Forever fearful
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Hi ladies, I think the one subject which has obsessed my mind lately is how much I worry about how I won't be able to cope when parents for example pass on in life. On how I could have achieved more in my life and how guilty I feel about any hurt I've caused family members. Does anyone else had these thoughts since the menopause I mean? Donna x
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michelle92591 Donna23316
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Don't know if it's hormones or just getting older. I am constantly worried about staying healthy. I have a disabled son and worry about who will care for him when I'm gone. I worry about being alone. Wish I could calm down,and just enjoy life.
DaisyDaze michelle92591
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I've worried my whole life about things like this. I don't believe it has anything to do with menopause causing it; maybe just makes it worse. I'm well past menopause and I worry about my husband all the time.
It used to be that I worried about my parents passing. Now it's been 20+ years. You get through it. If anything happens to me husband, I will be alone. I fear that.
As far as things said/done in the past - we all have done things like that and there is no need to dwell on that!
nanc00951 Donna23316
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I worry about health, I worry about things being completed.
I worry that I have said the wrong things. It never ends.
I have been on this forum many times, I seem to have all the symptoms menopause brings.
vicky36055 Donna23316
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I'm like that Donna I'm fearful of anything I can't control. I worry about parents getting older my son my husband my health it's constant and all since peri started x
lori93950 Donna23316
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Guest Donna23316
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Absolutely. My dad passed away several years ago, a few months before I was born. My mom lives alone and she is older...and lives a couple hours away...I constantly worry. I have 2 living brothers and , 2 deceased. I have a disabled child and I constantly think about his future. Thank goodness, I have my older child, to take care of him when we pass on. I am happy and grateful for what I’ve achieved thus far. I’ve always been a worry wart 😊
sarah05599 Donna23316
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Yes definitely! I have always been a worrier and it's even worse now. I worry about the future, job/financial security and being homeless also, it's exhausting! 😩
Amalie13 sarah05599
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katyD211 Amalie13
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I know, right? I just bought the current issue of Time magazine...the headline? Mindfulness...
I'm ready to try any and everything to stay present and live in the moment!!
juanita93228 katyD211
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I wish we all (well maybe not all, we'd need a stadium lol) lived closer so we could meet twice a month(or more if needed) and have wine, snacks and talk, talk, talk! They have AA, but what about MA? (Menopause Anonymous). But we wouldn't really be anonymous. We would not only meet, we would educate young women and girls about what to expect during this time in their lives.
I agree about trying to stay in the moment, but it is so hard! I talk to God every night.
katyD211 juanita93228
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Juanita that sounds so good...I wish we could!!Of course since we are from every corner of the world, we certainly would need a stadium!!! But I'm so grateful that you girls are reachable...that's one kudo I will give to social medium!! Today I really needed to hear from you ladies; physically and mentally low today, plus I'm in the midst of a year of a LOT of change- personal, family and work. And then I hear that Aretha passed away...and the memories of the role her music has played in my life..just made for a very, wistful, thoughtful, melancholy type of day. Thanks for posting your thoughts, fears and advice, ladies. Today I really needed it.
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juanita93228 katyD211
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🤗??? Katy! I know I felt so sad when I heard Aretha passed. Another great iconic singer gone. I guess it's sad because, Micheal, Whitney, Prince, David Bowie and now Aretha reminds me of a time in my life when I was carefree and full of hormones.
Chin up Katy, we are here for you!
mauiblue katyD211
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Yep Aretha was the lady who knew how to tell it like it was..
Beautiful soul. We played some of her music this morning when i filled in at work.
This place has been an exception to me too for social media as i dont do much of anything, its too much.
I hope you get rest tonight, and just be with the feelings. No changing or resisting, thats what im doing..just realizing that this is me now, maybe not forever, but its me.
Lots of hugs and understanding going out to you.
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jo67532 Donna23316
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juanita93228 Donna23316
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Worry about everything. But pray about it because the Bible tells us that worry will not add one day to our lives. It shortens it, because it stresses us out. Then I worry about that😂😂😂😂😂
lori93950 juanita93228
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For now we al have to focus on getting stable emotionally .
juanita93228 lori93950
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I read somewhere that 87 percent of the stuff we worry about never happens. Then I think it's the 13 percent that'll get us 😂😂😂😂😂
Which is not true either.
Women are natural born worriers, so we try to cover all the bases and worry about everything 🙄😖😫