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Feelings of doom and dread anyone ?

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jane63977
jane63977

Does anyone else get these feelings of doom and dreading that you will never feel like your old , happy , healthy self again ? I don't even know if I am in peri , but at nearly 49 I think I must be . I hate this though as every time I think I am feeling happier and healthier it seems to all come back again .

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  • Guest
    Guest jane63977

    Posted

    Hi Jane...i am 49 in october. The last 6 months my life has turned upside down. I have all the same symptoms and have been to countless doctors but tests all say normal. I finally found a doctor who believes in peri. She said hrt can cause clots so because of heart disease in our family (and my high cholesterol) wants me to try effexor...an antidepressant that helps hot sweats and anxiety.

    I don't know what to do. I had such a bad day today...fatigue aching ribs anxiety.....i just came home and lay on the bed and cried. I just feel so yuck all the time....i went to the supermarket tonight and had palpitations....which make me anxious too. I feel such a mess at the moment sad

    • TropicalVon69
      TropicalVon69 Guest

      Posted

      Supermarkets make me feel awful too Janine, iys the lighting in there
    • Guest
      Guest TropicalVon69

      Posted

      I know! Its those big halogen lights. I feel so spacey...which then makes me anxious. That was Thurs night and I felt so bad that day I felt depressed. Yesterday I woke up and went to work and was ok all day. What the????? I feel so unstable. When I am bad I feel like I am having a breakdown. When I am good I am always looking over my shoulder waiting for 'it' to come back.

      My husband is pressuring me to try the AD Effexor the doctor gave me. I just have a drug phobia...I get worried it will make me worse! I have been given a natural product to try called Menoplus 8PN. I am going to give it a try. Its all about trial and error right? smile

  • jane63977
    jane63977

    Posted

    Thanks for your reply . I'm on my fifth day of my period . I thought it was finishing , but been really heavy again today with clots as well and pain . It's just my tummy feels so unsettled and nauseous also then I come over all hot . What is wrong with me ? I had terribly heavy and painful periods when I first started them . Does this mean that I am reverting to that again ? Are these symptoms all normal ? I had an internal scan a few months back but there was nothing for concern only a small cyst which they said was perfectly normal.

    It's the unsettled stomach I hate most . Why do we have to put up with all this ? Any thoughts please . Thank you

    • Guest
      Guest jane63977

      Posted

      The doctor I saw said its like we revert back to puberty. She said the hormones don't just decline gradually..they plummet up and down. Thats why we feel so bad sometines I think. I am trying to improve my diet. Have cut out coffee (sob) and cut back sugar (sob) and am eating more fruit and veges. It helped a little but still riding the rollercoaster. Maybe try tracking your symptoms and see if there is a pattern. Somethings may be making them worse? At the very least you might see a time that is worse and try and be prepared for it.

      Hope you feel a bit better soon....maybe try a herbal tea for the nausea?

    • Guest
      Guest Guest

      Posted

      Jane and Janine, now that you mention it, I also struggled with my periods a lot during puberty.  They were very heavy and I had a lot of pain.  I don't remember having stomach issues with periods back then but have always had horrible PMS (I wasn't diagnosed with Crohn's until age 25).  
  • jane63977
    jane63977

    Posted

    I'm just feeling so ill at the moment and I hate it . I feel really sick and have trouble eating anything . I seem to keep getting this every so often and I can't bear it anymore . I've just finished work and now I'm home on my own I just want to cry . I haven't told my husband or daughter how rough I am feeling as I'm sure they are getting fed up of it . I really can't believe that peri could be causing these feelings and anxiety . At the moment I am living on polos and chewing gum to try and ease the nausea and churning stomach , although this probably doesn't help . Everyone else around seems so happy and I'm like this . I just to be happy and healthy again . I don't know whether to go back to the doctor , but I'm worried what he might find as this can't be normal . Please I need some help and advice from everyone as I'm at my wits end .
    • deborah_37796
      deborah_37796 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane, this is what has happened to me, maybe there's something that I've done or experienced could help you. I'm 56 healthy - was no problems until 8 weeks ago. Became allergic to certain foods and I've been in a spin ever since. I'm waiting to go to an allergy clinic in a few weeks. The result is I'm afraid to eat many foods and therefore have lost quite a lot of weight. I have tried HRT for the awful symptoms like you've described and although I didn't give it that long I decided to look at another option as I couldn't sleep on the HRT. Yesterday I saw a private doctor in London who specialises in Menopause and he has given me osteogen gels that you rub in. I have to say I slept much better last night and I feel so much less anxious today. I really feel this is going to work and I might see the old me again soon. Next I need to sort out the food thing, I hope in a way it is due to menopause so it explains why it has happened so randomly in my life. If you want to ask me anything about the doctor please do I'd like to help as you sound as desperate as I was last week Xx
    • jane63977
      jane63977 deborah_37796

      Posted

      The tears are rolling down my face now because I really can't go on like this . I try and put on a happy front to everyone as I've always been a very strong and happy person ,but all that changed seemed to change when I lost mum last June . It's been almost a year but at times like this I can't just can't seem to cope anymore . I've always been healthy but is this what my life has become ? This past year has been hell and it doesn't seem to be getting any better . Every time I seem to be picking up I get knocked right back with these symptoms .
    • jane63977
      jane63977

      Posted

      I should have added that I have just finished another heavy period that seem to come closer together sometimes . I don't know if this can cause you to feel like this . I just feel so drained as well
    • Guest
      Guest jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane....I think your feelings are worse because of your loss of your mum. You definitely sound peri and stress will make it worse. When I am bad I have an anxious churning stomach and don't want to eat. I know how you feel....its such a lonely feeling...I lay on my bed crying on thursday because I felt so physically and emotionally bad. My husband got cranky at me that day as he is frustrated at me always complaining about feeling sick. He felt bad about it afterwards but I suppose its hard to understand unless you are in it. I am still working 3 days a week and have 3 sons 15 to 20 living at home. Every other woman I know seems so happy and together? Funny how you can feel alone even with a house full of people sad
    • jane63977
      jane63977 Guest

