First outbreak? Please give me some advice.
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I am not officially diagnosed but i've come to the horrible realisation this is my first outbreak. it started last Thursday, with what i thought was a uti. By sunday i was in so much pain i couldnt move. By the time i plucked up the courage to look down there on Monday night i was covered in sores. I cant even describe the pain ive been in since. Its a week today since this all started and its just not getting any better. I luckily had some antivirals as my son has type 1 but he only took them for a few days as they made him feel sick. They dont seem to be helping though. Now im in pain, itching, oozing. Ive had to take a week off work because i cant pee unless im pouring water on myself. I cant even sit down. I just dont know what to do with myself. I dont want to tell anyone. I dont want to get diagnosed with this and have it on my medical record. I know i will have to at some point, i know that. But right now i just cant. How much longer will this last? Im taking antivirals, im taking painkillers, im using ice packs and taking salt baths. Ive had problems with "thrush" for years. Im on medication once a week to contain it because nothing ive ever been prescribed has worked. Now im thinking it wasnt thrush at all. I have had every test known to man yet they never tested me for herpes. I feel like once this pain goes away i'll be able to think straight and sort this out but how much longer is this pain going to last?!
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kay19801 Liz1804
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Hi there
You sound like you are in a lot of pain and I am sorry to read.
They say the first outbreak is the worst of them all as your body is trying to fight the virus that it has never come into contact with, it seems you have tried everything from bath salts to pain killers... Antivirals take some time to work for some people unfortunatley & wont give immediate effect but also take Lysine for the future (it coats the virus) & Zinc
I dont want to tell you what to try seeing as though you have tried alot - maybe some one else reading your post can provide some relief for you to try.
What pain killers are you taking?
Liz1804 kay19801
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Hi, thank you for the reply. I've been alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen for days now. I think it does take the edge off but nothing enough to be able to even just sit down. I bit the bullet and called the Doctors. Sat and cried for an hour after the call. They're bringing me in later today. Im devastated but i cant just sit here crying all the time. I need to address it since its not going away. Hopefully i'll get something for the pain.
kay19801 Liz1804
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No problem
I think you might need something stronger for the pain and hopefully the Dr can prescribe it for you - I am so pleased you are going to the Dr - you will feel so much better after & I read your partner knows also and accepted it.
Please let us know how your appointment goes 😃
amanda60475 Liz1804
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sounds alot like an outbreak. if youre taking ibuprofen with the anti-virals it can cause damage (not sure why but thats what my anti viral meds say!). i havent been officially diagnosed yet but it sounds very similar to my experience except my ulcers didnt break/ooze (i got mine looked at, popped, and treated within 3 days). My doctor said right away they looked like herpes since she actually had an outbreak with HSV2. It sounds like yours are healing which is a good thing. this disease may not be curable but it is treatable and your life/sex life isnt over what-so-ever. i cried and stressed myself out so badly but stress will only make the outbreak worse. try to focus on other things until you get a diagnosis. I know waiting is very frustrating ( i have not slept or ate in days). Ive done alot of research and i came to the realization that this disease isnt as bad as society makes it out to seem. Im coming to accept that I most likely have HSV2 and its not that bad. Please update if you find anything out or your symptoms persist!!
Liz1804 amanda60475
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You're right. My partner knows and he said its not a big deal and doesnt change anything. I cant say i'd of been so calm if the roles were reversed to be honest. But he did tell me, i think to make me feel better, that one of his best friends has it. So maybe she's educated him on some facts because he just keeps telling me in the grand scheme of things its not a big deal. I suppose until it happens to you and you do your research you automatically think its something horrific thats going to ruin your life. Im ready to just sort it all out now. Im hoping the GP cant do the test and isnt going to refer me to the local clinic. I had to go their for my coil a few months back and getting an appointment was an absolute nightmare.
Liz1804
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sorry, i hope the GP can do the test, not cant. Autocorrect!
Liz1804
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So i have an update. The GP referred me to the sexual health clinic who gave me a telephone consultation. They cant test me anywhere as ive had a temperature the last couple of days, so with Covid i cant go anywhere. Cant even go to collect my prescription. So that was a fun conversation to have with my sister to ask her to collect it for me haha. So they are treating it as though it is and we'll go from there and see what happens. She said she is almost certain this has been passed on from my partner the last time we had sex (last wednesday) so thats another conversation to have with him. But at least its sorted. She said my symptoms should clear up in 48 hours with this new medication.
Help22 Liz1804
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hi liz! all the above comments are correct, this is not the end of the world and its stigmatised so much in society when its such a common virus. my first outbreak was pure hell it lasted about 2 weeks. ive had one more since then that lasted just over a week and it was no where near as bad, i only had about 5 sores. the anti viral meds will slow the production of the sores, its best to start taking them as soon as you get any symptoms ( itching). keep the area clean and dry, i use dilluted tea tree oil and water and dab them with cotton wool. in regards to your partner - my fiancee gave me herpes after i let him give me oral sex while he had a cold sore, it was that simple! so dont feel embarrased or ashamed. hope you feel better soon x please message me if you need support x
Liz1804 Help22
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Thank you. The Doctor i spoke to yesterday is pretty certain my partner has given it to me too. Its so confusing after we've been together for a year, he has zero symptoms and this is only happening now but i was really run down and tired last week so she thinks thats why. We are both going to get blood tests once im up and about again. Last night was the worst for me pain wise and im now on day 8 of the virus and coming on to 72 hours of antivirals. Im praying they kick in soon.