finding it so hard to cope right now

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im 37 year old male from ireland and im really struggling to cope right now. im so depressed and feeling very detached from my self and reality.   finding it impossible to control all the negative thoughts racing through my mind especially the none stop constant thoughts of fear of dying i just dont seem able to cope with reality at all and to really top it all off i really cant see my self ever getting over this because ive been this way for so long now sadsadsadsadsad

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    May I ask you how long you have been going through these constant fears? Are they all day?
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    ive been this way for a good few year now and the thoughts are with me every minute of every day sad
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    I right there with you! This anxiety has taken me away from my family sadly! I've been so afraid of dying I forgot how to live!!! I feel weak all the time and shaking constantly! But I promise there is hope for both of us!
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    HI omeara. imfrom ireland also. i had a very stressful christmas and it continued into the new year. there was a lot of death in my town then on january 2 i learned that my great online friendhad died. this was the straw that beoke the camels back. i went into a 3 week depression. the first 2 weeks was horrendous and was accompanied by horrendous anxiety. im 49 and had previous episodes of this in my life so basically i took one day at a tme, not loking too far ahead. the mornings were the worst part of the day. i just talked to family and friends about it and walked alot. walking eats up the negative adrenaline that causes depression and anxiety.and through the darkness i kep telling myselfit would get better. i accepted that depression and anxiety were my reality, but just on a temperary basis.i waited patiently and eventually i came out of the darkness. i have no anxiety now thank God and my depression hs lifted. my confidence has returned fullythough and im finding it difficult to socialise at weekends in the pub like i used to but im working on it. during my hellish 3 weeks i made sure to continue getting out and about, shopping, walking etc. it was difficult, but i knew if i confronted it then eventually it would tire and the symptoms would ease. i know exactly what youre going through right now. feelings of unreality is a classic anxiety symptom, uncomfortable but not serious, its just your mind playing tricks with you. this feeling goes when the anxiety subsides. so basically talk to your doctor is you are feeling overwhelmed, talk to friends and family. remember you are just 1 of millions who are feeling this way. right now. you can and will beat this. just do go it alone, believe me talking helps. i wish youthebest of luck. keep on going on, youll get there.biggrin
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    i so feel for you billie because i wouldint wish this on any1 like you im so concerned about dying its stoping me from living its pure mental torture sad
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      There is free cbt, google it.  It teaches you to acknowledge that our thoughts and feelings are connected.  Many things can cause anxiety/depression.  Big examples are lose of loved ones, loss of companion, loss of job, etc.  If you feel that doing cbt on your own doesn't help,  consult mental health.  They will help you get going in the right direction.  I have suffered anxiety/depression/ PTSD all my life and up to about 16 or so years ago realized what it is.  Trust me you may at the moment feel like it will last forever.  But it won't once you start knowing what it is, and then doing what it takes to feel better.  Our thinking (cognitive) is out of balance and causing us to see the world throught negative lenses, in other words things are all bad, and there is no good.  Definitely find help as soon as you can, so you can get back to living the life you want! Good luck!
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    ps, sorry for typos, my keyboard is nearly banjaxed haha. i meant my confidence hast fully returned, but im getting there. also i meant, dont go it alone. there is lots of people just waiting to help you!

     

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    ty so much for kind words and support sean 
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    np sean again ty for yr support and kind words.
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    youre very welcome omeara. i have empathy because i know what youre going through. but i also know nothing bad lasts forever. during my depression i lost all interest in what i previously enjoyed eg soccer. but now im back to normal all my interest in my fave things have come back too. youll get there too, dont forgetto reach out forhelp. youre a very brave person, and by addressing your problem on here it shows you are taking it on in a positive fashion. you know the ad thats often on irish radio = "its okay sometimes not to feel okay"? well its so true. and nothing to be ashamed of. life is very tough at times and we are all only human. so once again good luck. YOU HAVE A  RIGHT TO BE HERE (on earth). anxiety is stress related, we are merely fooled by exaggerated thoughts. less stress less anxiety, and the roadto recovery is inevitable!
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    Oh man. I honestly, just try to take long walks, listen to positive music, take nice, long bubble baths. You could try reading, too. I like doing that, as well. I'm not sure exactly how to get it to go away almost completely, but those things do help, most of the time.
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