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For the past few weeks, I have had this overwhelming feeling of sadness and lonliness. My nurse practioner upped my meds and my anxiety isn't as strong as it was. But now I feel I'm in a depression. I get weepy and thinking about the things I don't have. Looking at other people thinking they have it way better than I do.
?It hasn't been a month since my girlfriend and I broke up, but now the emotions are hitting me. We are working on being friends, but I'm still in mourning.
?Maybe we will get back together or just remain friends. We both things to work on and we support each other. I guess time will only tell.
?Just looking for some cheering up. I need a little boost. Thanks!!
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lisalisa67 Tip
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cia42277 Tip
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Dear Tip, Looking at others that seem to have it better than you can only make you feel worse. Cut that out, girl! If you must compare, compare with the millions of people all over the world who are much worse off than you.
Children who live on the streets, single parents with kids...homeless, people dying of starvation all over the world, flood and earthquake victims with no money, no hope, nowhere to go, children dying of cancer who haven't even had any life yet, etcl.
We are really very lucky. We are strong, resilient, determined, have homes, have this forum, etc. See where I am going? Let's decide to be grateful, Tip...how about it? Find someone to hug, even if it's a virtual hug on this forum. I am sending you a big bearhug right now, Honey.
Tip cia42277
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Thamnk you cia - your words mean a lot to me. Yes, I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and start being grateful.
?Thank you !! I'm sending you guys a big virtual hug.
cia42277 Tip
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Good for you, Tip. I'm proud of you, Honey.
helen20833 Tip
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Seperating from someone we love, Tip, is a form of bereavement honey. It takes time to heal. Don't dwell upon what you don't have. Look at all you do have. It saddens me because I suspect deep down you are hanging onto the hope you will get back together. This state of limbo does you no good. All that uncertainity heightens tension, adding stress.
Weeping isn't a true negative, it's a form of release, Tip. A letting go. I'm not saying let go of your wish to get back together because who knows? But for now you have to accept that it is over; whether temporarily or permanently.
As for people having things way better than you? The face we show to the world is not always a true face. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors and in people's hearts.
It is said that 1in 3 people suffer some form of Anxiety/ Depression. Stand at a window and watch people pass by. Someone passing will be struggling with either depression or anxiety. You won't see it. It is not visible. But it's there, it exists.
Sometimes those we regard as the happiest couples surprise us by seperating.Those we least expect it of walk out on their lives. Others have affairs. People we never thought of having issues.
Everyone wants to be happy, it's only natural. But desiring what we cannot have, which in you case might be temporary, feeling sad and resentful that others lives are better, is not the way to attain it. For now focus upon yourself. Let the meds help you along, allow the friends here to support and encourage you, spoil yourself with little feel good treats; something that makes you happy no matter what; a new book, a scented bath, chocolates, a bright pot plant to make you smile, a manicure, pedicure, whatever lifts your spirits
I too, send hugs XXX
Helen
Tip helen20833
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I agree with you whole heartedly. You're right, the faces we see onthe outside, we have no ideas what's going on on the inside.
I appreciate all your words of encouragement. It truly means alot.
?My meds are helpingme alongmy way and that, I am thankful.
?I know happines is within and I need to find it again. For both me and my health.
?Thank you all my friends. You are a true blessing.
lisalisa67 Tip
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helen20833 lisalisa67
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It strikes a chord doesn't it? Because the help available is minimal and much of it is self-help, which in itself is a lonely place to be and appears never ending. Understanding is non-existant in non sufferers.
Thank God for the Forum is all I can add
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