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Feel like no one will will want to be with me.. with HSV1

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Lilsezi
Lilsezi

After a sexual assult nearly 3 years ago i am still having trouble getting on with my life... work is fine, but my social life seems to have slipped through my fingers.

im single 28 and feel that my love life now will not exist...

i feel hurt and somewhat ashamed and embarrassed.

i cant talk to anyone about this. I eork and work and try to advoid going out with anyone because i make up stupid excuses to stand themup.

Does anyone have any advise of moving forward from this? I thought it would get easier but i advoid getting close to anyone.

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  • Misterrandom
    Misterrandom Lilsezi

    Posted

    First things first, be kind to yourself, there is a lot to unpack and the HSV is only part of it. There is no need to rush, you are only 28.  Be honest and try to figure out of you are really ready to start dating or if you are just doing it because you feel you should.

    Have you had councelling to help with how you are feeling?  it may be worth looking into this if not.

    https://patient.info/health/cold-sores-leaflet (HSV1)

    http://www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/Rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centres/LocationSearch/364 (put your postcode in and it will give you a list of services in your area which can help)

    • Lilsezi
      Lilsezi Misterrandom

      Posted

      Hi thank you for your reply it means allot to me hearing back from people.

      Its been 5 months since i posted my first post.

      Since then i have started councelling. After 3 years and not talking to anyone about this it was so hard to let anyone know what happened.

      I feel i have a friend and a safe place that i can go to.

      I havent met anyone and your right i was only feeling that way because i thought i had to as everyone else is.

      I still distance myself from everyone. But i feel little by little i am coming out of my shell again. I do get lonely but im protecting myself.

      Thank you so much for the links too smile its been a good read. And you have encouraged me to get some councelling.

  • feelbroken
    feelbroken Lilsezi

    Posted

    You got HSV 1 from genital to genital assault?

    Have you sought counseling? I highly recommend that.

    I have gfs w herpes and all of them are married now, but one is in a relationship and all but two have kids. This is not the end of your romantic like and none have been turned down

    • Lilsezi
      Lilsezi feelbroken

      Posted

      Hi feel broken

      Yes i received HSV1 from a night of unfortunate circumstances and events.

      I havent sought counseling as yet i feel its quiet hard to talk about this.

      I feel that if i get close to anyone they will run as soon as they find out..

      But im stopping myself from moving on with life and i think there is no better time than the present.

      One day one foot forward i guess.

      Thank you for your reply smile

      i guess its good to know i have these forums to talk to.

    • feelbroken
      feelbroken Lilsezi

      Posted

      Google H Opportunity. There are clips about dealing w our diagnosis. The moderators all have it and provide counseling.

      I disclosed to an old flame and tried to scare him off w it and it didn't work. I have 6 friends w it, all are married w kids now and only one has received a rejection, but the guy was still willing to sleep w her.

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