Feeling so alone

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I'm have not had a period in 5 months experiencing itching, depression sever sadness, feeling like I have no desire to do anything I have a teenager and 10 yr old and I'm battling cancer in constantly feeling hot then cold and sweating at night I'm just overwhelmed sad and feel like I have No one who understands I'm constantly not getting along with my husband I just feel so angry at times but then so sad reading all the comments helps me feel not alone but I just don't know what to do next I'm so irritable and have lost my joy I'm constantly feeling sorry for how i act to my family

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    Hi Tam - get straight to your Dr. there is an amazing cream for itching; HRT can rid the sadness and anger quite quickly - do not put up with these feeling they can ruin your life, there is much help on offer.

    Do something small for yourself everyday - something you like and enjoy and keep your mind busy listen to the radio (talkback is good) or find a youtube video around your interests and immerse (and distract) yourself and thoughts that way. Be sure to also try to do something special with your teenager and 10 yr old --- they will be feeling a little lost toosad Thinking of you - we all know (to some degree) how you must be feeling. Loui X  

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    I feel your pain..
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    I'm so sorry for how you are feeling. You are not alone. This forum and the ladies here are wonderful. You can always vent, share, and there is no judgement here. We really do understand. Peri can be miserable but you don't have to suffer. One of the ladies was right, see If there is something you can take to ease the symptoms and find distracting things to keep your mind off the symtpoms, when we don't focus on the symtpoms it make it a little more easier to deal with. I will keep you on my thoughts and prayers. Sending big hugs your way. Hope you get relief soon.

    Jamie

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    cuddles i found when i feel like this i tell my husband and boys i love them and cuddle, cuddle cuddle you might not feel like it but the minute you feel off seek out those cuddles 
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    Very sorry to hear your battling cancer, could this get in the way of your meno symptoms at the moment, making it worse? are you still on treatment for your cancer? my sister developed breast cancer during menopause, she is now on tamoxifen, which is a hormone inhibitor, said to increase some menopause  symptoms, not suggesting for one min that, that is changed though, stick with it to keep you safe, drs no best on that.

    As long as it is not breast cancer you have, can you not go on HRT, or, are you just not allowed it at all with having the cancer?? if you are allowed maybe try some HRT whilst your battling your illness as well. If your not allowed it, try lots of lifestyle changes,

    Vitamins, B12, omega oils, Magnesium, ginger tea for slow digestion if you have been getting that, eat little and often, high protein low carb meals, to avoid sugars dropping, drink plenty of water, to avoid dehydration after hot sweats and high temperatures,, avoid caffine and alcohol, or keep that in moderation,  take brief gentle walks as evercise,  swimming is a good one to do if your able, keep a regular sleeping routine, so you dont knock your clock out affecting your sleeping patterns, and practise breathing relaxation techniques to help you through the anxiety, and think about trying a low dose anti depressant from the dr, that doesnt interfer with your cancer meds to help you through your depression whilst going through so much, it will help, and it will only be temporary to get you through until your post, you are considered post, when you havent had a period for one full year, your symptoms then should start to decline, you will be left with hot flushes though, and post symptoms can last for a further 5 years, but they should deline as you go, fingers crossed, if they dont then go for HRT, after you have finished your cancer treatment, im assuming your treatment is for five years??  good luck with it tam.

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    You're not alone <3 i can relate to a lot of your symptoms - especially depression sadness and feeling angry. however, since you are also battling cancer i cannot even begin to imagine the additional layer of stress that must add to all of those issues!!! do talk to your healthcare provider as soon as possible. if you are getting treatment for cancer you need to be sure that anything you take doesn't interfere with your treatment regime (including natural supplements) some of the symptoms, such as the itching, could even be side effects of some of the meds and your team may be able to suggest something to help with that. find someone in your healthcare team that you can speak to and seek help - you shouldn't have to suffer through this alone xxxx i="" can="" relate="" to="" a="" lot="" of="" your="" symptoms="" -="" especially="" depression="" sadness="" and="" feeling="" angry.="" however,="" since="" you="" are="" also="" battling="" cancer="" i="" cannot="" even="" begin="" to="" imagine="" the="" additional="" layer="" of="" stress="" that="" must="" add="" to="" all="" of="" those="" issues!!!="" do="" talk="" to="" your="" healthcare="" provider="" as="" soon="" as="" possible.="" if="" you="" are="" getting="" treatment="" for="" cancer="" you="" need="" to="" be="" sure="" that="" anything="" you="" take="" doesn't="" interfere="" with="" your="" treatment="" regime="" (including="" natural="" supplements)="" some="" of="" the="" symptoms,="" such="" as="" the="" itching,="" could="" even="" be="" side="" effects="" of="" some="" of="" the="" meds="" and="" your="" team="" may="" be="" able="" to="" suggest="" something="" to="" help="" with="" that.="" find="" someone="" in="" your="" healthcare="" team="" that="" you="" can="" speak="" to="" and="" seek="" help="" -="" you="" shouldn't="" have="" to="" suffer="" through="" this="" alone="">
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    I too am sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I know all too well what feeling low does to you mentally and you have a lot to contend with right now. I can't offer anything more than the other ladies have, just to say that you're not alone and fingers crossed, you'll find something to pick you up and brighten yourself. Best of luck Tam, with your cancer treatment and how you feel xx.
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    That sounds just awful. Have you seen your OB? Sounds like you need some help. When I went into menopause about ten years ago I remember the hot flashes day and night and an anxious feeling that would come and go. That was more than I could stand. That is what prompted me to get on HRT. If you have cancer which pretty much just sucks, I don't think they will put you on hormones. Not that I am a fan of HRT. Since trying to come off I have really suffered. My Dr. suggested that I go on a cleansing diet. I haven't done it yet but I am planning to start tomorrow to see if it will help. Are you getting excercise? That is very helpful in controlling your stress level especially if its a walk outside with a good friend. Find someone you can laugh with once in a while. I had lunch with my sisters today and it was a great distraction from all the Hormone problems.. Some of them are going through it too and it was helpful to laugh about the rediculousness of our situation. If mine is rediculous then yours is world class off of the charts.  Try to keep the stress down as much as possible. If you feel good enough find something that you can get excited about doing and that you can look forward to. That might help also. I wish you the very best and will pray for you to find some answers. 

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