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Hi there I'm a 24 year old mum of 1. Have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks since I was around 5 years of age. Has got progressively worse since loosing my mum march 2011 to cancer.
I have bad health anxiety and every slight synptom I terrify myself and imagine myself in worst case scenario- This happens on many days. I feel my anxiety is out of control. My fear of getting Ill is so intense that I have bad contamination ocd. ( showering approx 3 times a day, hand and clothes washing ) and I'm feeling exhausted and lost with everything. My mood changes dramatically and rapidly through the day. From very happy and chilled, to extremely anxious and worried, to angry, and so on.
I have a lovely family , partner and a beautiful 19 month old daughter. But I feel terribly guilty constantly for having this anxiety / panic and grief. I don't know where to turn.
I want to avoid tablets if I can. I just want to be more care free. And to enjoy all the amazing things I have. I want to be told everything will be ok. I'm guessing things got worse since loosing my mum. I'm just confused and terrified of letting my family down
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cassie59233 emmamia
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I no exactly how you feel
I lost 3 people in 7 months of cancer 2 was very close they was my nan and grandad since then ive suffered bad anxiety everything that happens i convince my self i have cancer and im dieing i went docs so many times im in councilling atm..i to didnt want tabs as thats not curin it thats a tab makin u happy id rather solve prob but sounds silly someone said to me cassie if u had cancer what will worring do it wont cure it and they said you will spend your hole life worring u wont never enjoy life and since then ove had odd moments but nothing like i was when i think bad i distract my self and say its in your head cass move on and then i do and im fine its hard i no but you got take control my lympth nodes are up in neck and elbow i convinced my self i had cancer and was going to die there still up now but doc says not to worrie so im not and stay off google that sent me crazie with fear lol im so sorry of loss of your mum x
emmamia cassie59233
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I'm sorry Cassie about the people you've lost! Its so hard isn't it. No one gives u a book on how to deal with death and how to grieve. Suppose it a different path for everybody though. I always have lymph nodes up too, so you're not alone there! ( doc says they're harmless )
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richard89308 emmamia
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you must be worn out with all that showering and washing. I do think losing your mum must have had a big impact. Sometimes life events like that can make your own problems seem 10 times worse. This health anxiety may or may not be linked to Mums demise but from reading other blogs on this it must be very hard.
My thoughts are with you.
Richard
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irina1975 emmamia
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I didn't want to take meds either, but at the time I was in such a bad place, the only way to deal with it was take the meds.
I also went through therapy, read books and I learnt a lot about it.
Did you try any form of therapy? CBT, mindfulness?
I really hope you are feeling better! And don't google any of your symptoms. I learnt this the hard way!
emmamia irina1975
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I have started CBT therapy although my therapist is off sick ( little ironic I know ) so I've had a very long break from it. But hoping to get back on track soon! Just really needed to talk to someone. Thanks for your kind words. Hope u r having a nice evening xxxxxx
irina1975 emmamia
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I've read many posts here, and it helps to know I'm not alone.
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malcolm47 emmamia
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I am now 64 and have suffered this since age 9,not as bad now as it was,I think it's worse the younger you are,so understand your feelings very well.
I lost my dad in 2011 oddly enough,Esophagus cancer,I nursed him during his last 4 days at home,it was terrible,and like you,his death hit me hard,even at my age then,which was 61.
I have really just got over it,having been very down,sad,suicidal as well,so I know how you feel.
But you are not letting anyone down at all,and you will recover,but more time is needed,if tablets are offered for your anxiety then there is no harm in trying them,some people get by without,others get too reliant,I am in between,currently I am on 600mg Pregabilin,which are very good for me.
I now have Barretts Esophagus,a possible precursor to Esophagus cancer same as mum and dad,however I stay positive,and try not to let the anxiety take over and render me fearful and depressed,I just want to prove to myself that i can beat whatever is thrown at me,if I lose,then so be it,life's just too short.
I wish you well,stay strong and keep on believing!
Regards Malc
emmamia malcolm47
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So sorry to hear about your dad..its hard no matter what age you are. To loose a parent is just awful. I too nursed my mum through her sickness with chemotherapy and when she came to the end of her life ( can't seem to erase those memories )
I'm sorry to know you've been so down and suicidal but also so happy for you that you're feeling a bit brighter recently! Well done you that's great!!!!
Sorry to hear your not in perfect health, bit as you just said....you can beat whatever is thrown at u!!!! And I believe it! I can tell! Just keep doing an amazing job!!!!!
I just want to get to a point where I can accept what's happened and move on and be a little more level headed!!
Thanks so much for your kind words. Really appreciate it xxxxx
malcolm47 emmamia
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Thank you for your kind words,means a lot,lost my mum with Esophagus cancer too,double whammy really,but what can you do.
My anxiety actually started with being abused at a tender age,then having to live with mum's drinking,she was an alcoholic,but also clinically depressed most of her life,but never saw a doctor until a week before she died,not the best of starts.
It is so hard to forget those torrid times when our folks were ill,dad was 3 stone when he died,I saw some sights I wish I'd never seen,but during his last days things he said and did,restored my faith in some form of afterlife,it was sad,yet beautiful at the end.
But hard to take for sure,you too have been through it,all credit to you,you are stronger than you think,and I am certain you will see better days,it will take its course.
We on this forum are brethren,struck down by an unseen yet ever present malady that strikes at your core,time and time again,yet with suffering comes understanding(it will happen),yet we should never forget our loved ones,hard to accepy,yes,but accept we must,I sincerely wish you all the very best in your struggle to find meaning in all this,but it is so damned hard at times,you may message me any time you feel the need,I will try to help you through,all I ask is that you will do the same for me in time of need.
You take care now!
Yours Malc
emmamia malcolm47
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I do hope your health improves or at least stays the same and not get any worse. I really do.
Yes always here to talk. Hope you've had a good day!
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malcolm47 tracieann
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Thanks love,yep had a load of bad stuff going down over the years,but got through,I've always took the rough with the smooth as best I can,but been a struggle at times,all what's happened makes me feel tainted,and I know that there will be lows again for sure,but got to see it through.
Feel good at moment with Barretts and nerves/anxiety,but cycling 15 miles a day is helping a lot,sleeping very well too,fitness and sleep is key for me,I can take on the world when I'm fit.
I hope you are doing well,nice to know we are very similar in the way life has dealt its cards,and I offer you hugs back,and please keep in touch,you are my soul sister and I love to hear from you.
LOL Malc
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