      Posted

      Thank you at least I know that I am not the only one feeling like this . I keep worrying that it's something more sinister happening . I just don't want to keep getting these feelings . I can cope with most but not the nausea as it stops you from living and enjoying life . It will be the anniversary of my mums death at the end of June and I would like to think that the grief and anxiety will start to subside after that but I really don't know if it will . I have tried to stop myself from getting so anxious but that's easier said than done . So your symptoms Janine must be very like mine . You just wonder how you can beat this , but maybe if we try and support each other we can . That it what is so great about this sight you realise that there are so many other ladies suffering as well and we can all try to help each other .
    • jane63977
      jane63977 Guest

      Posted

      If you don't mind me asking but how old are you and are you still having periods ? I will be 49 in August and still have my periods regularly but I understand that the peri symptoms can really start at any time in your forties as a prelude to the menopause .
    • Guest
      Guest jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane...snap...i am 49 in october lol. I suffered from PND after my last son was born 15 years ago. And I am an anxious type of person. Anyone who meets me would never know though as I am the happy bubbly one. And I am most of the time...I like to think I am pretty optimistic. But this is do different....the mood swings are wild. I can be so low and just wake up like it....other days I feel normal (well my new normal).

      I can't believe hormones can make you feel so....just yuk. I started noticing odd things about 45 but things really changed about 6 months ago. My mum had a horrible menopause but was finished at my age. I am still having regular periods too so I worry I have years to go and its going to get worse.

      One thing that helps when I anxious is a natural product..an amino acid...called l-theanine. My brother is a naturopath and treats people with stress with it. He says its equivalent to xanax but not addictive or a drug. Google it and see what you think. I only take it when I am 'pinging'. It does take the edge off without that drugged feeling. (I tried xanax years ago...was good but did make me stoney lol. Keep in touch...it does help keep you sane and calm when you read others are going through the same thing. Take care x

    • jane63977
      jane63977 Guest

      Posted

      It's strange how we sound so similar in both symptoms and moods . I was perfectly fine until my mum passed last year and then all of this came from nowhere . I think I come across the same way to people when I'm at work . I did have a breakdown at the beginning of 2000 following a miscarriage when I lost twins and went off the rails at around the time they would have been born . I think sometimes we can only deal with so much and it's our bodies and minds just can't cope anymore . I have heard that with hormones when they either peak or dip that these can affect our stomachs , so maybe this is half our problem . Keep in touch . Let me know how you are doing . Regards Jane x
    • louise44105
      louise44105 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane. I also suffer with anxiety as well as a whole host of other symptoms. When I joined this forum, I couldn't believe how many ladies go through this. I have noticed that a lot of us have suffered some sort of trauma, like illness, divorce, death of a loved one etc. and I was wondering if maybe this could be some sort of trigger? 
    • Guest
      Guest jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane... i do think stress triggers it. I have had a lot of stress the last year so that ties in. Also....every time i get pregnant I get severe morning sickness the first 3 months...i vomit 15 times a day....and i got nausea on the pill. So I def think hormones are making you nauseated. Maybe google natural supplements that balance the hormones. My friend has given me Menoplus 8PN. ... its a natural formula to help with menopause symptoms. My brother said agnus chaste herb helps balance hormones as well. He is a naturopath. I havent tried anything yet as I am a drug phobic....i took penicillin once and nearly died so hate taking anything other than paracetamol lol. And that aint helping much now smile
    • Guest
      Guest louise44105

      Posted

      Hi Louise...stress is definitely a trigger. Because our hormonal/endocrine system is all linked I think the hormones are already haywire....then we have a stressful event which sets off our adrenals....which are already suffering from the hormones dropping/changing. I think it just tips us over the edge so to speak. I am trying to combat the stress side with meditation and cutting out stimulants like coffee and sugar.... which I miss like crazy lol
    • charlotte89738
      charlotte89738 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi jane..I read your post and that sounds just like I feel..it's the anxiety that is my concern..I am on antidepressants to help..I have just restarted them..are you on any medication..I never use to be like this ..I also have all my kids at home.xx
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 charlotte89738

      Posted

      Hi What antidepressants are you on ? I'm on Sertraline. The anxiety feelings are horrible. Just walking along the quay with my son a feeling of weakness and tight breathing came over me,I wanted to get home. How do you feel?
    • jane63977
      jane63977 charlotte89738

      Posted

      Yes I've been on citalopram 10mg since the end of January . It's an anti depressant . I know they have helped but I am still getting the churning stomach every few weeks with loss of appetite , but I think this must all be related to hormones , peri and anxiety . It is horrible though isn't it ? At least we can all help each other and know that it's not all in our minds . Let's hope we all get through this together love Jane Xxx
    • charlotte89738
      charlotte89738 michelle46271

      Posted

      Hi Michelle. .I have been back to docs today. .the side effects of the sertraline I couldn't stand..I also was on livial..he said that I shouldn't be having side effects after 8 days and that livial should be working..after three weeks..I feel stupid but I need to be right I'm just tired all the time..xx
    • maria101
      maria101 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane your not on your own I had few weeks back every morning get up feeling sick can't eat nothing wouldn't go down seem like every food I dislike, I started to loose weight I can't afford too , it gets better in the day then I can eat, fed with it too and hope it all goes away eventually maybe stress because I worry how I feel try sucking on a lemon see of busy helps
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