Feeling desperate today and in need of support

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Hello ladies,

After 4 really good days last week ive really crashed. Im anxious and panicky, feeling sick and pretty hopeless. Im really hoping I will start to bleed soon as I think im in the last phase of my cycle... however who knows as its been so irregular recently. How do you cope with these feelings of hopelessness and desperation?

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    Hi hun

    sorry you feel blue, you ask how people cope 

    i cope by, putting it out my mind, and keeping busy..

    taking good vitamins, eating well, and keeping positive,

    dwelling and worrying is the worse thing to do..

    i say .. Oh its a menopause blip and put it out my mind or it takes over 

    B6 150mg helped me no end, relieved all these feelings of hopelessness and anxiety and i felt tonnes better in two weeks, never looked back .

    jay xx

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      Thanks Jay, thats generally what I try to do but cant seem to get on top of it today. Have taken an anti sickness tablet and popped a diazepam as im feeling so desperate I just want it to stop. I usually hate taking pills but really cant cope today
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    Hi Anita , you have my sympathy regarding panic attacks and anxiety ,have suffered for years ,started taking Seroxat about 15 yrs ago think prob saved my life ,now on only 10 mg a day,after years of almost being symptom free ,I have started like you having greater feelings of anxiety when my period is due ( am 50 next month) ,my life is exceptionally busy , dog walking , grand daughter sitting on 2 days a week and 3 days working at a hospital on a busy ward ,so don't think I dwell on these feelings , but they can certainly impact on your life ,the only thing I can suggest you do is and I'm sure you do it anyway , is to tell yourself you will feel better , this feeling will go away ! Hope you feeling better soon ,you certainly are not alone ,so many women on here reporting anxiety and panic attack symptoms ! Chin up ( yes I know it's hard !)
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    Hi Anita , you have my sympathy regarding panic attacks and anxiety ,have suffered for years ,started taking Seroxat about 15 yrs ago think prob saved my life ,now on only 10 mg a day,after years of almost being symptom free ,I have started like you having greater feelings of anxiety when my period is due ( am 50 next month) ,my life is exceptionally busy , dog walking , grand daughter sitting on 2 days a week and 3 days working at a hospital on a busy ward ,so don't think I dwell on these feelings , but they can certainly impact on your life ,the only thing I can suggest you do is and I'm sure you do it anyway , is to tell yourself you will feel better , this feeling will go away ! Hope you feeling better soon ,you certainly are not alone ,so many women on here reporting anxiety and panic attack symptoms ! Chin up ( yes I know it's hard !)
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      Hi sarah

      thanks for your support. When I was prescribed antidepressants 20 years ago they gave me my life back too. I have been on Citalopram for years but my specialist is suggesting changing them as they no longer seem effective. Im not convinced I want to do this until im sure its not my hormones and the dreadedmenopause causing all the problems. Ive just made an appointment with a menopause specialist so im hoping there's light at the end of the tunnel. I can honestly say ive never looked forward so desperately to a period starting!

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      Hi Anita ,would be interested to know how you get on with the menopause specialist , are you from the UK ? Think it is incredibly hard here to be referred to a specialist in this field ,would probably have to go privately ! Probably the Citalopram is still working , I imagine that it is the menopause causing your exacerbated symptoms ! Let me know how you get on x
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      Hi sarah

      yes I am in the uk. The consultant was recommended to me by a couple of different people and luckily I managed to get a consultation on the nhs. Will definitely let you know how I get on

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    P.s let me know how you are feeling later X 
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    Can relate Anita. Know you're not alone. I don't get anxiety but have roller coaster mood swings. Irritability like you wouldn't believe to feeling utterly despondent. All within a few hours. HRT helped me but it gives me terrible stomach cramps & diarrhoea so at moment wondering just what I need to do. Keep fighting it - know it's easier said than done but at some point it will end. Take care x
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    Hi Anita, sorry you feel like that, but think it is a phase and it will help you to cope.  Remenber it is just hormonal and there will be better days. Do something you like, it is the best way.

    it is funny, my bad days are 2 or 3 weeks after my period, not before them!  Just before them, I feel great!

    Big hugs,

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    I was on BCP anti anxiety and antidepressant through peri menopause. Helped me tremendously . I had been non functioning prior to the medications and hormones.

    XO I hope you feel better Loretta

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    Hello Anita,

    I know exactly how frustrated you are feeling right now. Have been there myself. I can have some incredibly wonderful days, thinking the worst is behind me then bam! I fall into some type of funk for a bit. I'm doing all the things that I have been told will help, the vitamins, supplements, ok, I try to eat right, not always successful, see a natural path doc, go to yoga classes (not religiously right now) and work.

    Much like Jay says, keeping busy (in my case-getting out of the house and even going to work is enough) really helps with doing away with much of the negative feelings. Not to say that I haven't had to rely on a sedative now and then. At 56 I am still having occasional cycles......most recently the last one reared up around the holidays and the weeks leading up to it and during where horrendous. 

    The best I can tell you, is it will end.....promise......it's just finding the most suitable way for you to navigate around it. 

    I did go to my GYN on Monday for my yearly check up, it's funny, a year ago I was in his office seriously sobbing my eyes out, handing him a paper of my written out health concerns (depression and anxiety being high on the list) and this year, while the moods do swing around, it was the weight gain that top the list, and I was talking, not sobbing.

    It was then I realized I'm actually settling down somewhat, at least in the emotional arena. No telling when it will all be done, but I'm a year closer!

    I know how scary and frustrating it is for you this very moment and so do the other ladies. Experiment with different things, be it supplements or meds. There is no one size fits all to help us, nor should there be any shame if you would happen to chose some meds to help you through these rough patches, they have helped me at times.

    Sending you healing thoughts Anita!

    Annie xxxx

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    Thank you to all you lovely ladies for your support today... its been a really rough day but all your comments have helped me to put things in to perspective x
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