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Feeling really sad, and depressed

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jazmin95438
jazmin95438

Im going on 3 months since i was disgnosed and for the past 1month 1/2 i had been feeling a ltittle better abut things. i came out of my depression since i first found out 

but im feeling pretty horrible aout things again. 

Just to think aboout the fact that i have it makes me sad.

speciaally the fact that i have to disclose it to anyone in the future that i date, im embarrsed and sad to have to do that nd specially scared to rejection or people judging 

i have not told anyone of my situtaion althoug today i started cryin ginfront of my cousin and best friend. i still wasnt able to tell them my situation because i feel it now makes me less of a person.

I just need to hear some feed back and encouragment on how to feel better sad

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  • lala04488
    lala04488 jazmin95438

    Posted

    I told my my sister and my cousin it made me feel better once I did. But I know exactly what you mean I hate even talking of existence that I have it you know it's like nobody wants to have it. But I have a friend that has it and she would tell ppl and they would still wanna have sex with her which is crazy idk I feel like idk if I have the confidence to even come out and say it but hey if they shut you down they was never ment for you. Look this isn't killing us so just be positive to be alive and not have HIV, remain positive and stay away from depression it makes breakouts reappear but your okay, we're okay smile
    • jazmin95438
      jazmin95438 lala04488

      Posted

      How long did it take u to tell them? and how did they react?

      i know i try to think that,that this is better than any other disease that could have serious health consequences,

      really ? and your friend is not afraid to disclose that info ?

      damn idk about being able to say it to anyone sad

      its really hard after you know once you didnt have it and now u do.

      have u ever told anyone youve dateD?

      thanks so much for your reply hun. i really needed to hear some positive stuff about this horrible H. 

    • lala04488
      lala04488 jazmin95438

      Posted

      We'll I just found out last Monday. My cousin I told her as soon as I had an outbreak she's like my bestfriend so I tell her everything. Umm she was so upset that it happened to me very supportive and my grandma ended up telling me she has herpes as well so she made me feel completely better lol she was another one who was upset. Well me and the girl are no longer friends so I mean yeah she was very bold surprisingly. Umm I don't date anybody and nore am I going to tell anybody unless it were leading to sexual intercourse I don't trust anybody with that information so I wouldn't just tell anybody. I refrain from even getting close to ppl cause I'm scared tbh idk if I'll ever find a lifetime partner cause of that fear but hey as long as I'm alive right. Don't feel bad though you're okay
    • jazmin95438
      jazmin95438 lala04488

      Posted

      OH wow. sorry to hear aboout u being diagnosed with this. i know the begining stages are the worst 

      they ay things start gettin better after time but i dont know. 

      Oh really ? wow how ironic. im glad u have some supporrt tho.

      and about the whole dating thing im with u 100% 

      i cant disclose this with just anyone either

      and im not intrested in dating anyone anytime soon. 

      How have your OB been ? was your first one realy bad?

      mine was sad

    • lala04488
      lala04488 jazmin95438

      Posted

      Umm my 1st outbreak was by far horrid but it wasn't too too bad after like 4 days. But the 1st 4 were horrid I became so sick and I was depressed at 1st. I kept reading and they said you can control how bad they get depression worsen it's so I got myself together and told myself it would be okay and my cousin and grandma helped me completely. I was sick Thor had crazy headaches and my skin all over was sensitive to the touch i felt like my body had shut down after the 4 days and the meds and cream I felt better and they started to heal now it's day 7 and it's gone I'm changing my lifestyle eating better and getting more sleep so I can prevent it but yeah hopefully I won't have another outbreak anytime soon
  • feelbroken
    feelbroken jazmin95438

    Posted

    Jazmin, it is totally normal to go through bouts like that. I did for like 4-5 mo this after diagnosis. Each bout will get further and further apart. Just be patient w yourself, it is still so new. I know 6 females w herpes and none but one experienced rejection, but he was still willing to sleep w her, which shows he just wanted to get INTO her and he wasn't into her. Keep your head up and be patient w yourself. I'm a month out from one yr and I still have moments, rare but they're there, that this has made me less of a catch. The virus doesn't do this to us, it's us letting society make us feed into the stigma. They may be able to force deed us garbage, but it's your choice to consume it. Don't feed into it. We are living beings, every living being out there has a virus living in them... At least 3-5 of the 8 total herpes viruses... So keep your head up, it'll be OK.
  • jam1903
    jam1903 jazmin95438

    Posted

    Hey.  I was really encouraged by a couple responses I got.  Yes it sucks that we got Herpes -  and let's face it, when it's under control it's no worse than having a cold sore now and then, just in a very uncomfortable place.  I know that I now only get breakouts maybe twice a year max.   If I didn't have Herpes, knowing what I know now, and I fell in love with a guy with herpes, I have to say yes I'd want to be very sure about my relationship with him before risking infection, but if I loved him enough and thought he was worth it, it would not keep me out of a relatiionship.  I think knowledge is key - knowing what it is, what can be done to help prevent spreading it, etc. 

    What I really want to say is I agree with one of the responses I got - that said if a person is worth it and they truly care about you, then they will work with you with this.  If they won't, then they were not worth your time anyway.

    Hang in there.  It's not then end of the world.  My daughter works in a oral surgeon office and says they have "lots" of patients come in who have Herpes who are married and/or in relationships with partners who do not have Herpes.  So... life does go on.  It's just another complication to deal with. 

    Lucky us - right.  smile  

     

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