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First Horrific OB. Many questions unanswered...

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zoe35011
zoe35011

Hello everyone! It’s day 5 now that I’m not in agonizing pain from my first ever outbreak and I’m so relieved about that. I ended up going to a urgent care facility once i noticed what i thought was a fingernail cut turned into multi ulcers and blisters. My vagina was swollen shut and on top of that i had my period! I was in shock i never had any genital OB in my life on myself nor ever seen one on my 10 month long boyfriends body! I do however get occasional cold sore (occasional meaning once a year!!). They tested me for hsv 1/2 igm and i believe it was igg (to determine if this infection was new or old).. however the test took forever and i was in so much pain so i went to my long time Gyno and she took one look and said YUP this is herpes. I was devastated and confused. Test results came back and they were both negative!? Not possible because this WAS a herpes outbreak no doubt in my or my doctors mind.

Anyways.. other then my story of first OB and finding out. I came here to seek an answer to a question that may be a little confusing... bare with me please. 

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months. We use no protection at all. We had sex first day of my OB because i didn’t realize those papercut looking things were broken open ulcers and the start of a horror story. Me and him do not know where this OB came from at all. As of now.. i have a few red flat circle on my skin down there (on thigh/anus) which look to be more like scars or ending of healing. When is it okay for me and him to have sex again? I feel no pain at all and they do not look like sores. Is it okay to now? 

Also.. since we have had unprotected sex for 10 months and during the beginning of an OB does he most likely have this as well and we shouldn’t be concerned about starting to use protection? 

He wants to get tested but I’m sure it might come back as a false negative like mine has rolleyes.... 

any advice on when it’s okay to start being sexual active again and also advice for him? 

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  • john96430
    john96430 zoe35011

    Posted

    If you had unprotected sex during the start of your outbreak he most likely contracted it aswell too..its spread by skin to skin contact during outbreak or shedding phase. Once the outbreak clears, its best to wait a week or more, unless ofcourse you both do have it, then it wouldnt matter. See if he gets an outbreak or not within 21 days since that is the common time spand for an outbreak to occur after contracting the virus.
  • Nononie
    Nononie zoe35011

    Posted

    It's ok to have sex with him when ALL of you symptoms are gone. And you better use condom from now one just on case. That sucks but you don't wan him to have it...

    I'm not sure I have HV1 genital (still waiting for the results...) but I already tol him and he accepted it totally. He saw that I was honest with him and thats important for the trust. You better talk about him as soon as possible.

    • zoe35011
      zoe35011 Nononie

      Posted

      He knows. He was with me during my OB, he took off work to make sure i was oky. Not gonna lie but a year of having unprotected sex, we def won’t go back to condoms even over this. he has to have it because either one.. he gave it to me. Or two.. i had it this whole time and we had sex during my outbreak so i don’t really know if it necessary at all for protection rolleyes just didn’t know if he should even waste the money on getting tested just to get a false negative like i did ya know rolleyes
    • Nononie
      Nononie zoe35011

      Posted

      Ohh ok you are from USA then thats why it cost money..how much does it cost?

      Well if you don't want to put condoms at least dont do it when you have an out break! Anyway i dont think youll wanna do it by then wink

      In my opinion, the best test to know if you have it is a swab test. Difficult to have a false negative. If I was him, I'll test myself anyway.

  • r61311
    r61311 zoe35011

    Posted

    the negative result could be because it’s a new infection from him... the blood tests (igg) are only accurate 3 months back. so if you just contracted this from your bf, it’ll take a while for it to show up on a blood test. and even then, the igg misses 8% of hsv2 infections and 30% of hsv1.
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