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Hard to relax

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alison91416
alison91416

Is it normal that feel stressy all the time. I find it hard to just relax and do nothing. Just want to hide.......

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  • toffeecushion
    toffeecushion alison91416

    Posted

    I also find it hard to relax.  I feel like I am constantly on edge as if something bad was about to happen
    • maria76995
      maria76995 toffeecushion

      Posted

      I feel like that too sometimes my mind constant in myself if I don't get up and do something..it's so horrible,do you go out.

    • toffeecushion
      toffeecushion maria76995

      Posted

      I do get out but not too far.  I was agoraphobic many years ago and really don't want to be like that again. 

  • samantha_12886
    samantha_12886 alison91416

    Posted

    I too feel like this . Had a good couple of days last week (and it was wonderful)😃 now I'm back to shaking inside and out . So many terrible thoughts it scary . I was premenasaul 8 years ago . I'm finding it unbearable, zero energy, not untested in anything. When people are looking forward to the festive season I'm so anxious feeling I won't be able to cope . On christmas day I have 10 family members for lunch . I'm worried I won't be able to cope .

    When will this end for all of us .

    Sending hugs

    • toffeecushion
      toffeecushion samantha_12886

      Posted

      I feel like I am shaking on the inside as well.  I hate it.  I find it hard to look forward to anything because I think if I do something horrible will happen.  It's as though I am scared to be happy.  I have nothing to worry about at home but even so I am constantly worrying

    • bev66
      bev66 toffeecushion

      Posted

      Omg I too have this and it's very scary. I get the inside shakes and fear everyday. I was putting it down to anxiety after a bad accident but maybe it's both anxiety and perimenapause I'm 51. I really have a good life but I too am scared to be happy in fear of something bad happening. I don't take prescribed drugs but I do take Karl's.

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 toffeecushion

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      toffeecushion, I feel you and I are kindred spirits. That's exactly how I feel!! Like I'm afraid to be happy because something horrible will happen. I just couldn't find the words for it.  I'm trying not to be that way(easier said than done I know) because it holds us back from enjoying life and I truly believe God wants us to enjoy this life he has given us. I'm like you, nothing to worry about, but worry. I have to pray because I have nothing to worry about and I don't want anything to worry about. Lol!

    • toffeecushion
      toffeecushion juanita93228

      Posted

      It's so difficult at times, I feel life is just passing me by.  I want to enjoy it and look forward to things, but find it impossible at times.  Let's hope it passes soon

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 toffeecushion

      Posted

      I make myself go out and try to enjoy myself. Last Sunday and friend and I went to a wonderful Christmas open house at the Governor's Mansion, went to a trendy new coffee shop(I had cocoa, I don't like coffee), and then to a lovely dinner at one of the more popular restaurants in our city. I had a good time, but at the same time that little nagging voice in the back of your mind....... But I just kept on going. Laugh even when you don't feel like it, it's a fake it till you make it kind of thing. Laughing even when you don't feel like it still releases certain endorphins. This weekend we are going to see The Nutcracker and going out dinner at a favorite restaurant of ours. Just keep praying and pushing towards the end of this hell we call menopause!!

    • maria76995
      maria76995 samantha_12886

      Posted

      Hi Samantha, I was reading your post, yes having people around and as much as that could be over welming and scary, what you can do is not think about it that they are coming to visit just let them come and if you feel funny what ever your feeling just get up and take a walk around the house or go out side and take 3 deep breaths ever so often, and just hope they go soon ok, but do try and enjoy bit of it I know it's hard but you will get through it..I'm bit like that but I live on my own and I had terrible trouble mixing with my friends I have push myself a bit when my friend came around the first time I use to keep getting up all the time like I couldn't keep quiet and was glad when she left..I don't know by pushing myself if that made little better for me but not as bad now, I know how you feel hormones messes with our brains to much and we begin to loose or lost ourselves in the process but we will come out of it laughing big hugs 

    • maria76995
      maria76995

      Posted

      Hi sorry this meant for Alison this post that's how my head going Lol my apologies 

    • maria76995
      maria76995 toffeecushion

      Posted

      Yes me too, want to enjoy my life, but with this crap hanging over me how can you..running away from myself well I can't can I..but I'm trying hard to get through it, I'm in the next stage of menopause what ever that is and hoping it wouldn't be too bad as peri 

  • toffeecushion
    toffeecushion alison91416

    Posted

    I'm 51 too.  I don't take anything, that's another thing I am too scared to do lol.  It's not really living is it, at times I feel like we just exist

    • rose00110
      rose00110 toffeecushion

      Posted

      I feel the same way all the time, I really thought it was an exiety problem but after reading all this it could very well be that monster menapause. 
  • monique_93857
    monique_93857 alison91416

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    Ladies at the beginning I felt this way for a long time it does go away in time you ladies are doing great keeping busy was the best thing for me it still peaks at times but I get up and get to moving this one along with the anxiety stomach flutters crawling skin burning tongue was the ones that got on my nerves the most keep your head up ladies there is a light at the end of the tunnel 😅😅😅

    • maria76995
      maria76995 monique_93857

      Posted

      Hi Monique,  thanks for your supporting words I think a lot of us want to hear this that it will go away with time..Anixety is my biggest fear at the moment trying to stop me from sleeping sometimes and feeling hot at night,I'm crossing over to Post Menopause in a few weeks time and all I worry about is if I will get worst I had terrible symptoms early peri couldn't sit down couldn't sleep shaking heart racing couldn't stand up in a shop feel awful..at the moment the dry mouth is driving me mad and every time I walk or do anything I'm hot, can't nap in the day because as soon as I drift off I feel something come over me, I'm praying to God all the time for it to go away some little symptoms I'm not to bothered with but the ones I mention..I'm glad you are better and you have giving me hope. HUGS

    • monique_93857
      monique_93857 maria76995

      Posted

      Yes I know your symptoms all to well I even had spells where I feel like im gonna just fall over feel off balance you can always message me if I've experienced it I will definitely let you know because when I first started I had a million and one question so please feel free as I told the other ladies it's 66 symptoms and I think I've experienced 65 lol

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