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So... I was iffy on doing this but I am desperate. My girlfriend is transgender, (male to female) and she lately has been feeling depressed as well as having thoughts of Suicide... she tells me that she’s been feeling like she hasn’t had any motivation lately, and she feels lost. Last month we broke up for a little bit because her depression was bad, but it also made her realize how she really needs me. She told me she cried during the break up which is something she doesn’t do. We’re back together and I want to help her, She feels constant dysphoria. I do have her moms phone number which I have been messaging her asking to keep an eye on her, but I don’t really tell her exactly of the suicidal thoughts. The mother does know about the thoughts. She’s moving out of her moms over the summer to live with some friends and I’m really hoping that will help brighten her mood. But if it doesn’t I don’t know... she’s going to start transitioning over the summer as well. I’ve gotten really attached to her in possibly a unhealthy way with the break up last month as well as this depressed suicidal thoughts but I can’t help it. The reason is because she had a habit of cheating when she’s in a bad place and I was sorta that turn around for her until her depression got bad again and she had the thoughts of cheating which hurt me a lot which caused the break up. She doesn’t have the thoughts of cheating anymore but it’s left scars. I’m afraid if her negativity is starting to pull me down the mud puddle but I love her so much and I don’t want to give up on helping her.. what do I do? I don’t think it’s gotten that bad, yet at least. She still desires sex, and she’s very loving towards me when I’m with her. She still hangs out with friends and I’ve given her some projects that I know she’s enjoying. I’m jeir afraid if she’s wearing a mask or something. She doesn’t exactly open up a lot to me,, I feel like the most I could do is be there for her and to be happy but at the same time I’m still hurt from what was said over the break up so it’s really hard to be happy around her. I know that’s what she needs though.. she tells me not to worry, but when she says that she’s considering suicide makes my stomach turn and I feel like having a panic attack. I just really want to help her before it gets too bad. What do I do.. she doesn’t want to do therapy or anything like that. She’s considered taking antidepressants but that makes me afraid because those numb you more than feel anything in general. Please help me.
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wayne1962 shay62665
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Hi shay - sorry to read of your dilemma. Has your partner received any counselling or ongoing mental-health assistance re: transitioning? It's such a massive step, and no matter how much we may want something, there will always be hurdles both anticipated and not. Tough change to make in this world. If she is suicidal, she needs hands on assistance and the matter of transitioning at this time may not be beneficial. Anti depressants are a tool and are best used in conjunction with counselling - it might help balance her mood, be more communicative, and help her think more clearly. Don't forget about you - your well being is no less important than hers.