Find myself slipping back into old ways of trying to cope on my own.
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Been receiving treatment for depression and anxiety, taken mirtazapine for about 2 months now, and for a few weeks have been feeling alright. Sometimes though i still get times when i feel very down, it's usually on nights like i'm having tonight when i have difficulty falling asleep, i lie awake and start thinking about stuff, then i start feeling sad, i start worrying and start crying because i start worrying that it's always going to keep coming back and i don't know how to cope when i start feeling like this.
I find myself keeping my worries to myself, trying to cope on my own, and i'm worried that i might slip back to my old method of coping on my own by self harming. I didn't seld harm alot but i don't want to go back to doing that to myself even if it is minor injury. I hated that i did anything to hurt myself but at the time it felt like the only way i could cope on my own. I'm trying so hard not to give in to it.
Just need some advice please?
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patricia85842
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sunset17
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lee34449
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Please feel free to PM if you need to talk. Always ready to listen. Take care.
sunset17
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I been suffering from depression and anxiety since october last year, and got persuaded to talk to a doctor, so been receiving treatment since november. First I was tried on citalopram but after 8 weeks got changed to mirtazapine because I was suffering bad insomnia aswell and doctors thought it would help improve my sleep, which it did. Been taking 30mg mirtazapine for about 2 months now.
I did the same as you I didn't go out for weeks other than to doctors appointments, I stayed inside on my own all day, avoided seeing friends and avoided replying to their texts and calls. I avoided even just going outside into the garden so not to have to speak to neighbours.
Had some bad times too, wanting to end it all just because I couldn't take any more of it, but deep down I knew that I didn't want to. Took myself to A & E on one occasion because I felt it was all getting too much for me.
I am feeling a whole lot better than I have done previously, I feel for those who are still suffering greatly. But as I mentioned although I feel much better, I still get times when I feel very down. I used to feel that I was able to talk to my friends when I was feeling like that, but now I sort of feel like it's all been brushed under the carpet, I don't like to bring it up anymore when I'm feeling low because everyone's expecting me to be better by now and I just feel like I'm moaning, so I just keep it all to myself. I don't want for people to get fed up of me and to push them away so I just don't say anything now, and just pretend that I'm fine. Now I sort of feel like I'm going to end up going back to the beginning where trying to cope on my own caused so much stress, and worsened depression.
Thanks again for your kind support.
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Ive been trying to cope on my own but youre right it does make things so much more stressful and has worsened my depression .
I know this isn't really giving you any advice but maybe it just helps to know someone understands
sunset17
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Thankyou, yeah it's good to know someone knows how it feels, sorry that you are feeling that way too though.
Yeah I just find that nobody wants to bother talking when about if I'm feeling down or having problems, so when anyone asks how I am I just say that I've been fine. I don't like to bring it up anymore.
Gab2..
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I've just turned 24 and have been suffering from depression and anxiety for 5 years now. It's so hard because the people around me don't understand. I've been seeing a therapist since October, and although she's great, it's not helping me the way i need it too. I still have more unhappy days than happy. I've also been signed off work and have been off for nearly 2 months, because my job is so stressful and my managers a bully, which of course doesn't help.
For the past 2 weeks i have kept a diary of how i am feeling each day and discovered a pattern. For 3 days i was happy and then 2 days i was sad. I wrote exactly how i felt each day and when i looked back on it today it was weird. Because today i was feeling sad i couldn't remember how i felt when i was happy. Has anyone else done this?
Its good to read other peoples stories, as none of us are alone and people do understand.
lee34449
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sunset17
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I'm also 24, although this is the first time i have ever suffered from depression and anxiety, so it is all quite new to me. From it starting it took me a while before I was actually convinced that I needed to seek help. I couldn't really accept that i had depression because i didn't know what it was and didn't really know anything about it, i'd never thought about depression before. It took someone else to point out that it sounded like depression and to suggest talking to a doctor.
That's a good idea about writing a diary about each day and how you feel. It is difficult to remember times you feel happy when you are depressed, and i know i have them, i have felt averagely happy today. I remember at my first appoinment with a doctor and he asked me when was the last time something made me feel haooy and i couldn't think of anything. He then explained to me that often people with depression cannot recall happy moments, they can only think about negative things.
I wrote poems whem i was deeply depressed because i suffered insomnia so would lie awake at night thinking over and over about stuff, so instead i started writing poems about how i felt. It seems weird to me now that i wrote poems because it's not me at all, but it just seemed to help me and it felt natural at the time.
Although i never write anything about when i am feeling positive so it sounds like a good idea.
I have been signed off work since november but have recently taken the decision to resign from my job, i didn't feel happy about going back to work there after being off for so long. I want to start a fresh somewhere when i feel more back to myself, and still struggling with tiredness at the moment. I actually feel better about it now that i don't have to worry about going back to work.
Yeah i am glad i found this forum too, peoole have helped me so much, i don't think i would be where i am now if i hadn't.
Hi lee sorry you are having troubles. I've got the problem that my medication is heloing me get up and about and wanting to do things, but at the same time causing me tiredness, so i haven't got enough energy to do things and if i do get out for the day i return exhausted.
lee34449
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sunset17
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It's good that writing helped you too, and you right that we should use whatever works for us, it did seem strange to me though as I am not really a writer, I'm not really into literature.
Gab2..
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Ye about writitng, i have only just realised that it actually does help. i Have had issues with my 'dad' for years.. i wont go in to it all because it is very very long, but he is not around anymore (thank gd) he ruined my family, which is the route of all my problems now. Anyway i sat down 3 weeks ago and didn't plan it, but i wrote a letter to him. It wasn't to make him feel guilty or blame him for anything, it was simply to let him know what he did and how it has had an affect on me. I'm not good when it comes to speaking to people and expressing how i feel, as i hide it and every person says 'oh you look happy'. Well i'm clearly not. I hated writing in school, but now it seems to be the only way i understand myself, if that makes sense.
I read back the letter i wrote and realised that i answered some of the questions i asked him myself. It was a strong and emotional thing to do.
Someone once said to me 'Fear is worse than reality'. I write this on the inside of my palm daily and just look at it when i get scared or nervous. Because it is true. Imagine something that scares you or makes you nervous, that your heart is beating so fast. it can be anything.. like, going for a job interview (this makes me like a nervous wreck) But think about it... you work yourself up so much on the way there, but when you get there you are absolutely fine. Its the lack of chemicals we have in our brain that make us think in such a negative way.
Btw i'm taking propananol and my doctor wont let me change medication. These pills do nothing at all apart from gives you depression as a side affect (just to cheer you all up)... why would you give someone who suffers from depression pills that make you depressed.
sunset17
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It does make sense that we shouldn't feel afraid, because it is being afraid of things that aren't reality.