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Feeling down :-( help needed asap please

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jennifer_06050
jennifer_06050

Hello everyone, I wrote my first post a couple of weeks ago and just feel the need to write another.

I've had my results back and the rest confirmed it is hsv2 which I knew it would be but I still couldn't help getting upset during the phone call.

Also I will have not been myself and feeling ill now coming up to 4 weeks :-( it will be 3 weeks ago this weekend I started having sores and went to my local hospital. Although I'm not in as much pain now I still have q couple of sores that are taking forever to go away, I'm unsure as to wether this is a new breakout or the first one is taking a long time to disappear. I have an appointment with my dr tomorrow to hopefully get put back on medication. To be honest I would mind taking the medication everyday if this is going to help prevent me from feeling ill all the time. Does anyone think this would be a good option for me? I'm a single mother of 2 small children and I'm finding it really hard keep on top of things.

Also does anyone else just find this so draining? I feel like any life I had has just been sucked out of me. My legs feel so sore and heavy, I'm so slow at walking now, I'm aching everywhere, lost my appetite completely and all I want to do is sleep. That with the pain and discomfort down there is making this a very hard time for me.

I can live with knowing I have this, I just need to do everything I can to keep it from attacking me constantly. For my childrens sake more than my own :-(

Any advice would be appreciated xx

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  • Cheergirl65852
    Cheergirl65852 jennifer_06050

    Posted

    Hey! I know what you are going through. Im a 20 year old mom and my babys dad is trying to stick by my side but I feel nasty. It feels unnatural. Im going to get my stuff checked today to confirm that I do have herpes. Keep your head up I cant say it doesn't gets easier but it does to a point. Are you sexually active? If so remember you have to share that info with your partner. My boyfriend actually gave this to me. Just remember get your self out of this funk for those babies! They need you!
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus jennifer_06050

    Posted

    Sorry to hear about diagnosis. rolleyes You are still essentially in your first outbreak, however, which is the worst. Once you heal and your body adjusts to having the virus, you will feel much better. Daily meds are optional. I chose not to take any in order to see how my body copes naturally first. Not in a relationship, so I don't have to worry about transmission. For the most part, I have felt pretty normal since my first outbreak, although I am now having a definite recurrence brought on by a bad cold. Still not as bad as the first outbreak, though.
  • jennifer_06050
    jennifer_06050

    Posted

    Thanks to you both for your replies, I just can't wait for this t
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus jennifer_06050

      Posted

      I know. When you first get it, it really feels like you'll never go back to feeling normal again. I felt like that at the time, but was recently marvelling at how good and normal I feel. Then I got a cold and a recurrence, lol.

      But I am trying not to let it bring me down. I wasn't happy to see the ulcer that appeared, and though it's the nastiest single lesion I've had to date, it's just the one (I think a couple of bumps ulcerated and merged together), and seems to be on the mend without meds, only topical tea tree oil. So, I am hopeful I will feel normal again soon.

      The first outbreak is truly the pits, however, coupled with the stress and emotion of being newly diagnosed. Anyway, I have every confidence you'll start to feel better soon. smile Just take care of your body, keep yourself occupied with your kids and other things, and it should sort itself out. Hang in there!

  • jennifer_06050
    jennifer_06050

    Posted

    Pressed reply to early there :-) thanks for both of your replies, I just can't wait to feel normal again, even just for a little bit would be nice. It's just like it's taken everything out of me and my body feels like it's well and truly shut down. Once I'm back to normal i plan on joining a gym and staying as fit and healthy as I can - which I should of done a long time ago anyway - and I'm hoping that will help.

    I just had to go out and get some more tea tree oil which I am finding really does help and I LOVE the stinging sensation it gives weirdly but I could just feel all this itching and burning while I was walking around.

    I suppose I've just never known anything like this before, usually I'll catch something that makes me ill for a few days but this has been a few weeks near enough now so it's just a shock to the system.

    Thanks again to you both x

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus jennifer_06050

      Posted

      I love tea tree oil, too! Feels really cool and refreshing, totally takes away any itching, and I kinda like the weird minty/medicinal smell, lol.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus

      Posted

      P.S. Resist the urge to scratch. Once you start, the itching will only worsen, as is the case with most itches. I guess my itching was never too severe, as tea tree oil will stop it for me. I now use it undiluted.
  • Alexinator
    Alexinator jennifer_06050

    Posted

    I know how you feel, just knowing and remembering you have it brings your mood down. Sh*t happens, can't blame yourself. There are plenty of nice people to talk to here and ask questions. The best thing to do is stay strong and healthy for your two kids, don't let it get you down.
  • Topp
    Topp jennifer_06050

    Posted

    I had protected sex in january and I believe i was infected then. Immedietly I started feeling tingly down there and then I had all the symptoms besides an actual outbreak. I had one bump and my primary said not to worry but I was feeling sick. I had really bad headaches, muscle aches, flu like, dizzy, sick, discharge, lower back pain, pain in my arms and legs, and now it seems my face is really bad skin now. I have a son too who is 9 and I just feel completly lost, scared, hopeless. At that time I happened to be seeing a specialist (because of other woman issues ugh) and she said my symptoms sound like herpes and prescribed me valtrex and that made me feel better but other than that they wont put me on suppressive meds until i basically have an OB so I'm sitting here in limbo, dying inside, but keeping everything together because i have to. I'm a single mom, I work full time and go to school full time at a private college and I am in a running group and life just can't stop. My life forces me to keep plugging along while I have this to deal with. Midterms just happen. They say not to streess but honnestly, how can you not? I'm feeling somewhat better but I am not myself. It's like I'm two people. I told a girlf riend of mine (cried my face off!!) and she was loving, sad and accepting of me so that helped tremendously. I also told my mom when I was coming out of surgery/anesthesia (woman issue mentioned above) and she was cool but you could tell it took her off guard. Nonetheless she is loving towards me. So yeah, this sucks but life continues and honestly life forcing me to keep going is probably whats keeping me from lounging around and being depressed, curled up in a ball on my bed at home feeling sorry for myself because at times thats how it feels. but then I read all these stories about how things will get better and that gives me hope. someone who loves me will love me for me (whew). So there's my thoughts on that. I'm all there with ya.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Topp

      Posted

      Forget what your doctor said, as mentioned elsewhere. You should just get tested rather than stressing so much about something you may not even have. Herpes doesn't cause arm tingling or facial issues, and with all of those symptoms you listed, you'd expect swollen lymph nodes in your groin and lesions. Stop the meds, if you're still on them, and test in a month.
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