Going to be home alone today... Anxious

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Since my anxiety has gotten worse, I've been uncomfortable staying home by myself and since my mother and sister have to go to work today, I have no choice. Anything I can do to calm down?

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    do some relaxing exercises, take a bath. Watch a programe you enjoy 
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    Crikey Gabbi your young to be suffering from anxiety,what brought it on? Join a gym or do something active,staying at home alone will drive you batty.
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    Hi Gabbi. I hope you are feeling a bit better. I too know what you're feeling with all this anxiety and it being heightened by the fear of being alone. Taking a warm bath or shower will help relax your nerves as will taking a walk. Drinking chamomile tea throughout the day helps me calm down as well. If you can look up breathing exercises do that as well. Most important is to remain calm and breathe. We are all here to help if you need to chat. You will be okay. Stay strong. Xx
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      Yes it has a calming effect. I usually use 2-3 chamomile tea bags per cup of tea. Definitely try it!! Hope you're feeling better. I'm about to do some push-ups myself as told to you in the comments! Xx
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    I feel what you're going through.I've just been on the uni gyms treadmill,just for fifteen minuets,and I'm feeling better in general and I've been really freaking out about stuff recently,and have had anxiety and depression,so I can really understand what your going through.sorry to hear what brought about your anxiety in the first place xXx
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    I've found that short periods of intense exercise work to alleviate tension and actually sort of "forces" a calming effect after the exerecise session. It is also interesting that during the exercise, the mind doesn't have a chance to be worried about anything else other than coping with and managing the physical stress of the exercise due to the damands being placed on the body. As a male, I personally do regulation style "push-ups," which can be much more difficult and in many cases impossible for a female to perform due to a lack of upper body strength. But a female, particularly a young one such as yourself, can almost always do the so-called "girl style of push-ups" where the knees are touching the ground. Those can be hard enough to do especially if you do enough of them; and at some point the female would gain enough strength to perform the regulation style push-ups. I can personally do about 50 non-stop push-ups before I am physically unable to do even one more. However, I've never found where going to this type of extreme is necessary to achieve the desired effect of using intense exercise to force a calming effect on the mind; and for me only about 20 push-ups is sufficient to achieve the effect. For you, the boundry would be different and you would just need to experiment. I don't know why intense exercise causes this calming effect, but I do know that exercise produces a release of hormones that are in part to being healthy in the first place; and exercise also causes a greater flow of oxygen through the blood and the brain, which is always good. if you smoke, then stop, because smoke deprives the brain of oxygen. I quit smoking a year and a half ago after smoking over 40 cigarettes a day for more than 34 years. So you see, I am really quite old compared to you; and in fact I am 53 years old. But right now, I am going to get down on the floor and pump out 20 push-ups. Give it a gry and let me know how you feel afterwards. Sometimes I do 4, 5 or 6 sets of 20 push-ups each over the course of a day or even several hours. Don't be surprised if your muscles end up a little sore at first the next day, but that only means the exercise is WORKING and the soreness will go away as you get stronger. Good luck!
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      Hey, that's great! Sounds like you are making your game plan already...

      Now, another thought I had is that if you choose to try an exercise regimen of "push-ups" particularly, I did have a problem with placing the palms of my hands flat on the floor, because this caused an unnatural twisting effect on my wrists, and THAT SITUATION ended up leading to wrist problems. To avoid this problem of the unnatural twisting effect, I started using two (2) 20-pound dumb bells to wrap my fingers around and that cause the hands to be elevated off the floor by about three inches. Doing this got rid of the wrist problem because my hands were then in a completely natural position.

      I don't know about you, but I will say that when I was a whole lot younger, I used to do a lot of push-ups with my hands flat on the floor and NEVER experienced any wrist problems back then; but the problem NOW is that I am apparently not getting any younger and my bones are just starting to creak a little bit.

      But even if you don't end up having wrist problems in the short term by placing your hands flat on the floor, it doesn't mean that you would not still be creating an adverse amount of stress on your wrists that could lead to problems down the road. If you don't have a couple of "dumb bells" to use like I do, then you can also purchase actual little "push-up handles" that are designed for this same reason; and you can buy those at probably any place that sells exercise equipment. They are a very inexpensive item at between $10 and $20 (USD) for a pair of two.

      Just as a reminder, the important thing I wanted to point out here regarding the benefit of exercise for the purpose of immediately alleviating stress and anxiety is that - for me anyway - the exercise needs to be "intense" even if only for a couple of minutes. In other words, while taking a walk outside would be better than nothing and is a form of exercise, simply walking at a casual pace is definitely NOT an intense form of exercise. So with that being said, I have found where the benefit comes from short bursts of extremely difficult exercise activity, such as with doing push-ups.

      By the way, the other thing you might find helpful is that exposing yourself to "natural direct sunlight" for several minutes, or even being outside on an overcast day will instantly make you feel better than being indoors with no natural sunlight. Again, I don't know what it is about natural sunlight that produces a calming effect for me, but I do know that NO AMOUNT of "artificial light" will work to have this effect. As soon as I step outside, I always feel better than being couped up indoors; and combined with the push-ups and the fact that I am proud to say I'm done with smoking cigarettes, then I am on my way to BATTING 100% these days!

      Take care, my friend!

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