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Sorry, but the chances of you having herpes are high if your boyfriend has coldsores and you were diagnoses. I'm assuming it's hsv1 though. In terms of telling partners I usually tell them I get coldsores without specifying where those coldsores are. It's the exact same virus and hsv1is actually less contagious genitally than it is orally as it sheds less. As long as you use condoms and avoid sex when you have itching or tingling you're transmission rates are very low. And if your new bf already has hsv1 (80% ish of the world are estimated to have it already) you're even less likely to infect him. It's really not a big deal so don't let it get you down.

I felt that way too two doctors said I had cellulitis not herpes well I dont believe them and they told me not to push the issue and a culture revealed I indeed wwas exposed to hsv2

If it is from a cold sore, then it is Type 1, which rarely sheds or outbreaks in most people, hence why you've not been bothered by it since. If you were diagnosed by swab test, it is accurate, but genital Type 1 is also not particularly infectious, so I wouldn't be overly concerned. Double check which type you have, but the odds are extremely high it's Type 1.

I seriously think u should investigate what u have, it's gone past the point of being embarrassed and time for you to take care of you. Look at your symptoms and begin treatment. Did they recommend any medication or treatment after the first visit, since you had the itching? It's possible to have type 1 and not 2 and the blood test can verify.

Firstly, you will not die, or cause death of anybody because of this.. This is not a curable disease (at least for now) but a manageable one, with right life style and right medication. However, it cannot be up to a nurse to diagnose you, only an attending can do that, with the right type of examination and tests. Most of the times, dermatology or venereologyt is the right specialty for that, not gynecology. Seeing the right specialist is the first thing to do. Keep in mind that many people with HSV-2 may not know they actually have it. Those twitches and tingling sensations, as you call them are called prodromes, assuming it is HSV, and would mean that your virus might be active. Please avoid sex during those times, as it may be contagious, but that is not as bad as having blisters. You definitely must be more careful if you have blisters, not just sex but also taking care of your personal hygene. Anyway, you can find hundreds of articles online so I will cut it short. This is manageable and if you follow certain rules (usage of condoms proper anti viral medication, immunity supplements etc), chances of you transmitting it to someone else is very low. Assuming that you have it, your symptoms in the first year will be far severe than the years to come. This is because your immune system will adapt to the virus and will be able to fight it more effectively. Plus, you will learn to listen to your body and take necessary precautions. However, first things first, you should have a proper diagnosis, and to have that, you need to consult to the right physician with the right specialty. 

Hi guys thanks for all the comments. Today I went to the sexual health clinic, she's had a look, and took swabs for things like thrush, bacterial vaginitis and everything seems to be fine. I've mentioned the itching and told her how frequent it is, she has said that it's nothing to worry about and it probably isn't herpes because that does cause itching!!? I've been told to just wait until it happens again and then go back.