We haven't heard from you for ages. Sorry to read your update but I think you know the problem and it's no good saying you don't want to go to see your GP again but that's the only way you'll get a definite answer. I think it's very probable you've prolapsed again if you lifted something heavy. The advice to not lift anything heavy, particularly so soon after surgery is given for a reason. I can't believe your friend allowed you to help either. Please see your GP and see if your Urogynaecologist will see you again x

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      I know I'm going to have to go, I guess I'm embarrassed about what I've done, it was so stupid! I knew at the time it was madness but my friend has just recovered from breast cancer and then I'd gone with her for a painful injection in her thumb, guess I was put on the spot really. Thanks for your reply Matron, I'll call the Drs Monday to make an appointment, I hope it's not a case of surgery again so soon. Xx

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      Let us know how you get on Rosiepix. I'm not convinced a Urogynaecologist will be keen to operate again so soon after your last repair particularly if you are honest as to how you ended up in this position. Physio may be recommended first as phyl mentioned but I know in my Trust surgery wouldn't be offered initially.

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      It just goes to show how easily prolapse can happen again and how little it takes.

      Problem often is even family/friends around us while understanding we can't lift anything heavy (that they find heavy) , they don't realize that what is normally fairly light to them (when they have strong pelvic floors), may be heavy to us (as our pelvic floor while repaired can not support the same weight it use to) . They really expect so much more, and do not understand that something they think is lightweight is heavy to us.

      Because we have to live with this all the time it can sound like we are always going on about prolapse all the time when reminding them we need help. They expect us to be completely fixed and as strong as we were before prolapse.

      Anyway sorry for rant, I get frustrated when I don't get needed help and when I attempt things myself they say I should have left it.

      My 2nd repair and feel family/friends should be well enough educated to understand certain things I will never be able to do.

      At end of day I suppose it's down to ourselves and we just can't take chances!

      Everyone please take care of yourselves first and be very very careful, don't take chances with your repairs.

      Phyl x💖💖💖

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      It is very frustrating phyl I agree. I lift heavy things now and have for a while but we are all different and how long we have to be careful depends a lot on the initial prolapse and how big a repair was needed. I don't believe we have to be extremely careful for the rest of our lives but we definitely do have to for the first 12-18 months. Then I think we can gradually lift slightly heavier things. When I shop my husband tends to be with me but I have lifted heavy bags into the car but I'm 6 years post op! If I remember rightly Rosiepix's prolapse was quite bad and her surgery was only in February which in prolapse repair recovery is early days unfortunately. It's just a reminder to us all to think twice before we do any lifting and being firm with family and friends when they expect us to do anything that could cause problems. Xx

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